There are many reasons why rejection takes place (looks, age, height, weight, income, laziness, slang, profanity, hostility, neglect, addictions, boredom, trying too hard, stds, tattoos, health issues, waited too long, etc).
The mere thought of rejection can affect a person’s game, attitude and in some cases even immobilize some people when it comes to approaching, both virtually and infield. Even the most savvy of social artists has or will encounter some level of rejection. Recovery will be a fundamental component when dealing with rejection. In most cases it’s best to move on rather than to expend time, energy, and money chasing or analyzing someone who does not want to be with you. Let us take a closer look at some various forms of rejection:
RESISTANCE-this is more reluctance, not sure, indecisive, hesitation. You should try to re-assure them, build more rapport, and gain their confidence. Note-pushing too hard, being too aggressive, trying harder, etc may result in flat out rejection. Basically translates to hostility, annoyance, and ending up at total avoidance. Most people encounter some level of resistance when interacting with a complete stranger.
SHUT DOWN-just no attraction to you physically, they may be used to certain types and you just ain’t it. They may say it up front without hesitation or incorporate some variation of politeness ……“well it was nice meeting you……but”. All depends on the type of chic........bad girls/party gals tell you upfront,nice girls opt to email you.
NO REPLY-this is where they desire to avoid any confrontation, so they opt out for the no contact way of telling you no. You basically send them a message (text, I.M, email, voicemail, etc) and they respond by giving you the silent treatment, phone rings 50 times, they are never home. Some people try and try again hoping to reach them and this usually results in further avoidance. Online it’s read & deleted or worse unread & deleted, on the phone its no callbacks, in person its avoidance. You had a great first date or so you thought and now silence? This is a case of actions speak volumes towards their attraction towards you. Silence or the unknown drives some people nuts.
BLOCKED-this is where the person you contacted wants absolutely nothing to do with you. They block your emails, screen your calls, elicit a third party to get rid of you and may even get a personal protection order against you. Usually triggered by something you may have said, did, reside, look like, etc
EXCUSES-no matter when you call, talk with them they always seem to be busy, have an excuse, another priority, working late, etc, etc. Make no mistake its rejection. Actions speak volumes as to a person’s true intentions.
MOVED ON-you had your time with them and may have telegraphed future interest in seeing them again, but they are back online trolling, you might see them on a date, hanging, kissing, hugging, flirting or having sex with someone other than you. They make a You-tube video informing you to get bent. Back in the day it was the dreaded “DEAR JOHN LETTER”. In most cases they are attempting to find someone new or make you jealous.
NO SHOW-this is the classic stood you up, cancelled at the last minute via phone/text/email, just left you hanging. Sometimes (though rare) they just forgot, others its no interest, buyers remorse, better offer, etc.
8) MALFUNCTION-the site might be down, the web-site may have blocked you, you forgot her address, cell-phone died, had an emergency couldn’t call. Hey stuff happens but many people will view this as a form of rejection and take it personal. With competition being stiff, one slip is all it takes with certain individuals to move on.
* if it's you that is doing the rejecting.....pay close attention on how the individual handles rejection.......speaks volumes about their character, maturity level, etc.
The mere thought of rejection can affect a person’s game, attitude and in some cases even immobilize some people when it comes to approaching, both virtually and infield. Even the most savvy of social artists has or will encounter some level of rejection. Recovery will be a fundamental component when dealing with rejection. In most cases it’s best to move on rather than to expend time, energy, and money chasing or analyzing someone who does not want to be with you. Let us take a closer look at some various forms of rejection:
RESISTANCE-this is more reluctance, not sure, indecisive, hesitation. You should try to re-assure them, build more rapport, and gain their confidence. Note-pushing too hard, being too aggressive, trying harder, etc may result in flat out rejection. Basically translates to hostility, annoyance, and ending up at total avoidance. Most people encounter some level of resistance when interacting with a complete stranger.
SHUT DOWN-just no attraction to you physically, they may be used to certain types and you just ain’t it. They may say it up front without hesitation or incorporate some variation of politeness ……“well it was nice meeting you……but”. All depends on the type of chic........bad girls/party gals tell you upfront,nice girls opt to email you.
NO REPLY-this is where they desire to avoid any confrontation, so they opt out for the no contact way of telling you no. You basically send them a message (text, I.M, email, voicemail, etc) and they respond by giving you the silent treatment, phone rings 50 times, they are never home. Some people try and try again hoping to reach them and this usually results in further avoidance. Online it’s read & deleted or worse unread & deleted, on the phone its no callbacks, in person its avoidance. You had a great first date or so you thought and now silence? This is a case of actions speak volumes towards their attraction towards you. Silence or the unknown drives some people nuts.
BLOCKED-this is where the person you contacted wants absolutely nothing to do with you. They block your emails, screen your calls, elicit a third party to get rid of you and may even get a personal protection order against you. Usually triggered by something you may have said, did, reside, look like, etc
EXCUSES-no matter when you call, talk with them they always seem to be busy, have an excuse, another priority, working late, etc, etc. Make no mistake its rejection. Actions speak volumes as to a person’s true intentions.
MOVED ON-you had your time with them and may have telegraphed future interest in seeing them again, but they are back online trolling, you might see them on a date, hanging, kissing, hugging, flirting or having sex with someone other than you. They make a You-tube video informing you to get bent. Back in the day it was the dreaded “DEAR JOHN LETTER”. In most cases they are attempting to find someone new or make you jealous.
NO SHOW-this is the classic stood you up, cancelled at the last minute via phone/text/email, just left you hanging. Sometimes (though rare) they just forgot, others its no interest, buyers remorse, better offer, etc.
8) MALFUNCTION-the site might be down, the web-site may have blocked you, you forgot her address, cell-phone died, had an emergency couldn’t call. Hey stuff happens but many people will view this as a form of rejection and take it personal. With competition being stiff, one slip is all it takes with certain individuals to move on.
* if it's you that is doing the rejecting.....pay close attention on how the individual handles rejection.......speaks volumes about their character, maturity level, etc.
Seems like it takes less time to get over being rejected unless you already formed a connection and had sex several times with them.If you dont have anything invested you really havent lost anything besides minutes on your phone and what little time it took you to dial her number
