I went on a date with a 22 year old French teacher last Friday night. We were introduced by a mutual friend on a double blind date sort of thing. Well Friday night was our first real date.
So it went something like this. I picked her up and we went to have dinner at TGI Fridays. At dinner, I started using some of the information I've been finding on this site. I consiously made more eye contact, and she met my gaze plenty thoughout the evening. The conversation went really smoothly with no pauses, and the talk ratio was probably around 70/30, and I spent a fair amount of my 30 in the "me too" zone. I made her laugh a couple of times....basically, dinner went really well.
So the plates get cleared and the conversation lulls just a tad, and I take the opportunity to see if she's up for a movie. She replies to me," Yeah, we could go to the theater...or we could rent a movie and go back to my place."
Now, this sent up several red flags. I've been out of the dating game for sometime, but I didn't think it was too common to get invited back to the girls apartment...and if you DO get invited back, it means the girl is really into you and wants to leave the possibility of fooling around open. Am I wrong about this?
Anyway, I say sure and we go to rent a movie. At the rental place, she is acting sorta flirty...rubbing my arm twice, actually. So I'm still thinking everything is going great. She picks out Fight Club because," ...we've both seen it so we won't have to focus on it." Are you kidding me?! How could this have been anything but a good sign? You'll understand better in a sec. With Fight Club in hand, which she insisted she pay the 50 cents to rent, we headed to her place.
Now this is the point at which I get confused. We enter her apartment at around 9pm. I go to the bathroom to pee...and I even sit down so as not to chance splashing. When I come out, she starts the movie....then sits on the absolute edge of the couch, leaning away from me. I attempt to start some talking, but she gives me short answers and stares intently at the tv. I conclude she really wanted to watch the movie. So after about 30 minutes of Fight Club romance, she yawns broadly and says that she feels sooo tired. Instantly I feel unwanted. Another 10 minutes go by and she puts on big sweatshirt and curls up in a ball next to me...still inaccessably. I say at this point that if she's really too tired, she can ask me to go. She mumbles something like ok.
Two seemingly tense hours later the movie ends, and I mosey to the door. I tell her I had fun and she says she did two. It was at this point that I may have made a mistake...I asked her what my chances were of doing something again sometime. Basically, I was dieing to know where I stood. Well, the only reply I got was a sort of shoulder shrug, to which I replied," So so, eh." Then I say well, I'll call ya later or somethin....then I start walking down the stairs. As she's shutting the door, she yells down once more...I had fun!
So there it is. What the hell happened when we got to her place??? Is she interested in me? Should I call her or wait for her to come to me? If I should call....how long should I wait? Even though I'm 26, I'm really only now beginning to see social interactivity as a skill that I can train. Any insight into all this would be greatly appreciated.
So it went something like this. I picked her up and we went to have dinner at TGI Fridays. At dinner, I started using some of the information I've been finding on this site. I consiously made more eye contact, and she met my gaze plenty thoughout the evening. The conversation went really smoothly with no pauses, and the talk ratio was probably around 70/30, and I spent a fair amount of my 30 in the "me too" zone. I made her laugh a couple of times....basically, dinner went really well.
So the plates get cleared and the conversation lulls just a tad, and I take the opportunity to see if she's up for a movie. She replies to me," Yeah, we could go to the theater...or we could rent a movie and go back to my place."
Now, this sent up several red flags. I've been out of the dating game for sometime, but I didn't think it was too common to get invited back to the girls apartment...and if you DO get invited back, it means the girl is really into you and wants to leave the possibility of fooling around open. Am I wrong about this?
Anyway, I say sure and we go to rent a movie. At the rental place, she is acting sorta flirty...rubbing my arm twice, actually. So I'm still thinking everything is going great. She picks out Fight Club because," ...we've both seen it so we won't have to focus on it." Are you kidding me?! How could this have been anything but a good sign? You'll understand better in a sec. With Fight Club in hand, which she insisted she pay the 50 cents to rent, we headed to her place.
Now this is the point at which I get confused. We enter her apartment at around 9pm. I go to the bathroom to pee...and I even sit down so as not to chance splashing. When I come out, she starts the movie....then sits on the absolute edge of the couch, leaning away from me. I attempt to start some talking, but she gives me short answers and stares intently at the tv. I conclude she really wanted to watch the movie. So after about 30 minutes of Fight Club romance, she yawns broadly and says that she feels sooo tired. Instantly I feel unwanted. Another 10 minutes go by and she puts on big sweatshirt and curls up in a ball next to me...still inaccessably. I say at this point that if she's really too tired, she can ask me to go. She mumbles something like ok.
Two seemingly tense hours later the movie ends, and I mosey to the door. I tell her I had fun and she says she did two. It was at this point that I may have made a mistake...I asked her what my chances were of doing something again sometime. Basically, I was dieing to know where I stood. Well, the only reply I got was a sort of shoulder shrug, to which I replied," So so, eh." Then I say well, I'll call ya later or somethin....then I start walking down the stairs. As she's shutting the door, she yells down once more...I had fun!
So there it is. What the hell happened when we got to her place??? Is she interested in me? Should I call her or wait for her to come to me? If I should call....how long should I wait? Even though I'm 26, I'm really only now beginning to see social interactivity as a skill that I can train. Any insight into all this would be greatly appreciated.
