Desdinova
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This was my last thread where I broke up with a chick I was seeing:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=213602
It's been difficult getting over that one. She was pretty damn hot. She wanted to try and work it out, and I stupidly went for it. Of course, it didn't and she got herself into a LTR five days later with a guy she's known for 8 years. That hurts a bit, but I'll get over it.
Some of the people who commented in that thread mentioned that I may have pulled the trigger a bit quick on it. This has been a problem ever since I kicked my ex-wife out of my house, and here it was to haunt me again. I've been trying to figure out why I've been like this for the last 4 years. I used to think things through before pulling the trigger, but now I get these emotional surges and I act on them. Not a good thing!
I thought about my marriage and how the bytch was never home during those 6 years. I was lonely as hell while married. So this time, I REALLY started thinking about it, and wondered if I had abandonment issues. I did a search, and came up with experiences that mirrored exactly how I terminated this last relationship.
So I went to a counselling session and I did more searching. I eventually came across a book called "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing" by Susan Anderson. Guys, if you go through a lot of emotional 5hit while in your LTRs or after you end them, you NEED this fvcking book. It goes into detail about how the brain works, and how emotional memories get stored differently from visual memories. It also gives you exercises to do to fix all the abandonment 5hit from your past and present. This damn book is putting me outside my comfort zone. I haven't had a book do that since I found the DJ Bible. I'm still reading it, and it's been slow but good thus far.
Now onto my current situation. I have two women in my life. One has been pursuing me for months. She's ugly as fvck, but offered to give me a massage, so I'm gonna let her do that on Friday. I've been on the fence about fvcking her and throwing her away. We'll see.
The other woman I met the day after my last gf quit contacting me. Met her at the bar, and we had a blast! She's 24, has a great body, and we click amazingly. The problem is her face. He's not hideous, but she's not cute either. A little bit of makeup wouldn't kill her if she even bothered applying it! I'm going out with her after I type this 5hit up. Might just end up throwing that one back in the sea too.
I've been thinking about the kind of stuff I want in a companion, and I think I may end up doing some church sarging in May. I don't believe in God, but I agree with what the Bible says about women. If I can find a woman who was raised religiously but wanting to get out, that would be ideal for me. I had one GF like that over a year ago, and it was a great LTR. Unfortunately, her family got involved in breaking us up.
So that's where I'm sitting right now. Any thoughts? Suggestions? Criticism? Bring it on!
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=213602
It's been difficult getting over that one. She was pretty damn hot. She wanted to try and work it out, and I stupidly went for it. Of course, it didn't and she got herself into a LTR five days later with a guy she's known for 8 years. That hurts a bit, but I'll get over it.
Some of the people who commented in that thread mentioned that I may have pulled the trigger a bit quick on it. This has been a problem ever since I kicked my ex-wife out of my house, and here it was to haunt me again. I've been trying to figure out why I've been like this for the last 4 years. I used to think things through before pulling the trigger, but now I get these emotional surges and I act on them. Not a good thing!
I thought about my marriage and how the bytch was never home during those 6 years. I was lonely as hell while married. So this time, I REALLY started thinking about it, and wondered if I had abandonment issues. I did a search, and came up with experiences that mirrored exactly how I terminated this last relationship.
So I went to a counselling session and I did more searching. I eventually came across a book called "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing" by Susan Anderson. Guys, if you go through a lot of emotional 5hit while in your LTRs or after you end them, you NEED this fvcking book. It goes into detail about how the brain works, and how emotional memories get stored differently from visual memories. It also gives you exercises to do to fix all the abandonment 5hit from your past and present. This damn book is putting me outside my comfort zone. I haven't had a book do that since I found the DJ Bible. I'm still reading it, and it's been slow but good thus far.
Now onto my current situation. I have two women in my life. One has been pursuing me for months. She's ugly as fvck, but offered to give me a massage, so I'm gonna let her do that on Friday. I've been on the fence about fvcking her and throwing her away. We'll see.
The other woman I met the day after my last gf quit contacting me. Met her at the bar, and we had a blast! She's 24, has a great body, and we click amazingly. The problem is her face. He's not hideous, but she's not cute either. A little bit of makeup wouldn't kill her if she even bothered applying it! I'm going out with her after I type this 5hit up. Might just end up throwing that one back in the sea too.
I've been thinking about the kind of stuff I want in a companion, and I think I may end up doing some church sarging in May. I don't believe in God, but I agree with what the Bible says about women. If I can find a woman who was raised religiously but wanting to get out, that would be ideal for me. I had one GF like that over a year ago, and it was a great LTR. Unfortunately, her family got involved in breaking us up.
So that's where I'm sitting right now. Any thoughts? Suggestions? Criticism? Bring it on!