J. Darko said:
I'm 22. I've already looked for role models. but I can't mimic them. They can get away with things I can't get away with and people respond differently to them.
First example, if I make a joke, nobody is laughing and some people even scold me. But if they make the exact same joke, everyone is laughing. If a person can't take a joke, fvck 'em. Second example, they can walk up to a girl and say ''hey beautiful'' and then they kiss her hand. Girls love it. However, If I do that, girls are like ''Who do you think you are?''
Fist of all, kissing a hand is extremely gay. You shouldn't be doing that anyway. That is all.
It's a catch 22. These guys, these role models, have the status and the women so they can get away with things and gain even more status and women. I don't have status or women so I can't get away with anything and gain no status or women. The rich get richer and the poor get poorer.
These guys you're speaking of have confidence. Especially if they're kissing girls hands (douchebags). Anybody can display confidence. On the inside you can depressed, but it doesn't mean you have to show it to the world.
I have multiple weaknesses when interacting with people in general. For example, I like to play the devil's advocate and I'm a know-it-all. Since I know this, I'm working on keeping my mouth shut and showing understanding, because there's only a handful of people who like devil's advocates and know-it-alls. Smart. Nobody likes the guy who tries to make them feel stupid or inferior. It's good to use on women in small doses, but never a man. Also, it's hard for me to keep a conversation going, but I'm already working on this weakness by being a better listener.
My main weakness when interacting with people in general is that people don't seem to be interested in talking to me. Though nerdy people, people with problems, bullied people, gay people and all kinds of low status people like to bore me to death with endless chit chat about their problems and nerdy things, because I listen to them. One thing I've learned over the years is that people love to talk about themselves. The fact that you're listening to these people and not judging them means a lot. Don't change that.But when I take the initiative in talking to girls and popular people, it seems like I'm the one boring them to death, wether I'm talking or listening. The fact that you're talking about "popular" people makes me think you're young. Popularity doesn't mean sh1t when you get older. At least not in my experience. Anybody can be popular, though. Just do some crazy sh1t that everybody will hear about. Even worse, often I don't have anything to say at all. Me neither. So what? Stop being so hard on yourself.
Sometimes this gets me labeled as ''shy'', even though I'm not shy at all. No problem with talking and taking the initiative, but don't have anything to say and I do not feel welcome or wanted. A random guy walks up to a girl in a club says hi and how are you doing and gets fcked almost instantly. Try not to compare yourself to other people. It only leads to jealousy or vanity. Some people do certain things better than you, some people do them worse. Don't base your self-worth on what other people can or can't do. I walk up to a girl in a club says hi and how are you doing and get short answers and the cold shoulder. I've stopped trying. Keep trying. Never let them get the best of you. You're better than they are. Remember that.I mean, girls never show any interest in me and everytime I take the initiative I get shot down. I'm tired. It doesn't make me stronger, it ony leaves more scar tissue. I'm too good to be shot down and I won't let my ego get crushed ever again.You know what separates the winners from the losers? Persistence. I believe that's a Churchill quote.
There's just something wrong with me and I think I know what it is. I look young, have a friendly face, I'm shorter than average with 5'10'' and I'm build with a narrow bone structure. This means that my body doesn't project masculinity and doesn't demand respect by default. Stop focusing on what you don't have. If you want to big then do it. How about you think about what you do have. You're above average in height. How about that? Coupled with no social status it's a deadly combination. It's a social death warrant. A 40-year-old virgin guarantee. If I'm lucky, I will look more manly in about 10 years, have a good job with a big social network and then girls my age will suddenly fall for me because masculinity and status is all they care about. Love doesn't exist. That's what I think my future will be but by that time, I will be even more cold and bitter than I am now and turn out to be the American Psycho like Christian Bale as Patrick Bateman, a rich investment banker that chases women with a chainsaw.Not if you have peace of mind. Focus on you're strengths, improve your weaknesses. Take pride in your achievements. If there is one thing you need to do, it's to become comfortable with who you are as a person.
You're too negative. Do you think success with women is going to bring you happiness? Think again. They bring drama, hurt and frustration. Does that mean you shouldn't enjoy them for what they're worth? Of course not. This applies to all aspects of life; enjoy it for what it's worth. Focus on the good rather than the bad. Nobody likes a negative person.
Another thing, don't start planning on 10 years from now. That's the worst thing you can do. When people do that, they forget about the present. They don't try to be the best they can be NOW, because their future is gonna be so great. Don't get me wrong, it's good to have something to look forward to, but that doesn't mean that you should give up on the present. You should think about what you have to accomplish TODAY. This applies to working out as well - don't think about the big picture, think about you're current workout. Think about how it's only gonna take an hour out of your day. What would you do in that hour if you didn't work out? Probably jack off and watch tv. It's only an hour.
I exercise everyday and I'm cutting gluten or diary. They are my life source. I eat at least 2 pieces of fruit every day. I stop drinking water hours before bedtime, but keep waking up to pee. It must be stress.Or something medical...maybe you should see a doctor rather than listening to a bunch of sosuavers. You might have an enlarged prostate or some sh1t.