Sure...we all agree that knowing how to play the game is the way to go and that women constantly test men. We've learned not too act needy or give them the impression they have higher value than us, we've been rightly encouraged to avoid falling into the trap of developing "oneitis" and for our own good, to learn to spin plates and to "next" women who think they are too busy for us and who are unwilling to consider us as nothing more than just friends.
From the moment I joined this forum in 2006, I have learned so much and the advice and the exchanges I have engaged in with so many posters and users here has helped me improve tremendously and I can't thank most of you enough. In 2006 when I first joined this forum, I was at the lowest point in my dating life. I had developed oneitis over a woman who used to attend the same gym as me in Philly and who took advantage of that knowlege to prick at me within the depths of my heart and I learned a big lesson. Your advice to me when I wrote my first post on here helped tremendously.
Having digressed enough, I wanted to make a point about something I have remarked since my college years and that I still seem to be witnessing with regards to women and their behavior. Of course we all want to avoid coming across as too nice/too sweet during the initial phases of dating since it could backfire against us. However, one thing I've noticed particularly with American women, is that a lot of women just don't know how to treat, appreciate and keep a good man when they find one.
Whenever a lot of them seem to meet a really good guy, they neither seem able nor used to handling such a situation. Hence they'd rather go for guys who to them seem to be the opposite of these men. It's only until a lot of them get older that they realize their mistakes, particularly when they discover that the guys they chose to stick with don't have much of anything going for them in the intellectual, responsible sense and create constant and unnecessary drama in their lives.
What I appreciate about dating and relationships for instance here in most African countries is that once women see they have a good guy in their hands, they are absolutely unwilling to let him go. They perceive him as quality, marriage material. It's true that with the influence of cable and US music videos, etc., a few of them particularly of the younger generation (early 20s for instance) are starting to fall for player, bad boy and thug types but in general, very few such men get much play in the dating game in this part of the world.
From the moment I joined this forum in 2006, I have learned so much and the advice and the exchanges I have engaged in with so many posters and users here has helped me improve tremendously and I can't thank most of you enough. In 2006 when I first joined this forum, I was at the lowest point in my dating life. I had developed oneitis over a woman who used to attend the same gym as me in Philly and who took advantage of that knowlege to prick at me within the depths of my heart and I learned a big lesson. Your advice to me when I wrote my first post on here helped tremendously.
Having digressed enough, I wanted to make a point about something I have remarked since my college years and that I still seem to be witnessing with regards to women and their behavior. Of course we all want to avoid coming across as too nice/too sweet during the initial phases of dating since it could backfire against us. However, one thing I've noticed particularly with American women, is that a lot of women just don't know how to treat, appreciate and keep a good man when they find one.
Whenever a lot of them seem to meet a really good guy, they neither seem able nor used to handling such a situation. Hence they'd rather go for guys who to them seem to be the opposite of these men. It's only until a lot of them get older that they realize their mistakes, particularly when they discover that the guys they chose to stick with don't have much of anything going for them in the intellectual, responsible sense and create constant and unnecessary drama in their lives.
What I appreciate about dating and relationships for instance here in most African countries is that once women see they have a good guy in their hands, they are absolutely unwilling to let him go. They perceive him as quality, marriage material. It's true that with the influence of cable and US music videos, etc., a few of them particularly of the younger generation (early 20s for instance) are starting to fall for player, bad boy and thug types but in general, very few such men get much play in the dating game in this part of the world.
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