Colossus said:
Check out the bolded lines.
I dont know your girl or your situation, but just based on the limited info you have given us, I cant see good things in your future with this girl.
Take it from me man, you do NOT want to toil through a relationship with a difficult, controlling woman. I have been with women who challenged almost every single decision I made, and it does not get better. Some guys will say you aren't "alpha" enough, which may or may not be true, but in my experience there are just certain women who will fight you tooth and nail to get their way or have the last word. It's just in their behavioral DNA.
It's far better to leave them and look for more submissive, flexible women, than to create this war of attrition scenario where you run yourselves ragged. Wait until your living situation is more stable though, don't shoot yourself in the foot.
I accept that its just in her behavioral DNA to fight for power and then when she got the power, she felt insecure and eventually I regained it. As the relationship started I had the power and lost it to her, on and off for some months and then I gained it ALL back and she was on her best behavior until now trying this engagement crap.
I also think she battles for power and not as submissive because she naturally has a better sense of things to do than I do, she mostly has better ideas for places to eat and destinations t go out and I believe she has better experience in going out to places than me, so this I have to accept that fact when its time to go out she usually suggests the scenario and it ends up turning out good. I also take her to good exciting places but she wins hands down for creativity and better outing ideas, so that makes her not as submissive.
like most women she has her social life and friends with her interests and enjoys going places . blah blah blah
I'm no saint but I treat and do right by her.Yes, she has her own mind and plans and is not totally a submissive type.
Just like you mentioned I want to spin plates and meet other women, and become friends with other women and bring them to the house and go out with them and have a good female network, however she gets very jealous when females are involved yet she has a quite large male friend network??
I also see she loves male friend attention, but I know I'm her best option(hypergamy)
I feel, I deserve better, don't get me wrong she is a good woman at times, buys me gifts and stuff but she likes male attention a lot.
I don't want marriage unless she changes big time! I want a large female network of friends so that we can have a joke and do friend stuff.
I dare not mention this to her because she is very insecure and will accuse me of cheating once I start talking to them. She is afraid that some other woman will steal me from her if I get the female network of friends.
