I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
I was just on the phone with a friend of mine and he thought of a great thing to open with.
Now what we were talking about was the Mastery Series of David DeAngelo's program where a guest talks about how he was caught using a cheat sheet by a girl during an interaction and was burned for it.
So my friend jokingly said that a great opener would be to make a cheat sheet with things like this written on it:
"Hi"
"Whats your name?"
"What classes are you taking?"
"How do you like the weather?"
that kind of stuff.
Then you approach a girl, possibly one who is sitting by herself somewhere or whatever, and look at her, look at the paper, glance at her again, then focus on the paper and read off "Hi".
This has to be done in the tone of voice that makes it clear you are reading, so it has to be monotonous.
No matter what she says to that, as long as its short I suppose (though most likely she will look at you weird or laugh and say Hi back), look back down on your list, run down the list with one of your fingers as if you're looking for the next thing to say and read off "how do you like the weather?" or any other stupid line you wrote on your list.
Again this must be done in that same "I'm reading this" tone of voice.
The idea is to get a brief role play going and get her to laugh (in a good way, not in the nervous "i dont know whats going on" way).
Now what I think this conveys is a few things. Number one, if you are dressed for success, meaning you got your act together and you don't look like a d0rk, and you convey with your body language and presence that you "get it", it being the dating game, and you are just having fun, I think that can be very attractive.
The interaction if done with confidence yet this faked "I am just pretending I am a dumbass loser using a cheat sheet" body language/tone of voice/presence I think it would convey that you "get it", it would also show you have a sense of humor, and because you're just having fun and doing something silly it would also convey that you arent necessarily that interested in her, you're just having fun.
After a minute or two pretend like you can't hold it in any more and start kind of cracking up at your own lines that you wrote down, fake having difficulty reading the handwriting on the paper, etc. to kind of get her to start/keep laughing and break the tension.
Once you are both laughing out loud and having good vibes, this part of the routine is over.
Now the things I want to discuss is this:
1. What kind of things can you do during this role play to convey from the first moment that you get it and that its a joke/roleplay/fun thing to do and that you arent being serious?
2. What can you do once you're a minute or two into and she is laughing her ass off?
Cause once you open with this and set the frame that you are this funny guy who likes to joke around and "gets it", you can't get this whole "Okay I made you laugh using this gimmick to get you to talk to me and not be rejected, now its time to have a real boring conversation about school, weather, etc. because I am the next guy" thing going.
I feel like there has to be another routine stacked onto this one to really keep the interaction going in the right direction.
So what ideas do you guys have for improving this as well as helping out with what routine would come immedatley after this brief little role play has concluded?
Me and my friend just discussed this on the phone, so its not field tested yet, but if I can get it to where I feel comfortable using it, I will field test it myself.
Now what we were talking about was the Mastery Series of David DeAngelo's program where a guest talks about how he was caught using a cheat sheet by a girl during an interaction and was burned for it.
So my friend jokingly said that a great opener would be to make a cheat sheet with things like this written on it:
"Hi"
"Whats your name?"
"What classes are you taking?"
"How do you like the weather?"
that kind of stuff.
Then you approach a girl, possibly one who is sitting by herself somewhere or whatever, and look at her, look at the paper, glance at her again, then focus on the paper and read off "Hi".
This has to be done in the tone of voice that makes it clear you are reading, so it has to be monotonous.
No matter what she says to that, as long as its short I suppose (though most likely she will look at you weird or laugh and say Hi back), look back down on your list, run down the list with one of your fingers as if you're looking for the next thing to say and read off "how do you like the weather?" or any other stupid line you wrote on your list.
Again this must be done in that same "I'm reading this" tone of voice.
The idea is to get a brief role play going and get her to laugh (in a good way, not in the nervous "i dont know whats going on" way).
Now what I think this conveys is a few things. Number one, if you are dressed for success, meaning you got your act together and you don't look like a d0rk, and you convey with your body language and presence that you "get it", it being the dating game, and you are just having fun, I think that can be very attractive.
The interaction if done with confidence yet this faked "I am just pretending I am a dumbass loser using a cheat sheet" body language/tone of voice/presence I think it would convey that you "get it", it would also show you have a sense of humor, and because you're just having fun and doing something silly it would also convey that you arent necessarily that interested in her, you're just having fun.
After a minute or two pretend like you can't hold it in any more and start kind of cracking up at your own lines that you wrote down, fake having difficulty reading the handwriting on the paper, etc. to kind of get her to start/keep laughing and break the tension.
Once you are both laughing out loud and having good vibes, this part of the routine is over.
Now the things I want to discuss is this:
1. What kind of things can you do during this role play to convey from the first moment that you get it and that its a joke/roleplay/fun thing to do and that you arent being serious?
2. What can you do once you're a minute or two into and she is laughing her ass off?
Cause once you open with this and set the frame that you are this funny guy who likes to joke around and "gets it", you can't get this whole "Okay I made you laugh using this gimmick to get you to talk to me and not be rejected, now its time to have a real boring conversation about school, weather, etc. because I am the next guy" thing going.
I feel like there has to be another routine stacked onto this one to really keep the interaction going in the right direction.
So what ideas do you guys have for improving this as well as helping out with what routine would come immedatley after this brief little role play has concluded?
Me and my friend just discussed this on the phone, so its not field tested yet, but if I can get it to where I feel comfortable using it, I will field test it myself.
