MatureDJ
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The "Forced Loneliness" crowd made me think about why dating is so difficult. Men of our father's, grandfather's, etc. time did not seem to have these problems - a decent man always had a matchmaker of some type to hitch him up, and it really took a lot of fortitude for a confirmed bachelor to not get married.
So here are the reasons:
- Baby Bust demographics - most of us here are in the age range where there are simply less people who are 5-10 years younger
- Feminism 1 - whereas the securing of a husband for women of our ancestor's time was the prime motivator in life, now it is not; this emboldens the woman's natural picky nature
- Feminism 2 - a woman's nature is to not marry down, or even laterally, so with women being career professionals, many men are just not considered as worthy
- Feminism 3 - even for women who are of the mindset to have a family, and are OK with a lateral or even lower husband, they put all their energy into their education and career, which makes it difficult even if they were not otherwise picky, but with few opportunities, they figure that they should be picky; also, it causes women to want to get their career settled first, and then figure on a short window of marital and mother viability at a ridiculously late age - e.g., I will start seriously dating at age 35, get married at age 36, have first child at age 37, (38 if I have to get my husband to masturbate into a cup so a fertility physician can inject that into my decaying womb) second at 38-1/2 (or 39-1/2), before my eggs go bad at age 40
- Feminism 4 - unlike their grandmothers. who needed a man to have decent material lifestyle, today's woman does not need that, meaning that women who do not have as strong a drive to reproduce are more likely to become a spinster of choice (e.g., Condoleeza Rice, who was very attractive in her day); while evolution will take care of this problem as only the children of women who do not have this mindset will be around, it is problem for us in our time
- obesification of the American woman - many women who a generation ago would be considered decent are now just fat
- explosion of single mommies - (all of whom are considered here to be not seriously dateable) due to lack of modesty and choice of bad boys; back in the early days, a young woman would respect her father's judgement that her suitor was a bum and she could date him (even if she were an adult), but now, she just goes and gets knocked up by him
- divorce culture - which allows alpha men to knock up one maiden, and then follow it with a subsequent maiden (this would not be a problem if such men simply dated other single mommies)
- hypersexuality due to the social and media interconnectedness - women are now exposed to much more of the world then their little village of their great-grandmother's time, so instead of looking at the pool of local men as the only set of possible suitors, women can now look at a much larger pool, and thus their natural picky nature makes them not so interested in those local men
What do you think about this?
So here are the reasons:
- Baby Bust demographics - most of us here are in the age range where there are simply less people who are 5-10 years younger
- Feminism 1 - whereas the securing of a husband for women of our ancestor's time was the prime motivator in life, now it is not; this emboldens the woman's natural picky nature
- Feminism 2 - a woman's nature is to not marry down, or even laterally, so with women being career professionals, many men are just not considered as worthy
- Feminism 3 - even for women who are of the mindset to have a family, and are OK with a lateral or even lower husband, they put all their energy into their education and career, which makes it difficult even if they were not otherwise picky, but with few opportunities, they figure that they should be picky; also, it causes women to want to get their career settled first, and then figure on a short window of marital and mother viability at a ridiculously late age - e.g., I will start seriously dating at age 35, get married at age 36, have first child at age 37, (38 if I have to get my husband to masturbate into a cup so a fertility physician can inject that into my decaying womb) second at 38-1/2 (or 39-1/2), before my eggs go bad at age 40
- Feminism 4 - unlike their grandmothers. who needed a man to have decent material lifestyle, today's woman does not need that, meaning that women who do not have as strong a drive to reproduce are more likely to become a spinster of choice (e.g., Condoleeza Rice, who was very attractive in her day); while evolution will take care of this problem as only the children of women who do not have this mindset will be around, it is problem for us in our time
- obesification of the American woman - many women who a generation ago would be considered decent are now just fat
- explosion of single mommies - (all of whom are considered here to be not seriously dateable) due to lack of modesty and choice of bad boys; back in the early days, a young woman would respect her father's judgement that her suitor was a bum and she could date him (even if she were an adult), but now, she just goes and gets knocked up by him
- divorce culture - which allows alpha men to knock up one maiden, and then follow it with a subsequent maiden (this would not be a problem if such men simply dated other single mommies)
- hypersexuality due to the social and media interconnectedness - women are now exposed to much more of the world then their little village of their great-grandmother's time, so instead of looking at the pool of local men as the only set of possible suitors, women can now look at a much larger pool, and thus their natural picky nature makes them not so interested in those local men
What do you think about this?
