Giovanni Casanova
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 5, 2002
- Messages
- 5,550
- Reaction score
- 18
- Age
- 44
- Location
- Hiding in Penkitten's Linen Closet
Have any of you guys been in a relationship where you're with a girl and everything seems to be going really, really great... then one day it seems like something has changed or that something is on her mind and/or bothering her?
So you ask her what's wrong, and she says "Nothing."
But still, she seems distant and even kind of irritated/angry with you and you're not really sure why. So you're left with trying to figure out "Am I just imagining things? Is there really nothing wrong and it's all just in my head? Or is there something REALLY wrong and she doesn't want to tell me?"
Pretty soon, you're hyper-analyzing every little thing: what she said, how she said it, the tone of her voice and all of that and it just starts to drive you absolutely bonkers. If there's something wrong that has to do with you, you probably want to correct it. If there's something wrong that doesn't have to do with you, you want to be there for her. But if there truly is nothing wrong, you don't want to keep pushing her and getting annoying.
It's a puzzle, especially if you're with a girl who swears that if there's ever anything wrong she will tell you. And you can't help but want to honor that, but at the same time, you flash back to all the times that something was wrong and the chick never told you.
It's a catch-22: If something is truly wrong and you don't notice, you're a jerk for not helping to solve the problem or at least just being there for her. I've been there before, I know how it can be: "Don't you pay any attention to me at ALL? I've been obviously upset for the last two days and you never even bothered to care. You only asked me what the problem was a couple of times... Sometimes you need to be there for me a little more than that for me to let my problems out."
On the other hand, if nothing really is the matter and you're just being hyper-sensitive for some reason or another, you're an annoying pain in the ass. I've been there before, too: "Jesus! I have already told you a dozen times! There's nothing wrong. I'm fine. I am not moody or irritated, damn it! Stop asking me!"
So what do you do when you're confronted with a situation like that? I mean, the easy answer might be to just take her at her word when she says nothing is wrong... but sometimes the problem is that she's having a problem with the relationship that you might be able to work out if you at least know what it's about. I can easily see this going either way. Thoughts?
So you ask her what's wrong, and she says "Nothing."
But still, she seems distant and even kind of irritated/angry with you and you're not really sure why. So you're left with trying to figure out "Am I just imagining things? Is there really nothing wrong and it's all just in my head? Or is there something REALLY wrong and she doesn't want to tell me?"
Pretty soon, you're hyper-analyzing every little thing: what she said, how she said it, the tone of her voice and all of that and it just starts to drive you absolutely bonkers. If there's something wrong that has to do with you, you probably want to correct it. If there's something wrong that doesn't have to do with you, you want to be there for her. But if there truly is nothing wrong, you don't want to keep pushing her and getting annoying.
It's a puzzle, especially if you're with a girl who swears that if there's ever anything wrong she will tell you. And you can't help but want to honor that, but at the same time, you flash back to all the times that something was wrong and the chick never told you.
It's a catch-22: If something is truly wrong and you don't notice, you're a jerk for not helping to solve the problem or at least just being there for her. I've been there before, I know how it can be: "Don't you pay any attention to me at ALL? I've been obviously upset for the last two days and you never even bothered to care. You only asked me what the problem was a couple of times... Sometimes you need to be there for me a little more than that for me to let my problems out."
On the other hand, if nothing really is the matter and you're just being hyper-sensitive for some reason or another, you're an annoying pain in the ass. I've been there before, too: "Jesus! I have already told you a dozen times! There's nothing wrong. I'm fine. I am not moody or irritated, damn it! Stop asking me!"
So what do you do when you're confronted with a situation like that? I mean, the easy answer might be to just take her at her word when she says nothing is wrong... but sometimes the problem is that she's having a problem with the relationship that you might be able to work out if you at least know what it's about. I can easily see this going either way. Thoughts?