It has been an interesting couple of years for me.. Taking steps to turn it around, quite difficult though.
What happened. Moved to a new city with my wife for a new job 2 years ago. Didn't know anyone here. Suddenly started losing my sex drive and started having ED issues. Wife started getting frustrated with me and one day I accidentally saw her kissing another man in a shopping center. I called off the relationship and sent a formal mail intending to divorce. I had good intentions, since I had ED issues and she managed to find love somewhere else, I thought she will be happier. Wife is an immigrant and turns out her visa got cancelled. She went to court citing attempted rape (haha see the irony) and extreme physical assault to get an interim violence order. I didn't know wtf was happening.. Turns out, if she gets a final violence order issues, she will get immediate permanent residence and stay with her new lover.. She started showing up at places wither her new partner, around my gym, my work provoking me to breach my interim order. I didn't held my nerve. On the day of the final court hearing day, just minutes before, she withdrew the case and walked away.. I spend over half my savings on defending the case. My ED continued but I had bigger emotional, financial issues. 3 months ago, I started losing my eyesight. I was diagnosed with an advanced stage of brain tumour, on my pituitary gland, which resulted in very low testosterone. By God's grace it was successfully removed. I am ok for now, I guess.
So here I am, divorced, lost almost all my savings, in a new city with no friends.. To make things worse, I am not that good looking, Indian ethnicity, dark skinned (big thing in my culture), low caste (again, another big thing in my culture)..
Taking some steps to turn it all around.
- Started working on my fitness. Started doing a bootcamp on weekend mornings and going to gym regularly.
- In all this mayhem, I got admitted to the top business school in the country. I am deciding whether to do it part time or go back to school and do it full time. I want to start my own business
I am trying to make new male friends in the new city which is proving to be very difficult. Any ideas?
What happened. Moved to a new city with my wife for a new job 2 years ago. Didn't know anyone here. Suddenly started losing my sex drive and started having ED issues. Wife started getting frustrated with me and one day I accidentally saw her kissing another man in a shopping center. I called off the relationship and sent a formal mail intending to divorce. I had good intentions, since I had ED issues and she managed to find love somewhere else, I thought she will be happier. Wife is an immigrant and turns out her visa got cancelled. She went to court citing attempted rape (haha see the irony) and extreme physical assault to get an interim violence order. I didn't know wtf was happening.. Turns out, if she gets a final violence order issues, she will get immediate permanent residence and stay with her new lover.. She started showing up at places wither her new partner, around my gym, my work provoking me to breach my interim order. I didn't held my nerve. On the day of the final court hearing day, just minutes before, she withdrew the case and walked away.. I spend over half my savings on defending the case. My ED continued but I had bigger emotional, financial issues. 3 months ago, I started losing my eyesight. I was diagnosed with an advanced stage of brain tumour, on my pituitary gland, which resulted in very low testosterone. By God's grace it was successfully removed. I am ok for now, I guess.
So here I am, divorced, lost almost all my savings, in a new city with no friends.. To make things worse, I am not that good looking, Indian ethnicity, dark skinned (big thing in my culture), low caste (again, another big thing in my culture)..
Taking some steps to turn it all around.
- Started working on my fitness. Started doing a bootcamp on weekend mornings and going to gym regularly.
- In all this mayhem, I got admitted to the top business school in the country. I am deciding whether to do it part time or go back to school and do it full time. I want to start my own business
I am trying to make new male friends in the new city which is proving to be very difficult. Any ideas?