There seems to be an overwhelming amount of negativity here. I'm sure you didn't come to this forum to be told "give up" or "there's nothing you can do".
Many of the posters here are right in some of the things they say. The ex is clearly a problem and yes, you fvcked up by laying your cards on the table so soon, but in my opinion you can turn this around!
Your biggest problem is that you seem to be chasing her whenever her interest appears to drops, when in reality you should do the opposite. If she's acting cold, you should turn cold and indifferent too. If she's talking about her ex, then maybe you should cut your time with her short - not in a moody, b1tchy way, just say you've got some things to do and excuse yourself.
When you suggested you take a break, you were on the right track. You pulled back from her and look at the reaction you got! Maybe it was a little too extreme and you made a mistake by backing down, but this proves you have the power to turn this around.
By telling her you love her and showing her so much attention, she's able to take you for granted. She doesn't have to work to keep you, because she knows (or, thinks) you'll always be there and that's causing your value to plummett.
When she pulls away from you, acts cool, don't you value her a lot more? Do you feel a sense of loss and panic? Do you suddenly start to realise how much she means to you?
This works the other way round too. You need to let her feel a sense of distance or loss. Withdraw your attention, talk about other women (even celebrities), subtly cut dates short when she's acting cool or bringing up her ex, postpone meeting from time to time and tell her you have a night out with friends or something.
Many of us guys are soft and easily manipulated by women. Any sense of decency and empathy we have can and will be exploited, so as wrong as it feels, you need to take a big leap of faith. When you see tears in her eyes, that's not your cue to rush over, hug her and apologise for everything. That cue means it's working and you should keep it up!
Many of the posters here are right in some of the things they say. The ex is clearly a problem and yes, you fvcked up by laying your cards on the table so soon, but in my opinion you can turn this around!
Your biggest problem is that you seem to be chasing her whenever her interest appears to drops, when in reality you should do the opposite. If she's acting cold, you should turn cold and indifferent too. If she's talking about her ex, then maybe you should cut your time with her short - not in a moody, b1tchy way, just say you've got some things to do and excuse yourself.
When you suggested you take a break, you were on the right track. You pulled back from her and look at the reaction you got! Maybe it was a little too extreme and you made a mistake by backing down, but this proves you have the power to turn this around.
By telling her you love her and showing her so much attention, she's able to take you for granted. She doesn't have to work to keep you, because she knows (or, thinks) you'll always be there and that's causing your value to plummett.
When she pulls away from you, acts cool, don't you value her a lot more? Do you feel a sense of loss and panic? Do you suddenly start to realise how much she means to you?
This works the other way round too. You need to let her feel a sense of distance or loss. Withdraw your attention, talk about other women (even celebrities), subtly cut dates short when she's acting cool or bringing up her ex, postpone meeting from time to time and tell her you have a night out with friends or something.
Many of us guys are soft and easily manipulated by women. Any sense of decency and empathy we have can and will be exploited, so as wrong as it feels, you need to take a big leap of faith. When you see tears in her eyes, that's not your cue to rush over, hug her and apologise for everything. That cue means it's working and you should keep it up!
