Rollo Tomassi said:
Your feeling of investment are only a by-product of what is still a transaction.
Women have a laundry list of prerequisites they set as conditions for a man's acceptability for her intimacy. He must be attractive, financially stable, possess status, have a sense of humor, be sensitive to her needs, be decisive, be a good listener, be single (usually), he must initiate, have confidence, have ambition and the motivation to pursue it, be passionate, etc. etc. and the list goes on and on. Men have one criteria for intimacy - she's got to be hot. Attractiveness and sexual availabilty are the only prerequisites necessary for him to engage in sexual behavior with a woman.
So if what you are saying is true, and it certainly seems to be, then it could be argued that, from a biological point of view, the female really is the one in control (of reproduction) after all! SHE determines what male is allowed to "seed" her. Male competition, revisited, all to "win" permission to impregnate the female. Kinda blows the whole DJ thing out of the water FROM THAT PERSPECTIVE. You are only deemed the Prize because the REAL prize (the female) has made you so. Women are the judges of who is prizeworthy, not men - for they control access! Think of all those screaming, hysterical girls chasing the Beatles. They were chasing the Beatles because they deemed the Beatles to be mateworthy. Yeah, the Beatles were great, but in the end, the girls still determined if they wanted to screw the Fab Four or not. They derived their power only because they satisfied WOMEN'S criteria for sexual mates. It's like the gold standard. Without a sh
itload of gold stored somewhere, all that paper money is worthless. So all of your DJ lustre might be great on its own, but it is still biologically worthless if there are no women to "approve" of it to be worthy.
The whole message of the DJ is to live a life that happens to be worthy of gaining admission to the female. But the twist is that you can't actually make such a goal your reason for being a DJ in the first place - or you will be found counterfeit and judged unworthy. You craft your life irregardless of the judge (woman) who then chooses you and grants you access. She is still the final authority on prizeworthiness. So it's as if you must transcend your instinctive "need" to find a mate in order to be worthy of mating rights. On the social level, you are judged worthy precisely because you aren't concerned (obsessed) with being worthy! Thus the female desires a gene source that doesn't need her in the first place. What a mind
fuck! The female chooses, but the male also must not care about being chosen, if that is ever really, really, really possible deep down inside the core of a man...