UPDATE on older thread. HELP!!!

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This isan update from this thread.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=146203

I've been feeling really bad about this whole deal so today bein fathers day I decide to drive over to her house and she if she wants to talk. Big mistake!! I walk up to the door and her house is pretty exsposed and she's sucking some dude on the couch!!

Well I about lost it. Walked away un announced and came home and am so fvcking depressed I dont know what to do. Two weeks ago this chick was in love with me! I know I've gone against about every rule here but I'm fvcked. I just took two sleeping pills and sent her a text. It reads this:

"You know I've had about the worst fathers day ever,...which I have cause I didnt get to see my little girl,.. and I decided to get up the courage to come by tonight and see if you wanted to talk and I c u suckin some dudes d!ck on the couch. You are unfvckin believable. One branch to another. Your a fvckin wh0re and I cant believe i was in love with you. And you called all my friends skanks. LOL! I hope his d!ck tasted as good as mine. U just made this real easy on me. Fvck you"

I feel lke a ton of weight has been lifted off my head but at the moment its almost too much to handle. I just can't believe this mask of innocent and trust worthy this chick put up!

Fvck me. This had done it for me. I'l never trust another b!tch again. I know right now I think this but I'm lower than dirt right now trying to claw back out. I just dont know what to do. Maybe I'm fvcked up in the head? Jesus christ somebody please help
 

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You knew up front this chick was a cheater and you still expected loyalty.

This is your fault dude and you've got to own your own behavior here.

Anyway though you are in a bad way now so you have my sympathies but yeah if healthy relationships are your goal listen carefully the next time you get with a chick and if she mentions cheating on her man in any form or gives you the woe is me speech about a man cheating on her you move your ass on to someone else. No questioning, no second guessing, you are out.

Only even begin to think about trusting a chick who has treated men in her past gently and she will let you know all about her in the casual conversation during the beginning of your interactions with her.

A chick that talks about things just not working out with one man or she says we mutually decided to end it because we became two different people over time, these are the kinds of women who are decent for relationships because if you notice they don't overly blame the man indicating their man hate for the relationships failure. They subtley acknowledge their role in the relationship's end and have accepted that and are now moving forward.

Move forward in a similar way by getting with women like this and not the type covered in tattooes, nose rings who have an ex boyfriend thats now in prison for gang related murder or the wild chick you met at the bar who can outdrink the boys and whose favorite pastime is partying at various places all week long. Stop going for these psychos, these excitement producing drama queens.

Break your addiction to drama and excitement dude and you will find the peaceful relationship you are looking for.
 

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WOW!

That's about as bad as it gets. KontrollerX has pretty much covered the bases how to feel about this.

The only thing I would add is to keep your distance. Fight EVERY urge you have to want to call her, scream at her, and let her know that you know the things she did behind your back. Just let it go. Be glad you didn't marry this chick and end up divorcing her, losing your pride and half your bank account.

DON'T CALL HER!

The text message will be enough. Breath, let it go, and move on brotha.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Anyway though you are in a bad way now so you have my sympathies but yeah if healthy relationships are your goal listen carefully the next time you get with a chick and if she mentions cheating on her man in any form or gives you the woe is me speech about a man cheating on her you move your ass on to someone else. No questioning, no second guessing, you are out.

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Excellent, goldplated, award winning advice.
 

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KontrollerX said:
A chick that talks about things just not working out with one man or she says we mutually decided to end it because we became two different people over time, these are the kinds of women who are decent for relationships because if you notice they don't overly blame the man indicating their man hate for the relationships failure. They subtley acknowledge their role in the relationship's end and have accepted that and are now moving forward.
More golden advice deserving of the Grand Award for Wisdom.
 

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Thanks guys for your insight. I am still in shock about what i saw last night and I feel stupid for believing this girl. The effort I put into this relationship and the money from all the trips we took has been a total waste. Hopefully I will be a smarter man next time. Right now I'm doin everything I can just to make it thru the day.

thanks again for your support
 

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Look PTC, I know this site is about men supporting men but sometimes if you fvck up, then you need a kick to the ass.

I don't see anything wrong with what the woman did to you PTC.

The moment you decided to make her your LTR you pretty much knew what you were getting. This chick with kids who cheated on her husband was not a girlfriend material (a good fvck material more like it) yet you decided to stick by her and accept her faults and hope for the best. You can't make a ho' into a housewife but that is exectly what you tried to do.

Now you were the one that broke up with her, so given that she didn't have d1ck for a week she was bound to call one of her "male friends" (aka booty call) and have fun. Everything from point A to point B was predictable with this woman yet you choose to ignore it.

PTC said:
. I just took two sleeping pills and sent her a text. It reads this:

"You know I've had about the worst fathers day ever,...which I have cause I didnt get to see my little girl,.. and I decided to get up the courage to come by tonight and see if you wanted to talk and I c u suckin some dudes d!ck on the couch. You are unfvckin believable. One branch to another. Your a fvckin wh0re and I cant believe i was in love with you. And you called all my friends skanks. LOL! I hope his d!ck tasted as good as mine. U just made this real easy on me. Fvck you"

I feel lke a ton of weight has been lifted off my head but at the moment its almost too much to handle.
That text message was weak. You broke up with her yet you went back on your own words and due to your own weakness attempted to get her back. You snuck up to the house and saw her blowing another guy and you placed your own tail between your legs and took off with your head down. Then you send her a long ass angry text message calling her names after you broke up with her!! read it again "AFTER YOU BROKE UP WITH HER". After you broke up with her, she can move on with her life and do whatever the fvck she wants to do or fvck whomever the fvck she wants, that is why I don't get it.

Just hope that b1tch won't use the text message as ammo (when b1tches get mad they could get nasty) and tell the cops that you are her stalking ex boyfriend who watched her have sex in her own house and now is sending threatining text messages defaming her character.

Never respond to someone when you are emotional and you aren't thinking stright because that can come back and bite you in the ass.
 

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dude at this point stay away. sorry man but you were so far out of bounds to text her that if i were you i would just keep my fingers crossed that YOUR text was the very end of things. i would go as so far as to say that if you go out socially on your own, DO NOT go to places you know she will be there. AVOID them or she will think you are stalking her. just my thoughts...oh and take it easy everyone messes up. being perfect would be boring. learn and move forward.
 

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dude at this point stay away. sorry man but you were so far out of bounds to text her that if i were you i would just keep my fingers crossed that YOUR text was the very end of things. i would go as so far as to say that if you go out socially on your own, DO NOT go to places you know she will be there. AVOID them or she will think you are stalking her. just my thoughts...oh and take it easy everyone messes up. being perfect would be boring. learn and move forward.
 

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DJDamage,

I understand where you are coming from,..I do. And it's not like I snuck up and peeked in her windows. I pulled up in front of her house, headlights on closed the door and walked up to the door. But there are windows all across the front of her house and you could see right in before i even got to the door.
But going one week from telling you that she wants to spend the rest of her life with you and telling you how much she loved you to seeing her blowing some dude on the couch where we used to hang out is a little tough to handle, I don't care who you are.

She's just trash in my eyes now,...nothing less.
 

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yeah it is tough to handle...just handle it AWAY from her with NO CONTACT with her. like i said we have all been there bro, no shame in that. just keep yourself straight by staying away from her. it aint nothing a good two week bender cant fix right?
 

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What happened here?? You ended things with her b/c you knew she wasn't trustworthy. Now you're flipping out at her for hooking up with other dudes?? It's as if you staged this whole thing just to feed your drama addiction.

She did nothing wrong by hooking up with someone else. She's single. You already KNEW she was low quality so you dumped her. You have no reason to be in her life at this point in time, let alone dropping by unannounced.

That text message was WAY out of line. I really hope she doesn't go to the police and get a restraining order on you.

It's ALWAYS bad for business when you get all emotional and insult women. Even if she had CHEATED on you (which she didn't, but given her past, probably would), you can calmly tell her that she blew it and then cut off all contact. By calling her a "wh0re" you aren't really punishing her so much as you are making yourself look like a psycho.

Delete her number NOW, before you slip up and send her more texts. If she confronts you about it, you really need to apologize. It's not AFC to apologize when you're clearly being an a$$hole.

Don't date any more cheaters!!
 

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Dear PTC,
Bad luck,this lady is not a keeper is she?but you had a lot of fun with her and until you wrote that letter you had a possible someone to take comfort from when things go wrong in the future,a cracked plate but still useful....Learn from this fool,in the past,I have gone off the rails and enjoyed letting off steam too....these days I reflect on the real reason I am cranky and what if anything I can retrieve from any situation...Relationships are such a heavy investment in terms of emotions,money and time,its a real shame to see it all washed down the drain like babies bath water....
 

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Scaramouche said:
Dear PTC,
Bad luck,this lady is not a keeper is she?but you had a lot of fun with her and until you wrote that letter you had a possible someone to take comfort from when things go wrong in the future,a cracked plate but still useful....Learn from this fool,in the past,I have gone off the rails and enjoyed letting off steam too....these days I reflect on the real reason I am cranky and what if anything I can retrieve from any situation...Relationships are such a heavy investment in terms of emotions,money and time,its a real shame to see it all washed down the drain like babies bath water....
I understand what you are saying but I do have cracked plates around but this one I would rather not have back. Yeah I'm crushed right now but and I had tried to be nice to her but yhis girl takes pleasure in knowing that there is always another limb to swing to. I just want her out of my life and my litle girls. She is trash. I talked to her ex husband today and he even told me what I already knew. He caught her more than once cheating on him and she sucked him dry too. He told me " I know what your talking about PTC, (that girl) is hard to get away from. He took her back 3 times before he finally realized what kind of life sucking ho she was!!

So,...no thanks
 

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Jeffst1980 said:
What happened here?? You ended things with her b/c you knew she wasn't trustworthy. Now you're flipping out at her for hooking up with other dudes?? It's as if you staged this whole thing just to feed your drama addiction.

She did nothing wrong by hooking up with someone else. She's single. You already KNEW she was low quality so you dumped her. You have no reason to be in her life at this point in time, let alone dropping by unannounced.

That text message was WAY out of line. I really hope she doesn't go to the police and get a restraining order on you.

It's ALWAYS bad for business when you get all emotional and insult women. Even if she had CHEATED on you (which she didn't, but given her past, probably would), you can calmly tell her that she blew it and then cut off all contact. By calling her a "wh0re" you aren't really punishing her so much as you are making yourself look like a psycho.

Delete her number NOW, before you slip up and send her more texts. If she confronts you about it, you really need to apologize. It's not AFC to apologize when you're clearly being an a$$hole.

Don't date any more cheaters!!

Believe me I tried the nice routine. I don't like burning bridges but this chick deserved everthing I told her. She pulls you in until she knows she has you then when the excitment runs out she looks elsewhere. She was a two faced liar. The guy she was banging last night she had been talking to the last month we had been going out,...the whole time she was telling me she loved me. I found out his name today(small town with mutual friends). It was right in front of my eyes. This chick is evil and I'm not going to apologize after what i saw. And I doubt you would too.
 

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FUK THAT BICH BRO!! She is trash and she only seeks instant gratifacation in life.. Play some Phil Collins music for the weekend and cry your ****ing eyes out. After that pick yourself up and devote some of that attention you were giving her into becoming a better father because if you dont your little girl could end up like the coksucker.
 

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Her mom called me yesterday. She really liked me. She thought for once her daughter had found somebody nice. She apoligized for her daughter and told me that she has problems and that she has treid to help her and give her advice but she(her daughter) won't listen. She told me herself that she didn't even trust her own daughter cause she knows how much she lies to her. I told her about going over there that night and seeing that and that I was thru with her.

It was a good conversation we had and we talked for about 45 minutes.

I still am having a hard time dealing with this but I know it will pass and I'll be back on my way. I'm taking my little girl to Florida for about 5 days to spend some quality time with her and try and get that b!tch outta my head.

Thanks again for your replies. I'm glad this forum is here. Even tho some of the replies are a bit harsh sometimes,...it really helps.
 
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