captn caveman
Don Juan
I don't know if I wrote this before or if someone else did, but due to some convo's I had with a friend over the weekend, I came to remember it.
Let's talk about a young man around 20. Quality man with a bright future, healthy mind,healthy instincts, healthy body.
A young woman around 20. Good looking, and a few bonuses. (I don't see myself as shallow, but realistic).
At 20's, the woman is the sought after one. She wants sex, he wants sex. He wants her. But she, thinking he is "relationship material, too attractive, too stable, not bad.. etc", will choose the drunk drop out to have her fun with.
(I gotta quote upon a heated discussion why a quality woman wanting sex chooses the drunk brainless but good physiqued man: "It is easy for her to say goodbye to him in the morning. She wont feel emotions. but she will have her sexuality satisfied..." these words still make me shake my head in disbelief when I think of them, but I am glad for the realization, as it explains a lot)
So, at 20's she does not choose this man, but as he wants her, she has immense power over him.
He turns jerk - brains together with the decision to be less quality is a deadly weapon in a mans hands - or not, or goes for less attractive women, that is a different story.
We forward 5 years.
The man has grown up, the woman has grown old.
The man still wants sex; she wants sex too, but would be very happy with a relationship also as her qualities have lessened and the old attention wave is not present. On the other hand, the attention wave from quality me is promising a decline. So she gotta act now.
The thing is, by growing up, he has learned life, he knows women better, and also his qualities - job, social status, right mindset, etc - have grown. He has more integrated power.
He is more sought after by the same woman, by the same women. But now he has the power, he is the chooser and he is the one setting the rules.
The woman, the body not as good as before, wrinkles coming in her face, life not as expected, as if all these are not enough, also looses the power she had on him.
I believe this is the dilemma many attractive 25+ women have these days, and the root of the problems their boyfriends have to face.
The thing is, I am not feeling pity for the women. You harvest what you plant.
I wrote this, because I would appreciate good feedback, different point of views, and some refinement on this theory.
Let's talk about a young man around 20. Quality man with a bright future, healthy mind,healthy instincts, healthy body.
A young woman around 20. Good looking, and a few bonuses. (I don't see myself as shallow, but realistic).
At 20's, the woman is the sought after one. She wants sex, he wants sex. He wants her. But she, thinking he is "relationship material, too attractive, too stable, not bad.. etc", will choose the drunk drop out to have her fun with.
(I gotta quote upon a heated discussion why a quality woman wanting sex chooses the drunk brainless but good physiqued man: "It is easy for her to say goodbye to him in the morning. She wont feel emotions. but she will have her sexuality satisfied..." these words still make me shake my head in disbelief when I think of them, but I am glad for the realization, as it explains a lot)
So, at 20's she does not choose this man, but as he wants her, she has immense power over him.
He turns jerk - brains together with the decision to be less quality is a deadly weapon in a mans hands - or not, or goes for less attractive women, that is a different story.
We forward 5 years.
The man has grown up, the woman has grown old.
The man still wants sex; she wants sex too, but would be very happy with a relationship also as her qualities have lessened and the old attention wave is not present. On the other hand, the attention wave from quality me is promising a decline. So she gotta act now.
The thing is, by growing up, he has learned life, he knows women better, and also his qualities - job, social status, right mindset, etc - have grown. He has more integrated power.
He is more sought after by the same woman, by the same women. But now he has the power, he is the chooser and he is the one setting the rules.
The woman, the body not as good as before, wrinkles coming in her face, life not as expected, as if all these are not enough, also looses the power she had on him.
I believe this is the dilemma many attractive 25+ women have these days, and the root of the problems their boyfriends have to face.
The thing is, I am not feeling pity for the women. You harvest what you plant.
I wrote this, because I would appreciate good feedback, different point of views, and some refinement on this theory.
