Alanswer
Don Juan
Sorry for those who already read this thread but I just realized its proper place is here among the DJ tips.
Some tips for when and if you decide to go you go clubbing alone:
- Find a big place with lots of people: More choice and the fact that you're alone won't get noticed as much (if you wanna hide it).
- Go there regularly: Speak to the doorman, the security guys. You'll end up knowing them and not waiting to get in.
- You're NOT the price: You're no one and has everything to do. Not the time and place to play it 'hard to get' (at first).
- Try after-works: Practice there and you don't have to wait till 1 am to do something.
- Say hi to ALL the HB (or cute girls you see): Smile and move on. No need to try to approach right there. Other girls will think you know many and it's a 'first contact', you're not a complete stranger anymore. It'll be easier to speak with them later.
You'll even be surprised to see some come and speak to YOU.
- Don't drink too much: A drunk guy is not attractive at all.
- Don't dance too much: (someone dancing like crazy for an hour straight is, that's a fact, weird and scary) and when you do, do it well. If you don't know how, don't dance alone.
- Try to small talk everyone around you, even guys: It's easy and natural at night in a club.
- Take care of your body language: Better not be awkward, stressed out or nervous. You OWN the place. It's your second home. Move around. Don't stay hours at the bar with your drink in hand looking around you... And don't move your head to rythm of the music, it's ridiculous.
You're alone around many people and you're cool with it.
- Dress well: Put some color on. You want to be easily identified by girls.
- Openers: Don't try canned openers too much. It's kind of obsolete and lame. If you're creative good. If not, stay simple. Find something interesting about her looks, or the place (decor)... And quickly get the discussion going. Funny is good, teasing is better.
- Be smooth: Everything is natural, easy. Don't hesitate to lightly kino her quickly. Try to guess things about her. Even if you're wrong that'll get her to speak. Act as if you already know her (not saying: "I know you from somewhere" of course.... SMILE.
- ALWAYS has something to say: You don't want her to get bored or to think sh'll be better off with her friends.
- Try to approach women that are already isolated: At the bar when she order a drink (if she asks for mor ask her if she's with her friends), at the exit (not too close but...) of the toilets, on the dance floor...
- "Are you with your friends?": That's a question theyl almost always ask. If you're not confident enough (yet) you can say there overthere but they're not really your friends, or they're boring, or they wanna go some place else but you don't...
If you're ready to assume it, you can say: "Yeah, I went out for a quick drink and I met some people I know, I like the vibe tonight and I decided to stay...", or "Yeah, I'm out to meet a pretty girl like you..."
I think we're good for now... Can't write a book here and now...
Alanswer / NO-LJBF.com
Some tips for when and if you decide to go you go clubbing alone:
- Find a big place with lots of people: More choice and the fact that you're alone won't get noticed as much (if you wanna hide it).
- Go there regularly: Speak to the doorman, the security guys. You'll end up knowing them and not waiting to get in.
- You're NOT the price: You're no one and has everything to do. Not the time and place to play it 'hard to get' (at first).
- Try after-works: Practice there and you don't have to wait till 1 am to do something.
- Say hi to ALL the HB (or cute girls you see): Smile and move on. No need to try to approach right there. Other girls will think you know many and it's a 'first contact', you're not a complete stranger anymore. It'll be easier to speak with them later.
You'll even be surprised to see some come and speak to YOU.
- Don't drink too much: A drunk guy is not attractive at all.
- Don't dance too much: (someone dancing like crazy for an hour straight is, that's a fact, weird and scary) and when you do, do it well. If you don't know how, don't dance alone.
- Try to small talk everyone around you, even guys: It's easy and natural at night in a club.
- Take care of your body language: Better not be awkward, stressed out or nervous. You OWN the place. It's your second home. Move around. Don't stay hours at the bar with your drink in hand looking around you... And don't move your head to rythm of the music, it's ridiculous.
You're alone around many people and you're cool with it.
- Dress well: Put some color on. You want to be easily identified by girls.
- Openers: Don't try canned openers too much. It's kind of obsolete and lame. If you're creative good. If not, stay simple. Find something interesting about her looks, or the place (decor)... And quickly get the discussion going. Funny is good, teasing is better.
- Be smooth: Everything is natural, easy. Don't hesitate to lightly kino her quickly. Try to guess things about her. Even if you're wrong that'll get her to speak. Act as if you already know her (not saying: "I know you from somewhere" of course.... SMILE.
- ALWAYS has something to say: You don't want her to get bored or to think sh'll be better off with her friends.
- Try to approach women that are already isolated: At the bar when she order a drink (if she asks for mor ask her if she's with her friends), at the exit (not too close but...) of the toilets, on the dance floor...
- "Are you with your friends?": That's a question theyl almost always ask. If you're not confident enough (yet) you can say there overthere but they're not really your friends, or they're boring, or they wanna go some place else but you don't...
If you're ready to assume it, you can say: "Yeah, I went out for a quick drink and I met some people I know, I like the vibe tonight and I decided to stay...", or "Yeah, I'm out to meet a pretty girl like you..."
I think we're good for now... Can't write a book here and now...
Alanswer / NO-LJBF.com
