I've been away from the board for awhile, focusing on my work/career moreso that focusing on trying to date girls. At my company, anyone we meet is going to be from work and there are a surprising number of couples within the company (it's a large place in the middle of nowhere and we work long hours).
The work/career part is going well. I was recently promoted, which puts me more at ease for the time being. Also, recently, I met a HB 8.5 who is just starting up at the company. Last week, she was sent to observe me all day (it's a method the company uses to teach the new people how the job is done). Everything went well - we clicked quickly, she kino'ed (I'm not initiating kino at work ) and we had dinner together after my main project was done (still had to finish some things later). I was talking to my good friend about this, and he said, "Dude...you were tricked into a date."
I figured he was joking. Sure, this HB would be someone I'd like to date, but I haven't even asked her out yet! Especially in a work setting, I will only make a move when I know the response won't be negative. He persisted that I just had a first date. His logic:
-I brought up to her how we'd get dinner at the cafeteria after my work was done. She was excited about going for a good part of the shift. She went as far as to say she'd run over and get us dinner to eat where we were if my project ran late. He says this was asking out. We don't know what the other part was about.
-When HB and I did go to the cafeteria, she forgot her money/purse. I told her not to worry about it and that I'd pay. At first she felt bad that she left her purse at my desk, but instantly changed her tune once I assured her it was fine and she'd pay me back. He says this was me paying for the 1st date.
-We sat together and ate for awhile, conversation was very good/smooth. He says this was the date.
-At the end of the day, I initiated that we exchange numbers (we did) and she said she'll treat next time we have dinner (presumably in the cafeteria, I showed her the big special they had). He says this is her plug for date #2.
I told my friend that he's being ridiculous. We are both at work and just wanted something to eat after spending an entire shift together. Sure we get along, but I wasn't thinking of this as any sort of date. Days later, he continues to hold his position, saying she beat me at my own game and cleverly executed a date (I like to try and gain a mental edge). Your thoughts...was this her "tricking" me? Also, can this sort of trickery actually be executed by any of us?
The work/career part is going well. I was recently promoted, which puts me more at ease for the time being. Also, recently, I met a HB 8.5 who is just starting up at the company. Last week, she was sent to observe me all day (it's a method the company uses to teach the new people how the job is done). Everything went well - we clicked quickly, she kino'ed (I'm not initiating kino at work ) and we had dinner together after my main project was done (still had to finish some things later). I was talking to my good friend about this, and he said, "Dude...you were tricked into a date."
I figured he was joking. Sure, this HB would be someone I'd like to date, but I haven't even asked her out yet! Especially in a work setting, I will only make a move when I know the response won't be negative. He persisted that I just had a first date. His logic:
-I brought up to her how we'd get dinner at the cafeteria after my work was done. She was excited about going for a good part of the shift. She went as far as to say she'd run over and get us dinner to eat where we were if my project ran late. He says this was asking out. We don't know what the other part was about.
-When HB and I did go to the cafeteria, she forgot her money/purse. I told her not to worry about it and that I'd pay. At first she felt bad that she left her purse at my desk, but instantly changed her tune once I assured her it was fine and she'd pay me back. He says this was me paying for the 1st date.
-We sat together and ate for awhile, conversation was very good/smooth. He says this was the date.
-At the end of the day, I initiated that we exchange numbers (we did) and she said she'll treat next time we have dinner (presumably in the cafeteria, I showed her the big special they had). He says this is her plug for date #2.
I told my friend that he's being ridiculous. We are both at work and just wanted something to eat after spending an entire shift together. Sure we get along, but I wasn't thinking of this as any sort of date. Days later, he continues to hold his position, saying she beat me at my own game and cleverly executed a date (I like to try and gain a mental edge). Your thoughts...was this her "tricking" me? Also, can this sort of trickery actually be executed by any of us?