Man of Awesome
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Hmmm. I started reading this site / kind of stuff just a while ago, and came across the concept of an emotional tampon. Wow, that just hit me so hard...because it was me! : o Like wtf...I knew something was wrong, but this much? I have always approached women from the angle of deep discussions, but apparently it's too neutral and friend-like. Still have some developing to do in the masculinity / romantic department, i.e. approaching women differently...
What really drives the point home is the woman I've been chatting with recently. Good deep discussions, a little flirting...and then suddenly I got so fed up. I realised I was getting nothing out of the discussions, since it was mostly about her problems. She wasn't progressing either, just dumping all that sh1t on me and not going to see a doctor like she should. I started to take some distance...and it feels a bit weird. Some of the discussions were legit very interesting, but every time I see her now it's like "omfg, does this woman never shut up?" : o Just thinking of her makes me exhausted, like wtf...In fact, thinking of any woman.
I don't know what's going on, but I'm just tired. Like "no more am I going to listen to your stories for hours and hours"...no, just no. It's weird. Kind of like not taking responsibility for other people and their problems. Like I've done a sh1t load of work bettering myself: gone to therapy, done meditation, done intensive yoga, have actively pursued solutions for any problems I have, have studied the subjects constantly and extensively etc. Even now, I'm constantly trying to do what I want to do next, i.e. developing myself in any areas I see necessary. It's my responsibility, hence I do it.
So yeah, maybe it's just some kind of detachment from people who take no responsibility for themselves? It's too easy for me to be the "therapist", since I can listen and offer sharp advice just like that. "And what better way to approach women than..." NO, there must be better ways.
So it's pretty interesting, i.e. what's the balance between deep and casual talk? Or maybe it's just something you feel on the energetic level, like here? I don't know, but right now I'm just feeling sick and fed up. Just thinking of all the times I've approached women from this angle and...wow, I've just been a voluntary waste bin for their problems. How disgusting is that...
One more thing. If I think about the women and what they have to offer to me...it's like indeed, what do they have to offer? : o They're not being active, not taking responsibility for their lives, not being creative, letting their lights shine out to the world...wtf?! So what do they even have to offer to me? Mostly what I hear is their self-esteem being sh1t, studying being too "hard", people being too shy to show any kind of talent online, how they have problems and nothing is happening...Unbelievable stuff. If you want smth, you go do smth about it, not just b1tch and moan all year long. Just wow...so no, I'm not gonna drag anyone along. You're gonna have to walk on your own two feet...
So yes, I just feel very disillusioned right now. Like what's the point...if you have any comments or questions, fire away.
What really drives the point home is the woman I've been chatting with recently. Good deep discussions, a little flirting...and then suddenly I got so fed up. I realised I was getting nothing out of the discussions, since it was mostly about her problems. She wasn't progressing either, just dumping all that sh1t on me and not going to see a doctor like she should. I started to take some distance...and it feels a bit weird. Some of the discussions were legit very interesting, but every time I see her now it's like "omfg, does this woman never shut up?" : o Just thinking of her makes me exhausted, like wtf...In fact, thinking of any woman.
I don't know what's going on, but I'm just tired. Like "no more am I going to listen to your stories for hours and hours"...no, just no. It's weird. Kind of like not taking responsibility for other people and their problems. Like I've done a sh1t load of work bettering myself: gone to therapy, done meditation, done intensive yoga, have actively pursued solutions for any problems I have, have studied the subjects constantly and extensively etc. Even now, I'm constantly trying to do what I want to do next, i.e. developing myself in any areas I see necessary. It's my responsibility, hence I do it.
So yeah, maybe it's just some kind of detachment from people who take no responsibility for themselves? It's too easy for me to be the "therapist", since I can listen and offer sharp advice just like that. "And what better way to approach women than..." NO, there must be better ways.
So it's pretty interesting, i.e. what's the balance between deep and casual talk? Or maybe it's just something you feel on the energetic level, like here? I don't know, but right now I'm just feeling sick and fed up. Just thinking of all the times I've approached women from this angle and...wow, I've just been a voluntary waste bin for their problems. How disgusting is that...
One more thing. If I think about the women and what they have to offer to me...it's like indeed, what do they have to offer? : o They're not being active, not taking responsibility for their lives, not being creative, letting their lights shine out to the world...wtf?! So what do they even have to offer to me? Mostly what I hear is their self-esteem being sh1t, studying being too "hard", people being too shy to show any kind of talent online, how they have problems and nothing is happening...Unbelievable stuff. If you want smth, you go do smth about it, not just b1tch and moan all year long. Just wow...so no, I'm not gonna drag anyone along. You're gonna have to walk on your own two feet...
So yes, I just feel very disillusioned right now. Like what's the point...if you have any comments or questions, fire away.
