A good relationship, if you ask me about it? A man following his life purpose everyday, with passion + a woman that has her own interests, but does not confuse their importancy and is there to support her man.
I concur. The main lie of feminism is denial of the female desire for procreation and family. And the secondary lie that women do not "NEED" a man. Now in a factual sense a woman may not NEED a man in modern society. But most women (if they are emotionally healthy) certainly WANT one. It is the denial of this desire that is the problem.
I find women with successful careers leverage their success to marry up for even wealthier status (real or perceived). If the man's career takes a tumble, she's less likely to stick around and will re-open her options for branch swinging to a better prospect.
Ergo, if her wealth status is high, the man has to be just as high or better and be able to maintain that status to keep her hooked. This is the pressure cooker for guys who wealth or success doesn't come easy or is difficult to maintain. I think the women who are the breadearners wear the pants and may use that power to control and manipulate the significant other to get what she wants.
I think that in her eyes that's probably fine for a time, yet she gets bored of having all the power and may stray for a challenge that she finds worthy of her.
Interested to see what other DJs thoughts/feedback on this phenomena.
I wanted to comment on this
@resilient since I have been in such a situation.
So long as a man remains masculine in the relationship it is possible to lead a woman who has experienced greater success financially than he has. The problem is that is takes a man with extremely solid inner game to be able to hold frame in such a situation.
I do know of a couple of marriages where this is the case. The one that comes immediately to mind is a colleague of mine who makes a six figure income in my same field who is married to a woman for 25 years who has risen to be a mergers and acquisitions specialist who makes twice to thrice what he makes. At the outset of the marriage he was the higher earner. Now she is. He still unequivocally wears the pants in that relationship and they are very happy together.
In my own marriage things fell apart due to my ex husband's ABDICATION of the male role, the leadership role in the marriage. My story is elsewhere on SS so no need to rehash. No woman like me is going to stand by and watch her whole life fall apart because her husband decides he wants to quit on himself. Rather she is going to stand in the gap and hold things together if she can. And the fact that in so doing she has to assume the leadership role, the masculine role in the relationship is what rots it from the inside out. And THIS is what builds the resentment. In my marriage the issue was laziness...I have a girlfriend where the issue was alcoholism on the part of her ex husband. She divorced the alcoholism much like I divorced the laziness.
A woman like myself is going to look for a more successful man to go out with. It's not in my case about moving up socially or any of that. It's that a man who is himself successful has learned how to be a successful person with all the skill sets and thinking that comes with building success, it is less the success itself. Material success is merely the outward expression of internal development and self actualization. It's evidence if you will. Much like my success indicates that I am a self sufficient woman who doesn't need financial support (which many men are understandably loathe to give, especially if they had a nasty experience in family court.) By the same token I have no desire to be a sugar mama for a man (and trust me there are smooth talking playboys out there who are absolutely looking for this sort of arrangement.)
