RazorRambo24
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On SoSuave, we're all at different stages of life, thus being able to bring alot of different perspectives to the table. As someone who's at the top of my game at 31 yrs old, I can look back and safely say the one thing that I needed to hone to be where I'm at today is:
DISCIPLINE.
Discipline is what helps us say No to the things that are keeping us stagnant and say Yes to and be Consistent with the Habits that will help us progress and ultimately lead to success.
If you can define 3-5 habits that will inevitably lead to success in major areas of your life, and stick to those utilizing Discipline and Consistency, you will inevitably reach your goals.
Why do people struggle with Discipline?
Sadly, the truth is a lack of self respect and a lack of a vision of who they want to be/lack of goals of where they want to be in life. Why Self Respect? When people respect themselves, the won't tolerate bad behavior/detrimental habits because they like who they are and can see themselves becoming even better. They are comparing themselves to people they look up to in a healthy way and aware of their goals on a daily basis.
The people who lack self respect usually don't see themselves going anywhere or don't like what they already see, so theres little momentum or motivation to keep them going. Instead--they choose the easy Route.
What is the Easy Route?
The easy route is going after what you know will make you feel good in the moment aka instant gratification rather than going for the stuff you dont feel like doing, despite knowing that in the long run it will help you reach your goals.
Why is it hard for some?
Most peoples lives are already off balance and its like a tandem with everything in their life just throwing off the balance.. like having spark plug wires but plugged in the wrong sequence. Anyone who knows about spark plugs knows if the wires aren't plugged in following the specific sequence, nothing will fire right. This is most peoples lives.
Explain? Basically, lets say you don't sleep on time.. You sleep late everynight and you know your brain wakes up as soon as it gets light out.. So you are already lacking proper sleep, you wake up groggy and lacking energy and focus.. This will already cause issues in areas of your day.
Lets say you dont have a proper routine and choose to eat at whatever different time a day, etc.. your brain and consciousness has no discipline for consistency because instead of expecting you to eat lunch at 12, workout at 5 pm, and then eat dinner at 6 pm, It has no idea when you will eat because you don't have a proper routine.
The power of Routine:
Thats why Routine is so powerful. Once you create a routine that works around your schedule and makes it easy for you to operate, "not feeling" like doing stuff becomes a thing of the past.
MOst of the time we slack off because we don't have anyone to tell us what to do at a certain time. Think about our jobs, at work we usually get everything we need to get done. Why is that? Because we're told what to do and we know what to do at what time.. Routines work the same way! Except you don't have anyone on your ass to make sure you're doing what you're supposed to, and you dont have the paycheck incentive.
Being Prepared
Being prepared is half the battle. You take your average person.. They are most likely to go and do something they are procrastinating about or anxious about when they already have things prepared in advanced. ie: If you want to go to that job interview, have the outfit prepared and ironed ahead of time and right next to you when you wake up. Have an alarm set up. Practice questions and answers in your head ahead of time to make things easy fo you and alleviate anxiety.
IF you planned on going to a big event for the first time, prepare your outfit out, do your research on the event, buy the tickets FIRST and foremost.. Otherwise procrastination will prevent you from even trying.
Final Notes
While the illusion is that some of us have it easy and we're just inclined to be successful, thats complete bullsh.t. I grew up with ADHD, a mental disorder that is notorious for people not getting their sht together because not only is our attention spans and focus bad, we get distracted so easily and often , while a normal person might have 1 or 2 main hobbie sor interests, someone with ADHD can have 15 different interests to distract them in all different directions.. we also get bored very easily because our dopamine system doe snot work like everone elses and we get dopamine in bursts rather than a streamlined consistent amount of it.
For myself developing discipline was tough in many ways. But I think the biggest thing was knowing just how badly I wanted to be successful in life. For me, even with women (while im mostly talking about success in money, fitness, and all other areas besides women), the consistent factor was going out regularly and hitting the clubs and bars regularly and cultivating the skills and confidence. The other thing was knowing who I wanted to be in life and making a clear image of that.
While I mentioned ADHD in a bad light, people with ADHD however teach others a valuable thing.. about momentum. Because we require momentum to keep our motivation chemicals going.. We need to be consistent and constantly achieving to move forward in one direction and to be happy.
Edit: fixed typos
DISCIPLINE.
Discipline is what helps us say No to the things that are keeping us stagnant and say Yes to and be Consistent with the Habits that will help us progress and ultimately lead to success.
If you can define 3-5 habits that will inevitably lead to success in major areas of your life, and stick to those utilizing Discipline and Consistency, you will inevitably reach your goals.
Why do people struggle with Discipline?
Sadly, the truth is a lack of self respect and a lack of a vision of who they want to be/lack of goals of where they want to be in life. Why Self Respect? When people respect themselves, the won't tolerate bad behavior/detrimental habits because they like who they are and can see themselves becoming even better. They are comparing themselves to people they look up to in a healthy way and aware of their goals on a daily basis.
The people who lack self respect usually don't see themselves going anywhere or don't like what they already see, so theres little momentum or motivation to keep them going. Instead--they choose the easy Route.
What is the Easy Route?
The easy route is going after what you know will make you feel good in the moment aka instant gratification rather than going for the stuff you dont feel like doing, despite knowing that in the long run it will help you reach your goals.
Why is it hard for some?
Most peoples lives are already off balance and its like a tandem with everything in their life just throwing off the balance.. like having spark plug wires but plugged in the wrong sequence. Anyone who knows about spark plugs knows if the wires aren't plugged in following the specific sequence, nothing will fire right. This is most peoples lives.
Explain? Basically, lets say you don't sleep on time.. You sleep late everynight and you know your brain wakes up as soon as it gets light out.. So you are already lacking proper sleep, you wake up groggy and lacking energy and focus.. This will already cause issues in areas of your day.
Lets say you dont have a proper routine and choose to eat at whatever different time a day, etc.. your brain and consciousness has no discipline for consistency because instead of expecting you to eat lunch at 12, workout at 5 pm, and then eat dinner at 6 pm, It has no idea when you will eat because you don't have a proper routine.
The power of Routine:
Thats why Routine is so powerful. Once you create a routine that works around your schedule and makes it easy for you to operate, "not feeling" like doing stuff becomes a thing of the past.
MOst of the time we slack off because we don't have anyone to tell us what to do at a certain time. Think about our jobs, at work we usually get everything we need to get done. Why is that? Because we're told what to do and we know what to do at what time.. Routines work the same way! Except you don't have anyone on your ass to make sure you're doing what you're supposed to, and you dont have the paycheck incentive.
Being Prepared
Being prepared is half the battle. You take your average person.. They are most likely to go and do something they are procrastinating about or anxious about when they already have things prepared in advanced. ie: If you want to go to that job interview, have the outfit prepared and ironed ahead of time and right next to you when you wake up. Have an alarm set up. Practice questions and answers in your head ahead of time to make things easy fo you and alleviate anxiety.
IF you planned on going to a big event for the first time, prepare your outfit out, do your research on the event, buy the tickets FIRST and foremost.. Otherwise procrastination will prevent you from even trying.
Final Notes
While the illusion is that some of us have it easy and we're just inclined to be successful, thats complete bullsh.t. I grew up with ADHD, a mental disorder that is notorious for people not getting their sht together because not only is our attention spans and focus bad, we get distracted so easily and often , while a normal person might have 1 or 2 main hobbie sor interests, someone with ADHD can have 15 different interests to distract them in all different directions.. we also get bored very easily because our dopamine system doe snot work like everone elses and we get dopamine in bursts rather than a streamlined consistent amount of it.
For myself developing discipline was tough in many ways. But I think the biggest thing was knowing just how badly I wanted to be successful in life. For me, even with women (while im mostly talking about success in money, fitness, and all other areas besides women), the consistent factor was going out regularly and hitting the clubs and bars regularly and cultivating the skills and confidence. The other thing was knowing who I wanted to be in life and making a clear image of that.
While I mentioned ADHD in a bad light, people with ADHD however teach others a valuable thing.. about momentum. Because we require momentum to keep our motivation chemicals going.. We need to be consistent and constantly achieving to move forward in one direction and to be happy.
Edit: fixed typos
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