Hi guys
I’m looking for some ideas. My ex and I broke up 8 month ago. In fact she broke up with me or wasn’t me the one writing in this forum. In those months at first I tried to get back together and solve our problems. I think I messed up all the chances I really had to get back together again. For every step I did, I realize I really was doing things to put her far away of me. I tried to move on. I was dating with 4 good looking woman, the last one was a 9, but nothing make me really connect with those chicks. I’m still in love with my old girlfriend. In the three years we were together I always felt from the beginning that she was the one. She is a very sweet person, loyal, a truly classy lady, and she is very beautiful, no matter she is two years older than me, she is 35 but looks much better than a 25 years old good looking woman. I’m not in love of her body, I’m just in love of her, I really don’t care if she maybe will look older than me in a couple of years, or if she gets fat. She is one of the uncommon decent women out there who are honest, sincere and have integrity, and at the same time she’s a tigress in bed with her man. She’s still a woman, love to go shopping but really don’t care how much money you have in your pocket. Being together I had wealthy moments and low income ones too, and always she was by my side. In those month everywhere I look there is nothing but lying, cheating, and manipulative b!tches, and nice woman that I don’t really care and I can’t connect with even if I try … and I’m not sure how nice and honest they really are. I must say that in those 8 months my ex only dated me, she wasn’t and is not seeing anyone and furthermore she is not having a life, sometimes looks sad, and is always at home with her mom, who is the b!tch of this story. Never approved me, maybe I’m not hansom enough for her daughter or I don’t have enough money, or prefer jerks, I don’t know, but I really know she helped as much as she can to ruin things every time she could.
My ex and I work at the same office. We still lunch together and walk home together some part of the way wich is the same for us. She knows I’m really inlove with me, and the reasons she gave me was that she doesn’t feel the same, that there is no passion between us anymore. She said to me that she knows the kind of men she is loosing but she doesn’t feel the same, but if she feels she really need me, she will find me no matter if I’m alone or in a relationship. She noticed the last girlfriend I had, and ask me. I said the truth, that I was having a girlfriend. She said nothing but got extremely sad in the next days, was like asking to get back together just with her eyes, sometimes silently cried, I noticed for her eyes. Some other times she asked how I was doing, and when I started looking worried because I realize I really doesn’t want to be with my girlfriend, she noticed and ask if I have some problem and if she could help. Finally my relationship ended and I really don’t care. The truth is that I could’t stop thinking In my true love. Sometimes she ask if I’m seeing someone, or what I did the weekend or what I plan to do on Saturday night. Why? I just don’t know.
After that we date sometimes, and everything goes fine, I make some hands touching and she allows me to do that, she smile and behave like always. It’s like being friends but a couple steps beyond. (we were a couple, but were friends too, which is essential in a long term relationship) Sometimes I touch her in a way she admit be touched only by her boyfriend. Sometimes I grab her and steal a kiss sometimes with a little protest sometimes she smile and say that I’m audacious. Sometimes we get together to my home and make love, it’s not sex, everybody being in love knows the difference. Some times when she go to my office I huge her, and ask for a kiss. Sometimes she kindly argue the reasons for not doing that (we are not together) and sometimes just smile and kisses me. She stills call me honey, or baby 80 % of the times she talks with me at the office. I’ve set clearly that I’m not interested in being her friend, that’s why I tried to keep kissing, hugging and touching further frontiers.
I think our problem is lack of attraction and passion, but somewhere there are some little fire in the ashes. Some how I stop looking attractive to her and I don’t know how to make those steps back. Some how we loose the passion in the way, and I don’t know how to restore that and get back together. These is the first time in my life I’m completely faithful to a woman while we had been together, and the first time I feel a woman it’s a part of my life just like if we lived one life together.
I wish to hear your opinions, ideas or whatever, and I’ll be very grateful.
David
I’m looking for some ideas. My ex and I broke up 8 month ago. In fact she broke up with me or wasn’t me the one writing in this forum. In those months at first I tried to get back together and solve our problems. I think I messed up all the chances I really had to get back together again. For every step I did, I realize I really was doing things to put her far away of me. I tried to move on. I was dating with 4 good looking woman, the last one was a 9, but nothing make me really connect with those chicks. I’m still in love with my old girlfriend. In the three years we were together I always felt from the beginning that she was the one. She is a very sweet person, loyal, a truly classy lady, and she is very beautiful, no matter she is two years older than me, she is 35 but looks much better than a 25 years old good looking woman. I’m not in love of her body, I’m just in love of her, I really don’t care if she maybe will look older than me in a couple of years, or if she gets fat. She is one of the uncommon decent women out there who are honest, sincere and have integrity, and at the same time she’s a tigress in bed with her man. She’s still a woman, love to go shopping but really don’t care how much money you have in your pocket. Being together I had wealthy moments and low income ones too, and always she was by my side. In those month everywhere I look there is nothing but lying, cheating, and manipulative b!tches, and nice woman that I don’t really care and I can’t connect with even if I try … and I’m not sure how nice and honest they really are. I must say that in those 8 months my ex only dated me, she wasn’t and is not seeing anyone and furthermore she is not having a life, sometimes looks sad, and is always at home with her mom, who is the b!tch of this story. Never approved me, maybe I’m not hansom enough for her daughter or I don’t have enough money, or prefer jerks, I don’t know, but I really know she helped as much as she can to ruin things every time she could.
My ex and I work at the same office. We still lunch together and walk home together some part of the way wich is the same for us. She knows I’m really inlove with me, and the reasons she gave me was that she doesn’t feel the same, that there is no passion between us anymore. She said to me that she knows the kind of men she is loosing but she doesn’t feel the same, but if she feels she really need me, she will find me no matter if I’m alone or in a relationship. She noticed the last girlfriend I had, and ask me. I said the truth, that I was having a girlfriend. She said nothing but got extremely sad in the next days, was like asking to get back together just with her eyes, sometimes silently cried, I noticed for her eyes. Some other times she asked how I was doing, and when I started looking worried because I realize I really doesn’t want to be with my girlfriend, she noticed and ask if I have some problem and if she could help. Finally my relationship ended and I really don’t care. The truth is that I could’t stop thinking In my true love. Sometimes she ask if I’m seeing someone, or what I did the weekend or what I plan to do on Saturday night. Why? I just don’t know.
After that we date sometimes, and everything goes fine, I make some hands touching and she allows me to do that, she smile and behave like always. It’s like being friends but a couple steps beyond. (we were a couple, but were friends too, which is essential in a long term relationship) Sometimes I touch her in a way she admit be touched only by her boyfriend. Sometimes I grab her and steal a kiss sometimes with a little protest sometimes she smile and say that I’m audacious. Sometimes we get together to my home and make love, it’s not sex, everybody being in love knows the difference. Some times when she go to my office I huge her, and ask for a kiss. Sometimes she kindly argue the reasons for not doing that (we are not together) and sometimes just smile and kisses me. She stills call me honey, or baby 80 % of the times she talks with me at the office. I’ve set clearly that I’m not interested in being her friend, that’s why I tried to keep kissing, hugging and touching further frontiers.
I think our problem is lack of attraction and passion, but somewhere there are some little fire in the ashes. Some how I stop looking attractive to her and I don’t know how to make those steps back. Some how we loose the passion in the way, and I don’t know how to restore that and get back together. These is the first time in my life I’m completely faithful to a woman while we had been together, and the first time I feel a woman it’s a part of my life just like if we lived one life together.
I wish to hear your opinions, ideas or whatever, and I’ll be very grateful.
David