BasicInstinct
Senior Don Juan
Hi guys, this is my first tip so let me know what you guys think of it. Today I want to talk about something that hasn’t been discussed- the topic of emotional control.
Let me give you a hypothetical situation. Let’s say you meet a girl. You start off good, making sure you don’t call for a couple of days. Check. You setup a date, things go well. Check. You call the following week to see how she is. She says she’s busy and she’ll call you back. Hmmm, ok. So you sit around waiting for her to call. You start thinking, what if she doesn’t call? She calls back a couple of hours later. You think to yourself, cool, she digs me and you get excited. So you setup another date and things go ok. You call the week after but she’s not home. You leave a message and she doesn’t call back. WTF? You get frustrated and confused, so you try calling her again. She says she was sick all week. Oh, ok. Again you breathe a sigh of relief. It had nothing to do with me, and she still likes me. So you’re happy again.
Do you see the pattern? The problem is, you are giving the girl emotional control over the situations. Sure, your behavior might suggest that you’re a DJ, but you’re letting the girl dictate your moods- when she didn’t call, you got upset. When she did call, you got happy. If her behavior pattern changes in any way, your emotions start clouding your better judgment, and you start trying to overcompensate for something you may or may not have done.
The sad thing is, most guys don’t even realize this, because they are too busy trying to make sure their BEHAVIOR is ok, when in fact they have already lost because they have given up EMOTIONAL control. Once you lose control of your emotions, it’s only a matter of time before your behavior follows suit. The loss of emotional control will almost always lead to AFC behavior in the end.
The solution to this is to detach yourself from the situation. You must not put too much emotional investment into a girl, especially in the beginning. By letting her dictate your moods, you start to become dependent on her to make you happy. And once she has control of your emotions, your behavior will change for the worst.
So the point I’m trying to make is this: this site and the DJ Bible can help you with your behavior, but in the end, you have to control your emotions, because it WILL override your behavior if you let it. Keep your emotions in check and I can guarantee that you will come out on top.
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Always outnumbered, never outgunned.
It's not safe to hope for the best, without preparing for the worst.
Let me give you a hypothetical situation. Let’s say you meet a girl. You start off good, making sure you don’t call for a couple of days. Check. You setup a date, things go well. Check. You call the following week to see how she is. She says she’s busy and she’ll call you back. Hmmm, ok. So you sit around waiting for her to call. You start thinking, what if she doesn’t call? She calls back a couple of hours later. You think to yourself, cool, she digs me and you get excited. So you setup another date and things go ok. You call the week after but she’s not home. You leave a message and she doesn’t call back. WTF? You get frustrated and confused, so you try calling her again. She says she was sick all week. Oh, ok. Again you breathe a sigh of relief. It had nothing to do with me, and she still likes me. So you’re happy again.
Do you see the pattern? The problem is, you are giving the girl emotional control over the situations. Sure, your behavior might suggest that you’re a DJ, but you’re letting the girl dictate your moods- when she didn’t call, you got upset. When she did call, you got happy. If her behavior pattern changes in any way, your emotions start clouding your better judgment, and you start trying to overcompensate for something you may or may not have done.
The sad thing is, most guys don’t even realize this, because they are too busy trying to make sure their BEHAVIOR is ok, when in fact they have already lost because they have given up EMOTIONAL control. Once you lose control of your emotions, it’s only a matter of time before your behavior follows suit. The loss of emotional control will almost always lead to AFC behavior in the end.
The solution to this is to detach yourself from the situation. You must not put too much emotional investment into a girl, especially in the beginning. By letting her dictate your moods, you start to become dependent on her to make you happy. And once she has control of your emotions, your behavior will change for the worst.
So the point I’m trying to make is this: this site and the DJ Bible can help you with your behavior, but in the end, you have to control your emotions, because it WILL override your behavior if you let it. Keep your emotions in check and I can guarantee that you will come out on top.
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Always outnumbered, never outgunned.
It's not safe to hope for the best, without preparing for the worst.
