Backwardsman
Don Juan
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Hey all,
Just a little story which happened recently, regarding NC.....
went out with a girl for a year, she still lived with her ex, after countless times of me asking her to sort it, kept distant during the relationship because of this, didnt give her 100%.
Finished her in feb, went NC - She text me 4 weeks ago, asking how i was etc, called me up a few times, and eventually i met up with her 4 times over the 4 weeks.
Banged her twice, then finished it again last night, although she had moved out and went to live back at her dads, things were the same, didnt get the vibe, what im saying is, if you have broke up with your ex, it wont be the same again, best to move forward and not backward... I only went back as i was completely over her and just wanted a bang pretty much....
Below is a copy of what i posted back in january, hopefully it will help a few of the new people here
A few pointers i have learned over the years -
Your relationship ended because it was meant to, If it wasn't, you would still be together.
A breakup should be viewed positively, learn from it, better yourself for the next one. Think of it as a lesson for yourself.
Most, if not all relationships these days are some form of emotional attachment to someone, like a drug, when the drug (girlfriend) is available you are happy etc, when the drug is removed (dumped etc) you want it more and are unhappy - Is this love? i dont think so......
further to my point above, NC is like going into rehab, getting clean from the emotional attachment you had with this person, and is the best way to heal and make you stronger - Be the man and walk away!
Better yourself, become active, go out with friends, staying in waiting by your phone for a text/call is wasting your life, put your self first, not an ex.
Always look forward, never backwards, you will have plenty more relationships in your life time, trust me.
A quick story before i go.
My first proper girlfriend, went out for over a year, did loads together etc thought she was the one (naive). She ended it, and i was all over the place, texting, showing up at her house, when she went out to clubs i would be there - What do you think this looks like ? loser right.... i cringe looking back at my actions, but in a way gave me lessons on how not to behave after a breakup....
Fast forward to now, my last ex i actually finished 4 weeks ago, going out a year, but she still lived with her ex and no matter how much i asked her to sort it, nothing got done, so i simply ended it, deleted her out of my life and walked away, best thing i have ever done and i feel empowered doing it - She texts from time to time, but i simply ignore, delete and get on with my life.
In a nutshell, Your relationship ended, not your life....... Hope you all get on ok, any questions please ask
Just a little story which happened recently, regarding NC.....
went out with a girl for a year, she still lived with her ex, after countless times of me asking her to sort it, kept distant during the relationship because of this, didnt give her 100%.
Finished her in feb, went NC - She text me 4 weeks ago, asking how i was etc, called me up a few times, and eventually i met up with her 4 times over the 4 weeks.
Banged her twice, then finished it again last night, although she had moved out and went to live back at her dads, things were the same, didnt get the vibe, what im saying is, if you have broke up with your ex, it wont be the same again, best to move forward and not backward... I only went back as i was completely over her and just wanted a bang pretty much....
Below is a copy of what i posted back in january, hopefully it will help a few of the new people here
A few pointers i have learned over the years -
Your relationship ended because it was meant to, If it wasn't, you would still be together.
A breakup should be viewed positively, learn from it, better yourself for the next one. Think of it as a lesson for yourself.
Most, if not all relationships these days are some form of emotional attachment to someone, like a drug, when the drug (girlfriend) is available you are happy etc, when the drug is removed (dumped etc) you want it more and are unhappy - Is this love? i dont think so......
further to my point above, NC is like going into rehab, getting clean from the emotional attachment you had with this person, and is the best way to heal and make you stronger - Be the man and walk away!
Better yourself, become active, go out with friends, staying in waiting by your phone for a text/call is wasting your life, put your self first, not an ex.
Always look forward, never backwards, you will have plenty more relationships in your life time, trust me.
A quick story before i go.
My first proper girlfriend, went out for over a year, did loads together etc thought she was the one (naive). She ended it, and i was all over the place, texting, showing up at her house, when she went out to clubs i would be there - What do you think this looks like ? loser right.... i cringe looking back at my actions, but in a way gave me lessons on how not to behave after a breakup....
Fast forward to now, my last ex i actually finished 4 weeks ago, going out a year, but she still lived with her ex and no matter how much i asked her to sort it, nothing got done, so i simply ended it, deleted her out of my life and walked away, best thing i have ever done and i feel empowered doing it - She texts from time to time, but i simply ignore, delete and get on with my life.
In a nutshell, Your relationship ended, not your life....... Hope you all get on ok, any questions please ask