I was at work last night, and this girl was there who was new, and she was in and out of moods. I guess her bf and her are having problems. Anyway, this one guy I was talking too, who is 18, will flirt with her, but last night he made a HUGE AFC mistake.
This girl who left came back in, and said... So and so wanted me to give you her number. So while your thinking... Ok, this guy got this girls number, he got it because he said he would be the crying shoulder.
He told me... I told her that if she ever needed anything, that I would be here for her.
I was like... Uh oh, and after that, his phone starts blowing up with text messages, and I said...bro, you just ended up being the crying shoulder.
She told me last night... Your a jerk, and I said... I know, that's my goal in life, to make every woman I meet call me a jerk.
When she left work, she smiled, said by and said she'd bring me my snacks (I have her feeding me) Monday. She goes... You know, I cant feed you everyday. I was like.. that's your problem
It's funny when you see yourself on the opposite end, and see how you were that one kid many many years ago. You realize from here, that being the crying shoulder does NOT get you anywhere. Whether it be a date, kiss, or laid. Now this kid seems to possibly think by being there for her, she'll see him as the nice caring guy. Yep, she will, and he wont get it.
He did say... Well, I hope i'm not the crying shoulder for every girl out there I meet. I told him...then dont do it. He said... Well, i'm just the nice guy. And this is where he has to decide whether he wants to be her friend, or not.
All I can say is that she'll be crying to him, and complaining to him, while to me, she feeds. lol
It's just an eye opener when you actually see things being done you are NOT supposed to do as a male. Some of us hear other stories about people doing them, or you doing them yourself, but very rarely do we see someone else exhibiting that behavior.
When I saw it first hand last night, I felt sorry for the kid cause he didnt know any better. I told him what I thought, then left it at that. I figure he needs to learn some on his own, and WHY it didnt work, and why being there for her didnt make her want to go after him.
This girl who left came back in, and said... So and so wanted me to give you her number. So while your thinking... Ok, this guy got this girls number, he got it because he said he would be the crying shoulder.
He told me... I told her that if she ever needed anything, that I would be here for her.
I was like... Uh oh, and after that, his phone starts blowing up with text messages, and I said...bro, you just ended up being the crying shoulder.
She told me last night... Your a jerk, and I said... I know, that's my goal in life, to make every woman I meet call me a jerk.
When she left work, she smiled, said by and said she'd bring me my snacks (I have her feeding me) Monday. She goes... You know, I cant feed you everyday. I was like.. that's your problem
It's funny when you see yourself on the opposite end, and see how you were that one kid many many years ago. You realize from here, that being the crying shoulder does NOT get you anywhere. Whether it be a date, kiss, or laid. Now this kid seems to possibly think by being there for her, she'll see him as the nice caring guy. Yep, she will, and he wont get it.
He did say... Well, I hope i'm not the crying shoulder for every girl out there I meet. I told him...then dont do it. He said... Well, i'm just the nice guy. And this is where he has to decide whether he wants to be her friend, or not.
All I can say is that she'll be crying to him, and complaining to him, while to me, she feeds. lol
It's just an eye opener when you actually see things being done you are NOT supposed to do as a male. Some of us hear other stories about people doing them, or you doing them yourself, but very rarely do we see someone else exhibiting that behavior.
When I saw it first hand last night, I felt sorry for the kid cause he didnt know any better. I told him what I thought, then left it at that. I figure he needs to learn some on his own, and WHY it didnt work, and why being there for her didnt make her want to go after him.