Things are going good at the moment with my gf of 5 months. I manage to keep her IL high at most times, great sex and everything. However there is this issue with her ex-boyfriend. They broke up a month before I got into the picture. The guy lives overseas and they had a long distance relationship (seeing each other every couple months) which lasted for 2 years. Things didn't go right at one point and he initiated to break up with her, saying that she deserves a better person. Later he tried to get her back but she refused. My girlfriend told me she didn't notify her ex that she's started dating me, because he gets very jealous and she didn't want him to start asking questions. They talked regularly over the internet, until one day she changed her relationship status on facebook, then the guy stopped talking to her completely.
Now I'm worried because before the guy stopped talking to her, he asked her out once to meet (at that time we were already dating), and she agreed but somehow couldn't make it, otherwise she would of went. And my girlfriend is only telling me this now. When I told her I'm fine with her meeting up with him as long as they stay just friends, she goes "it's not like I'm gonna ask you for permission! "
Like WTF! Is this some kind of test? Trying to make me jealous?
After hearing that I make it clear to her I would walk away if she's not completely done with her ex, and that I don't get into love triangles.
Thing is, she brings him up a lot in our conversions. Normally i just act like ok whatever. She would be telling me what a good boyfriend he was, that she misses him and would like to meet him one day, because they used to be really close together and talked everyday. It's really starting to aggravate me.
How should I handle this situation? I want to let her know that I don't appreciate this behavior, yet I don't wanna come off as jealous/controlling.
Now I'm worried because before the guy stopped talking to her, he asked her out once to meet (at that time we were already dating), and she agreed but somehow couldn't make it, otherwise she would of went. And my girlfriend is only telling me this now. When I told her I'm fine with her meeting up with him as long as they stay just friends, she goes "it's not like I'm gonna ask you for permission! "
Like WTF! Is this some kind of test? Trying to make me jealous?
After hearing that I make it clear to her I would walk away if she's not completely done with her ex, and that I don't get into love triangles.
Thing is, she brings him up a lot in our conversions. Normally i just act like ok whatever. She would be telling me what a good boyfriend he was, that she misses him and would like to meet him one day, because they used to be really close together and talked everyday. It's really starting to aggravate me.
How should I handle this situation? I want to let her know that I don't appreciate this behavior, yet I don't wanna come off as jealous/controlling.