Now i use to suffer from the worst kind of oneitis you could ever get, heres a little story:
I fell obsessively in love with this girl, she was everything i hoped for, everything i wanted, i could of died a happy man that day. We were in a two year relationship, from being 15 to 17, 16 is when it got sour. You see she would start getting cold and distant, weekly visits became, fortnight visits, until month visits and we only lived across the road from each other! She use to go out drinking, make out with guys and then dump me, making me feel like **** and id chase her hence knowing she cheated and then she would take me back and do it again! Infact i cant count how many time she took me back. So i tried taking her out on romantic nights out, bought her flowers and i even bought her horse riding lessons, because she was so obsessed with horses, then the inevitable came, i was plagured with oneitis.
Now how did i move on? Well firstly thanks to my concerned friends, they taught me about what a oneitis is and how to get rid of it, but it never worked! But i was glad i knew what it was. I then fell into a period of growing depression, days were meaningless, i felt like ****, but after a while it clicked! I asked myself, why am i even obsessing over one girl, when i use to date 5 girls a week! Shes not nothing special, shes making you feel like crap so why are you giving her the time of the day, i asked myself.
So how do you get rid of oneitis, you say?
Firstly know that theres isnt a magic cure, there is only a process, that you can either speed up or slow down.
Secondly you can do this by...
REALISING AND ANALYISING REALISTICLY
Because the reality of it is, if she treats you with disrespect then, she shouldnt warrant any respect from you!
But you may think, well its hard to get over, i cant find anyone perfect, shes my only one!
You need to snap out of that, this is your part of the illogical brain functioning and it becomes that voice inside your head, that you start to believe it.
Remember and i want you to repeat these words: IT ISNT LOGICAL, ITS THAT VOICE TRYING TO MAKE ME A STRONGER PERSON, SO WHEN I DO FIND THE "ONE" I KNOW HOW TRUE LOVE IS BUT I WONT BE AFFRAID TO WALK AWAY AND I WONT PUT UP WITH HER **** EITHER! BUT IF I LET IT TAKE OVER ME AND LISTEN TO IT, I WILL BE THINKING UNREALISTICLY.
So maybe you're still thinking she's your one, I thought that too, i thought everything would be meaningless without her, but let me vouch for you here guys, after 6 months i met a girl who was so better then my oneitis that i never had to feel like crap!
You see you need a oneitis, strangely enough you do! This is what drives your masculinity, its life telling you to be a stronger person, so dont just sit there moping about, embrace your oneitis, you know she treated you like crap, she didnt even listen to you, why should you let her give you this horrible disease?
You be the better MAN and you show her that she's not effecting you, you show her it by finding another girl, but in the process you've learnt from your mistakes, that mistake being HER!
Now i know there is alot of oneitis types, but this is the general one and im telling you even if you met the girl, or shes your friend, it isnt worth the battle of trying to win her over, because when your in oneitis mode, you come off as the everyday ordinary guy who will do anything for her and put up with her **** and thus you screw up the entire relationship making it worse.
Women are attracted to strong, challenging, male leaders, not someone who will scrub there back and then pay them for doing it! (i knew a guy who did that once)
You know women get oneitis too, but they get over it better, because they deal with there emotions everyday, that they master there emotions. See it's harder for guys to master there emotions because,we dont use it as much as women do.
So now you realised its illogical, heres some short advice.
Go out and socialise, you will meet better people and just like me you will think, what did i ever see in that girl.
Now heres the exciting news, everytime you go out and meet new women, 40% of the time you will meet another girl who is BETTER then your oneitis.
5% when you go out meeting new people, you become stronger each time, so 5% stronger then you are!
When you have oneitis this is when you know you cant win the battle of winning her over, you cant win a battle that makes you feel weak in your knees and having your heart on your sleeve.
Now im all for love, thats my final stage in finding in a girl, but i have standards, the kind of ones that i want in a woman and the kind of standards, i do not want in a woman, so making sure you have standards, is a foulproof way to skip a oneitis disease and sometimes they come in under the radar, but learn from the pain, it will make you a stronger man and it will make you have a STRONGER GAME.
Now by all means for peace of mind, go ask her out, but remember the pain will follow through and this is when you have to be ready for it. The pain period is what seperates the men from the boys, either way you will overcome and be STRONGER.
Look in the mirror and smile at yourself and know that person staring back at you deserves to be respected.
I fell obsessively in love with this girl, she was everything i hoped for, everything i wanted, i could of died a happy man that day. We were in a two year relationship, from being 15 to 17, 16 is when it got sour. You see she would start getting cold and distant, weekly visits became, fortnight visits, until month visits and we only lived across the road from each other! She use to go out drinking, make out with guys and then dump me, making me feel like **** and id chase her hence knowing she cheated and then she would take me back and do it again! Infact i cant count how many time she took me back. So i tried taking her out on romantic nights out, bought her flowers and i even bought her horse riding lessons, because she was so obsessed with horses, then the inevitable came, i was plagured with oneitis.
Now how did i move on? Well firstly thanks to my concerned friends, they taught me about what a oneitis is and how to get rid of it, but it never worked! But i was glad i knew what it was. I then fell into a period of growing depression, days were meaningless, i felt like ****, but after a while it clicked! I asked myself, why am i even obsessing over one girl, when i use to date 5 girls a week! Shes not nothing special, shes making you feel like crap so why are you giving her the time of the day, i asked myself.
So how do you get rid of oneitis, you say?
Firstly know that theres isnt a magic cure, there is only a process, that you can either speed up or slow down.
Secondly you can do this by...
REALISING AND ANALYISING REALISTICLY
Because the reality of it is, if she treats you with disrespect then, she shouldnt warrant any respect from you!
But you may think, well its hard to get over, i cant find anyone perfect, shes my only one!
You need to snap out of that, this is your part of the illogical brain functioning and it becomes that voice inside your head, that you start to believe it.
Remember and i want you to repeat these words: IT ISNT LOGICAL, ITS THAT VOICE TRYING TO MAKE ME A STRONGER PERSON, SO WHEN I DO FIND THE "ONE" I KNOW HOW TRUE LOVE IS BUT I WONT BE AFFRAID TO WALK AWAY AND I WONT PUT UP WITH HER **** EITHER! BUT IF I LET IT TAKE OVER ME AND LISTEN TO IT, I WILL BE THINKING UNREALISTICLY.
So maybe you're still thinking she's your one, I thought that too, i thought everything would be meaningless without her, but let me vouch for you here guys, after 6 months i met a girl who was so better then my oneitis that i never had to feel like crap!
You see you need a oneitis, strangely enough you do! This is what drives your masculinity, its life telling you to be a stronger person, so dont just sit there moping about, embrace your oneitis, you know she treated you like crap, she didnt even listen to you, why should you let her give you this horrible disease?
You be the better MAN and you show her that she's not effecting you, you show her it by finding another girl, but in the process you've learnt from your mistakes, that mistake being HER!
Now i know there is alot of oneitis types, but this is the general one and im telling you even if you met the girl, or shes your friend, it isnt worth the battle of trying to win her over, because when your in oneitis mode, you come off as the everyday ordinary guy who will do anything for her and put up with her **** and thus you screw up the entire relationship making it worse.
Women are attracted to strong, challenging, male leaders, not someone who will scrub there back and then pay them for doing it! (i knew a guy who did that once)
You know women get oneitis too, but they get over it better, because they deal with there emotions everyday, that they master there emotions. See it's harder for guys to master there emotions because,we dont use it as much as women do.
So now you realised its illogical, heres some short advice.
Go out and socialise, you will meet better people and just like me you will think, what did i ever see in that girl.
Now heres the exciting news, everytime you go out and meet new women, 40% of the time you will meet another girl who is BETTER then your oneitis.
5% when you go out meeting new people, you become stronger each time, so 5% stronger then you are!
When you have oneitis this is when you know you cant win the battle of winning her over, you cant win a battle that makes you feel weak in your knees and having your heart on your sleeve.
Now im all for love, thats my final stage in finding in a girl, but i have standards, the kind of ones that i want in a woman and the kind of standards, i do not want in a woman, so making sure you have standards, is a foulproof way to skip a oneitis disease and sometimes they come in under the radar, but learn from the pain, it will make you a stronger man and it will make you have a STRONGER GAME.
Now by all means for peace of mind, go ask her out, but remember the pain will follow through and this is when you have to be ready for it. The pain period is what seperates the men from the boys, either way you will overcome and be STRONGER.
Look in the mirror and smile at yourself and know that person staring back at you deserves to be respected.
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