JeeperCane
Don Juan
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At 26, I went to a bar down the street for the first time alone last night. I've actually met a large number of my ex's in bars, so I feel comfortable and confident there, but I've never gone alone, which is an entirely new feeling inandof itself. I thought it might be pretty empty, so it would serve as a good warmup, but when I got there, it was actually packed BEYOND a reasonable level. At the point where you can't move, keep getting bumped and have a hard time getting a drink.
Nothing major happened. I was fortunate enough to get a seat at the bar (the only free one). Had two beers, tried to chat up two girls, but nothing major. One didn't want to be talked to and the other kept making eye contact, but then didn't speak English when I approached (it's Miami....what are you gonna do?). Beyond that, to be completely honest (not only with you guys, but with myself) it was just sooo packed you really couldn't get anything done. I stayed for two beers....~an hour.
I just feel self-conscious being "the loner" at the bar, but I think I hide that feeling well. If anyone asked me, I would have told them the truth: I wanted a drink after work and all my close friends are now married. Which is 100% true. I'm at a new job ~2 months and haven't found anyone single there to go out drinking with either.
I hope to have better luck next time. Just being out, by myself in a full bar was a little intimidating to be honest. If I was with just one buddy, it would have made a WORLD of difference, but it was an experiment in putting myself out of my own element, which I think was a good step.
Nothing major happened. I was fortunate enough to get a seat at the bar (the only free one). Had two beers, tried to chat up two girls, but nothing major. One didn't want to be talked to and the other kept making eye contact, but then didn't speak English when I approached (it's Miami....what are you gonna do?). Beyond that, to be completely honest (not only with you guys, but with myself) it was just sooo packed you really couldn't get anything done. I stayed for two beers....~an hour.
I just feel self-conscious being "the loner" at the bar, but I think I hide that feeling well. If anyone asked me, I would have told them the truth: I wanted a drink after work and all my close friends are now married. Which is 100% true. I'm at a new job ~2 months and haven't found anyone single there to go out drinking with either.
I hope to have better luck next time. Just being out, by myself in a full bar was a little intimidating to be honest. If I was with just one buddy, it would have made a WORLD of difference, but it was an experiment in putting myself out of my own element, which I think was a good step.