realsmoothie
Master Don Juan
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OK guys, I'm in foreign territory here. I need serious advice.
For those who don't know me, I'm a 32 year old guy who only recently really started trying out the DJ thing. I'd only had sex with two women and dated maybe three until I was 30. Since then things have really improved.
A couple of months ago I started seeing this girl "Katie". I've known her for a couple of years, sort of dated her best friend two years ago. I always thought she was pretty cute, but knew that we could never seriously date because she's pretty domestic/cutesy (collects Disney dolls, not very intellectual, doesn't get much of my sarcasm, etc.).
We got together because we'd see each other at the same bar and drank and dirty-danced. It was pretty obvious there was some sexual chemistry.
So we started watching movies at her place, and it would always end up with us in some state of undress... but it had been so long since I'd f*cked someone (too much porn, dammit... my wang doesn't know a real girl when it sees one) that I couldn't really get it up.
This kind of continued for a month or so. I was opening up to her about the non-boner thing, we'd cuddle a lot (now, I like to cuddle) and it became pretty clear that we were getting to be a "couple" whether I wanted it or not. Now, I didn't mind, because I was finally close to getting laid.
Last week, it finally happened. I f*cked her, it was great.
The problem? I don't want a serious relationship with her. I mean, I'll gladly "date" her, hang out, have sex, yadda yadda... but I want to be able to see other people.
Since I have no experience with dating... I have no idea what to do. I could flat out drop her, which would be pretty devastating to her at this point, or I could negotiate some kind of "slowing down". But I really have idea HOW to do either, particularly since my reasoning (if truthful) is going to basically be "we're just not compatible". I'm sure that she thinks that - with all the cuddling and stroking I'm really into her.
Any ideas? It's spring and I'm seeing the flesh starting to strut on the streets and my newfound sex-drive is going nuts.
For those who don't know me, I'm a 32 year old guy who only recently really started trying out the DJ thing. I'd only had sex with two women and dated maybe three until I was 30. Since then things have really improved.
A couple of months ago I started seeing this girl "Katie". I've known her for a couple of years, sort of dated her best friend two years ago. I always thought she was pretty cute, but knew that we could never seriously date because she's pretty domestic/cutesy (collects Disney dolls, not very intellectual, doesn't get much of my sarcasm, etc.).
We got together because we'd see each other at the same bar and drank and dirty-danced. It was pretty obvious there was some sexual chemistry.
So we started watching movies at her place, and it would always end up with us in some state of undress... but it had been so long since I'd f*cked someone (too much porn, dammit... my wang doesn't know a real girl when it sees one) that I couldn't really get it up.
This kind of continued for a month or so. I was opening up to her about the non-boner thing, we'd cuddle a lot (now, I like to cuddle) and it became pretty clear that we were getting to be a "couple" whether I wanted it or not. Now, I didn't mind, because I was finally close to getting laid.
Last week, it finally happened. I f*cked her, it was great.
The problem? I don't want a serious relationship with her. I mean, I'll gladly "date" her, hang out, have sex, yadda yadda... but I want to be able to see other people.
Since I have no experience with dating... I have no idea what to do. I could flat out drop her, which would be pretty devastating to her at this point, or I could negotiate some kind of "slowing down". But I really have idea HOW to do either, particularly since my reasoning (if truthful) is going to basically be "we're just not compatible". I'm sure that she thinks that - with all the cuddling and stroking I'm really into her.
Any ideas? It's spring and I'm seeing the flesh starting to strut on the streets and my newfound sex-drive is going nuts.