I thought i'd share a lill story from my kitchen.. people who know me know the girl as well.
Based on my experiences over the past 10 years with women and life, i noticed experienced and learned a few things, we will always keep learning/unlearning and the more we seem to know, the less we really know.
Yet, without the basic dharma knowledge/gut feeling there does seem to be pulled wool over your eyes.
Melatonine magik plays an important factor.
The remarkable thing in my case that happened and surely in other cases; you can suddenly meet a woman who sweeps the world away under you and you are being swept away by emotions.. because yes.. you like her and are attracted.
My last girl which simply didn't seem to be attracted by me while in the first 3-6 months being overly into me, kicking away other women when they approach me. And now acting like i'm the last on her list or something.
She never called except for the first months, she never initiated intimacy, she even brought me to her parents and family in another country and said that i would be her husband.
All the time nasty remarks (like psych warfare) to try and break my confidence.
Maybe that was her plan all along (to make a don juan into a *****, make a sucker out of a champion, like chip reese said.)
I've always shown myself to be a man with women.. if i don't like it .. i walked. In some cases i tried if it was possible to improve with her (teaching her) but with some.. they just wouldnt learn.
I was aware of this yet it has affected me anyway.
Not answering to my messages while she answered all other peoples messages. Posting pictures of herself with other guys on her timeline, and posting pictures on her timeline with her ex.
At first you meet a representative of a female before her true colors start to shine.. over time.. she just didnt have time for me anymore and everything i said seemed to disappear into a black hole.
Now i have know her for 1,7 years and deleted facebook 2 months ago.
I have told her from the beginning (in the first months) that some behavior she displayed is unaccpetable like coming home drunk at night and sometimes not coming home at all, or else i would walk.
The first times, she apologised and was really afraid i would walk away.. or at least.. she pretended that to be the case.
But because i got more lazy with her.. i let her go her way and she started to push to see how far she could go i guess..
So i was aware of her knowledge of the game but she underestimated me..
as i gave her ample opportunity the explain and correct herself.. im very forgiving.. yet.. the games continued and she kept being absent.. partying and drinking.. with alot of male and girl friend.. so i treat a partygirl like a partygirl and fully retreat.
I deleted my facebook account some time ago.. finally.
This may make her wonder, i dont care.. i feel my guts was right from the start.. now that i've gone ghost perhaps that will set her straight that her dream (me) is a man (yes, lost it for a moment) and won't stand for that.
Still.. i find it funny that although i knew she was rather out then with me.. i managed to let her play her nasty games for 1 year.. which certainly had an effect.. which was that i turned into a ***** for her i guess for some moments due to emotions playing high..
my guard was dropped (which was more easy because i lived celibat for 5 years) my inner man/don juan showed less, letting it just come over me without really caring.. but at that time still showing i like to spend time with her.
So never let your guard down..
Be like the sky..
Based on my experiences over the past 10 years with women and life, i noticed experienced and learned a few things, we will always keep learning/unlearning and the more we seem to know, the less we really know.
Yet, without the basic dharma knowledge/gut feeling there does seem to be pulled wool over your eyes.
Melatonine magik plays an important factor.
The remarkable thing in my case that happened and surely in other cases; you can suddenly meet a woman who sweeps the world away under you and you are being swept away by emotions.. because yes.. you like her and are attracted.
My last girl which simply didn't seem to be attracted by me while in the first 3-6 months being overly into me, kicking away other women when they approach me. And now acting like i'm the last on her list or something.
She never called except for the first months, she never initiated intimacy, she even brought me to her parents and family in another country and said that i would be her husband.
All the time nasty remarks (like psych warfare) to try and break my confidence.
Maybe that was her plan all along (to make a don juan into a *****, make a sucker out of a champion, like chip reese said.)
I've always shown myself to be a man with women.. if i don't like it .. i walked. In some cases i tried if it was possible to improve with her (teaching her) but with some.. they just wouldnt learn.
I was aware of this yet it has affected me anyway.
Not answering to my messages while she answered all other peoples messages. Posting pictures of herself with other guys on her timeline, and posting pictures on her timeline with her ex.
At first you meet a representative of a female before her true colors start to shine.. over time.. she just didnt have time for me anymore and everything i said seemed to disappear into a black hole.
Now i have know her for 1,7 years and deleted facebook 2 months ago.
I have told her from the beginning (in the first months) that some behavior she displayed is unaccpetable like coming home drunk at night and sometimes not coming home at all, or else i would walk.
The first times, she apologised and was really afraid i would walk away.. or at least.. she pretended that to be the case.
But because i got more lazy with her.. i let her go her way and she started to push to see how far she could go i guess..
So i was aware of her knowledge of the game but she underestimated me..
as i gave her ample opportunity the explain and correct herself.. im very forgiving.. yet.. the games continued and she kept being absent.. partying and drinking.. with alot of male and girl friend.. so i treat a partygirl like a partygirl and fully retreat.
I deleted my facebook account some time ago.. finally.
This may make her wonder, i dont care.. i feel my guts was right from the start.. now that i've gone ghost perhaps that will set her straight that her dream (me) is a man (yes, lost it for a moment) and won't stand for that.
Still.. i find it funny that although i knew she was rather out then with me.. i managed to let her play her nasty games for 1 year.. which certainly had an effect.. which was that i turned into a ***** for her i guess for some moments due to emotions playing high..
my guard was dropped (which was more easy because i lived celibat for 5 years) my inner man/don juan showed less, letting it just come over me without really caring.. but at that time still showing i like to spend time with her.
So never let your guard down..
Be like the sky..