Mr. Fingers
Senior Don Juan
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Alright, there is a lot of debate amongst my fellow players on how you should treat this whole phone game, particularly how to open a good conversation and generate some interest. So I would like to share some techniques with you that work rather well, if I do say so myself.
Before I begin, the most important thing I want you to understand is that the phone/email/IM are all just tools that you use to meet her in person, so keep the convo interesting but don't ramble on for more than say 10-15 minutes or you have already wittled away valuable conversation time MINUS the kino! Your goal here is to get her live and in person.
Now, the biggest question is how do you initiate? Granted if this girl already digs you, you can pretty much say anything as long as you don't make an ass out of yourself, and you will still be able to close for a meeting. A lot of times, if the IL is already there, you can just call , fluff for a bit and politely invite her to go out with you. (yawn!) But how can you make your phone presence more interesting and memorable enough to get her dripping with anticipation for that meeting?
Personally I like to catch girls off guard right from the start and pretend I don't know them when I call. i do a little role-playing, throw in some C&F and they end up loving me for it! Some examples? Sure.
Met this girl at a party and we were fluff talking about our careers. I transitioned the convo into dreams and ambitions. Found out she was studying to join the circus of all things and she was into trapeze, juggling, the whole 9 yards. We had a great convo and I got her number. A few days later I recorded myself making monkey noises and dubbed my voice over itself so it sounded like a room full of chimps (you'll see why in a minute) Afterwards I rang her while the tape of monkey sounds played softly in the background and my opener was something like this:
GIRL: Hello?
ME: Uh, yes Hi! Um, I am looking for a girl who can show me how to juggle monkeys..
GIRL: Who's this? (already laughing a little)
ME: (covering the phone) Bobo! Put that down NOW!! (Uncovering the phone)Oh man, I'm so sorry about that. You see, I have these three monkeys over here and I am a little short on cash these days so I figure if I can just get this skill down pat, I can make some decent money on the street with my monkey juggling
GIRL: (Cracking up) Who IS this???
ME: (Long Pause)Oh damn, I am offended now. You don't recognize the smooth sound of my voice?(bold part said in deep, sexy tone.)
GIRL: OMG, ...Fingers??!
ME:
See how I let the mystery and humor build? This same approach can be applied universally
I met another girl on the street. Opened her by asking where I could find a cologne shop. (Girls not only love to give directions, but are taken by a man who is not afraid to ask for them!) She showed me the way and we walked together for a bit. I asked where she was headed. She told me she was going to Dance class. Turns out she is a dance instructor. I was like "Cool!" We started vibing on the whole dance tip and I told her how much I love music and for me dancing is like the ultimate meditiation. I had the most fun talking to her. She put me on to where some of the lesser known clubs are at and I gave her a pen and paper to write down the addresses of the clubs with directions. She volunteered her number at the very bottom and said I should call her for a dancer's night out. I thanked her, gave her a kiss on the cheek and bounced. That week was hectic, so I didn't call her back until the following weekend. This is how it went down.
GIRL: Hello?
ME: Hi! I am wondering if you can help me out here. I am looking for a great dance teacher to show me a few moves, could you recommend anyone special?
GIRL: (Laughing)
ME:Yeah, you see I already know how to dance a little but would like to learn some more ... sensual moves that would require some private lessons..
GIRL: (Playing along) Oh really? How private are we talking here?
ME: Intimately private!
She finally caves
GIRL: Who is this?
ME: Why, darling it's the man of your dreams! (pause)Well..that is if the man of your dreams occasionally gets lost and can't find his way to the perfume shop
GIRL: (All Excited) Fingersssss!
You get the point, keep them on their toes, play with them, tease them and right when the vibe is at its nicest, you come off with "Sayyyy, what are you doing right now?" she answers with whatever "Well, I am ten times more exciting than that so why don't you meet up with me? I am heading to XYZ in a little while and I think it would be fun if we linked up" If she is busy, close her for another night. But you are almost guaranteed to get a meeting with this approach!
Get her in person and keep that charm flowing. Remember to be yourself...not the fake scared YOU that anxiety/society has created, but the REAL YOU, The one who is comfortable in his skin and loves to have a good time. You...DO like to have a good time...don't you?
Whatever you do, don't worry about scoring! Flirt with her, touch her, have a blast and all the while, imagine me cheering for you from a thousand miles away..because I am!
Go get 'em Tiger!
Mr. Fingers
Before I begin, the most important thing I want you to understand is that the phone/email/IM are all just tools that you use to meet her in person, so keep the convo interesting but don't ramble on for more than say 10-15 minutes or you have already wittled away valuable conversation time MINUS the kino! Your goal here is to get her live and in person.
Now, the biggest question is how do you initiate? Granted if this girl already digs you, you can pretty much say anything as long as you don't make an ass out of yourself, and you will still be able to close for a meeting. A lot of times, if the IL is already there, you can just call , fluff for a bit and politely invite her to go out with you. (yawn!) But how can you make your phone presence more interesting and memorable enough to get her dripping with anticipation for that meeting?
Personally I like to catch girls off guard right from the start and pretend I don't know them when I call. i do a little role-playing, throw in some C&F and they end up loving me for it! Some examples? Sure.
Met this girl at a party and we were fluff talking about our careers. I transitioned the convo into dreams and ambitions. Found out she was studying to join the circus of all things and she was into trapeze, juggling, the whole 9 yards. We had a great convo and I got her number. A few days later I recorded myself making monkey noises and dubbed my voice over itself so it sounded like a room full of chimps (you'll see why in a minute) Afterwards I rang her while the tape of monkey sounds played softly in the background and my opener was something like this:
GIRL: Hello?
ME: Uh, yes Hi! Um, I am looking for a girl who can show me how to juggle monkeys..
GIRL: Who's this? (already laughing a little)
ME: (covering the phone) Bobo! Put that down NOW!! (Uncovering the phone)Oh man, I'm so sorry about that. You see, I have these three monkeys over here and I am a little short on cash these days so I figure if I can just get this skill down pat, I can make some decent money on the street with my monkey juggling
GIRL: (Cracking up) Who IS this???
ME: (Long Pause)Oh damn, I am offended now. You don't recognize the smooth sound of my voice?(bold part said in deep, sexy tone.)
GIRL: OMG, ...Fingers??!
ME:
See how I let the mystery and humor build? This same approach can be applied universally
I met another girl on the street. Opened her by asking where I could find a cologne shop. (Girls not only love to give directions, but are taken by a man who is not afraid to ask for them!) She showed me the way and we walked together for a bit. I asked where she was headed. She told me she was going to Dance class. Turns out she is a dance instructor. I was like "Cool!" We started vibing on the whole dance tip and I told her how much I love music and for me dancing is like the ultimate meditiation. I had the most fun talking to her. She put me on to where some of the lesser known clubs are at and I gave her a pen and paper to write down the addresses of the clubs with directions. She volunteered her number at the very bottom and said I should call her for a dancer's night out. I thanked her, gave her a kiss on the cheek and bounced. That week was hectic, so I didn't call her back until the following weekend. This is how it went down.
GIRL: Hello?
ME: Hi! I am wondering if you can help me out here. I am looking for a great dance teacher to show me a few moves, could you recommend anyone special?
GIRL: (Laughing)
ME:Yeah, you see I already know how to dance a little but would like to learn some more ... sensual moves that would require some private lessons..
GIRL: (Playing along) Oh really? How private are we talking here?
ME: Intimately private!
She finally caves
GIRL: Who is this?
ME: Why, darling it's the man of your dreams! (pause)Well..that is if the man of your dreams occasionally gets lost and can't find his way to the perfume shop
GIRL: (All Excited) Fingersssss!
You get the point, keep them on their toes, play with them, tease them and right when the vibe is at its nicest, you come off with "Sayyyy, what are you doing right now?" she answers with whatever "Well, I am ten times more exciting than that so why don't you meet up with me? I am heading to XYZ in a little while and I think it would be fun if we linked up" If she is busy, close her for another night. But you are almost guaranteed to get a meeting with this approach!
Get her in person and keep that charm flowing. Remember to be yourself...not the fake scared YOU that anxiety/society has created, but the REAL YOU, The one who is comfortable in his skin and loves to have a good time. You...DO like to have a good time...don't you?
Whatever you do, don't worry about scoring! Flirt with her, touch her, have a blast and all the while, imagine me cheering for you from a thousand miles away..because I am!
Go get 'em Tiger!
Mr. Fingers
