It has everything to do with how they are valued and validated growing up and as young women. Lots of pretty girls are raised spoiled. The are indulged by their parents, told they are the most beautiful girl in the world, treated like princesses and stuff like that. And they ARE pretty. They get a sense of entitlement. As a woman who was NOT raised this way I was stunned when I started to realize this is how so many women are brought up. My girlfriends in college educated me about it, and I know of one cousin in my own family who was raised like that (who was, is, and always will be an insecure HOT mess).
But out in the real world pretty by itself isn't enough to make a quality person. So what happens is that these hot women eventually run into someone hotter, or someone with a better body or whatever, and suddenly they can see that they AREN'T the most beautiful girl in the world, even if they are very pretty and/or very hot. This threatens what they were raised to believe (their core belief), and so they become competitive, neurotic and insecure.
In my family (there were 4 sisters and we are all pretty and fit) looks were never emphasized. In fact I think in my family it was too much to the opposite extreme. Although all of us were/are beautiful women, that was never what my parents focused on. Rather my parents required character, impeccable manners, high grades & academic achievement, work ethic, intelligence, and emotional stability. There was discipline in the home and structure. As my sisters and I discovered that we were pretty relative to many other women, it was kind of like a cool bonus, and we each appreciated that oh, by the way, we happened to be pretty in addition to being accomplished. So that creates a different, more grounded attitude.
If you want to find hot women who also have good character your best bet to look in places where people of character hang out. Can you stumble across a hot woman with character in a bar or club? You can, because single women with character go out sometimes too, but your percentage chance of that is relatively low. You go to a volunteer organization or an exercise class, or church (not a 100% play - but higher % than the bars and clubs) or some other type activity that attracts people with certain character traits and you will find people with the sort of character you want. Then sort for looks.
Most men screen on looks first where ever they run into women, and then try looking for character (if character matters at all) second. When you approach it that way you'll see it exactly as you are witnessing. Hot women rarely have character. What if you sought out environments in which certain character traits are already selected for, and then screen for looks?
Exactly.
Most "hot" women were always their entire life considered... valuable because of their look.
Even HOT girls want to be more than "look, trophy"
All the girls I date are afraid of being a "trophy" on my shelves.
HOT girls are the most insecured especially if they have only looks... because they were always validated on "look alone" .
Remember what this site say: "hot girl have free pass"
What do you think free pass those to you?
It makes you entitled, lower your self of worth etc... because you are glorified for no reasons of your own (except for been born lucky)
I am a man, I grew up in a world where I never had to raise a finger... I learnt how to cook at 22 years old or 24 when I moved out... yet every move I made I was considered a "amazing kid" by my parents.
Trust me...all my life I was fishing for insults or complains because all my life I was "perfect" just because I was breathing.
People with a concept of self... it turns them into insecure.
So you have the HOT girl who's afraid you only love her for her look.
On the other side, you have the SUPERHOT girls (super model looking) who are super easy because all the guys are afraid of them due to their "super hot look" (except some bad boys
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A girl with values and well raised might be less insecure or aim more at the good guys, and avoid the C carousel.
Still remain: girls are insecure by nature, hot girls are even more insecure because they afraid you are only in their look (they might feel they have only that going for them... look at porn actress.. They all hot and selling their body with issues)
So yeah... they might all be "so godly" in public.. But they all have to take a break at the bath room, they have all their issues.
People who feel they have nothing to offer from the inside, and only to offer from the outside (external validation) are insecure.
Ugly girl are also insecure that's why they work more on their "inner offering aka better personality or in bed etc"
People put women on pedestal... even Disney said the princess is "always the most beautiful women physically" .
Look is easy to compare and like wifehunter said: it's goes away.
Guy will tend to go at their HB level or lower to feed their own ego. That's why "average" girls have more "sexual pressure" from the male group.
The 1% exist because they only 1%... the 99% or 80% are always fishing among the same 99 or 80.
The famous saying: 20% of the saleforce sales more than the other. 80%
If you feel, you can't be a 1% or a 20%... you'll play with 80%.
There is less competition in the 1 or 20 but sure they stronger.
At the end.. You'll always deal with insecurity.. You want one that doesn't drive you nuts if you looking for LTR
