indisguise
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 9, 2016
- Messages
- 13
- Reaction score
- 2
- Age
- 33
Thank you very much for such motivating and helpful words. you guys are the best, I hope you all are doing well.She used to be the whole world for you – NEWSFLASH. Times change my man. People change. Circumstances change. It’s called Life. Look at a football coach for example. His team might have won the league last season. Now what will happen if he has a bad run of results this season? He will get the chop. Its all about the here and now. The present moment. The past means jack shlt. It’s brutal but it is what it is. Turn it to you advantage.
Worst thing you can do is stalk her social media so it’s good that you have unfollowed her on Instagram.
Your career is going great – tick.
Exercise daily - tick.
Hanging out with friends – tick.
Continually chase these three aspects above and you are golden. It has the opposite effect of chasing a girl because its all about you. Your hurt for this girl is overriding the good things you are doing presently but keep maintaining them and your life will snowball. The hurt for this girl will un-snowball eventually so yes you will get out of this mindset and you will be able to live normally again.
You don’t feel that you’ve moved on? This is the No Contact challenge. Its called this for a reason. It’s a challenge, its tough, its f.cking pain. Its one big Rollercoaster ride. One week your fine, the next week you are crying. Good. It shows you are Human. Hurting. Healing.
The good times you had with that girl and the attraction she had is officially dead. Its not coming back. She was just a passing boat. Let that sink in. When that boat has gone into the distance you will eventually that it was just a boat. Bigger and better ones are always on the horizon.
Its not called the No Contact easy piece of plss simple ride. It would be good if it was that, but let me ask you – what would you really learn if someone was easy to achieve.
Take pride that you sought advice from the posters on here. We have all experienced what you are going through. We know exactly what your going through.
You will be fine dude. As others have said, read the DJ bible.
Pain is temporary. Self-respect is permament.
Good luck!
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Day 25 over 45
I found out that some girl I know is interested in me, she texted me with hidden meaning message, then we flirted back and forth but I'm not genuinely interested in her. even though she's very nice and cute, I don't think I'm ready to date girls yet.
What makes the breakup harder is the fact that even though it was agreed upon by both of us since we wanted different things, deep inside we know it's not what we really want. she knows that I still love her and I know she does too.
25 days ago she texted me saying she misses me. knowing this girl she would never think of doing so unless she can't take it any longer as she takes pride and it's not like her to show the weak side of hers. one of us had to think rationally because this won't do any of us good. I didn't say it back even though it was killing me after 45 days to tell her just how much I miss her. I had to be strong and tough so we both can move on.
I still remember when I assured her that I will always stay by her side, my absence caused her pain and yet I couldn't even comfort her when she came back to me.. I had to be tough on the girl who I promised I will never hurt no matter what.. God knows I cried myself to sleep that night.
so, another day went by. I hope day 26 will be easier.
night all..