Text Response to: Do You Have Facebook?

[ZenoB]

A couple text exchanges I had this weekend with two chicks I've recently #-closed:

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#1- Met her a few nights ago and wanted to txt her and set up a date. I didn't ask her out the first text because I wanted to see how she would respond. If she didn't, I would call her (2 strikes).

Me- Hey, how are you. Blablabla. Doing any more partying this weekend? -ZenoB

Girl #1- Hahaha. Blablabla. No, still recovering from the other night. Do you have facebook? X

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#2- We had previously arranged 1 wk ago to meet for drinks in my city.

Girl #2- Hey ZenoB how're you? Don't think I don't wanna see you, but I'm sick and can't go to your city tonight. I'll give you a call when I get better to meet soon, ok? Do you have facebook? X


I have already responded to these texts without answering the facebook question. Just ignoring it. I could lie and say I don't have it but I don't like to do that. I just don't want them to see my facebook until after we've gone on a date. I want to keep the mystery.

Actually, with some girls I number-close, and some I facebook-close. It kind of depends on how our interaction goes, and also, I don't want all of my plates to be on facebook. So I'm sort of figuring out how to juggle both games and experiment with how each works for me.

My question to y'all is can you think of a better response than ignoring it? And do you think that by ignoring it, am I helping or hurting things?

 

[RSanders219]

reply with "Maybe.. So are you stalking me now?! "

This shows your playful and that you're not afraid to poke fun at her.

 

[Jack-Torrance]

reply with "Maybe.. So are you stalking me now?! "

This shows your playful and that you're not afraid to poke fun at her.

F-f-f-flawless victory!

 

[tryst type]

or reply with something like "of course i do. but that's only for friends, acquaintances, or good kissers. we shall see where you fall"

or "i do but the "poke" option is more fun in person. but not the way you're thinking perv!"

 

[ZenoB]

Awesome, thanks guys- these are way better than ignoring the question. A friend of mine also suggested this one-

"I don't add people to facebook that I want to sleep with."

 

[HolyG]

Awesome, thanks guys- these are way better than ignoring the question. A friend of mine also suggested this one-

"I don't add people to facebook that I want to sleep with."

nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
:nono:

 

[bukowski_merit]

Are we writing a joke book here gentleman?

Girl #1- Hahaha. Blablabla. No, still recovering from the other night. Do you have facebook? X

You don't have to answer her question at all. It's such a boring question anyway. I'd focus more on her "still recovering from the other night"...

"Yeah, im still recovering too. My abs are still sore."

"Abs?"

.... I hope you can fill in the rest and understand why my abs might be sore and why that's a good way to move the conversation...

Girl #2- Hey ZenoB how're you? Don't think I don't wanna see you, but I'm sick and can't go to your city tonight. I'll give you a call when I get better to meet soon, ok? Do you have facebook? X

Fvck that! In this case - she's trying to use the "Do you have facebook?" to distract you from her flakiness! It's a common technique used by just about everyone when they lie (or deliver a message they feel the other person will be dissapointed with).

You can try to be cute, C+F, etc. here. But, it's not going to get you any further. Putting her in a position where you're calling her a perv, a stalker, or telling her she's going to kiss you - is "last ditch" at best. It's feasible in person, but to use in text, when a woman is flaking on you - is an almost guarenteed fail attempt to get her into a frame she probably doesn't want to be in.

The woman just showed low interest in you - but you want to save face by "acting" like she has high interest and hoping she plays along with it?

"I don't add people to facebook that I want to sleep with."

Not good. First, telling a girl "you want" to have sex with her is a good idea?

Second, You're forcing her to make a decision on if she's a slut or not (or wants to appear to be one to you.) You should not put her in a position where she has to do this... ever! Everything should seem like it's happening by some destiny of love (or lust).

Leading a conversation into a place where you can transition into a more sexual uprontness is a lot better than just dropping sexual interest randomly.... ESPECIALLY when you're not in the direct physical prescence of the person (text, facebook, phone, email, etc.)

Third, again - you're trying to force her to accept a frame. This will only work in your imagination.


Do what you want though.... It can't hurt to learn through experience.

 

[Masculinity]

I would have responded with; "Faaacebook? For what, so that you can print out my pictures, put them on your room walls and stalk me?" :nono: I don't think so, kiddo haha

Ps: She'll google you or search for you on FaceBook afther you say this of course! I deactivated my profile--it's a waste of time.

 

[ZenoB]

Leading a conversation into a place where you can transition into a more sexual uprontness is a lot better than just dropping sexual interest randomly.... ESPECIALLY when you're not in the direct physical prescence of the person (text, facebook, phone, email, etc.)

Third, again - you're trying to force her to accept a frame. This will only work in your imagination.


Do what you want though.... It can't hurt to learn through experience.

Excellent advice, thanks!

 

[Nutz]

reply with "Maybe.. So are you stalking me now?! "

This shows your playful and that you're not afraid to poke fun at her.

If I answered her I'd go even more mysterious/one-word-game and just answer "yes". Make her invest even more by forcing her to ask if she can add you and so on.

Like someone else mentioned, get off that thread. Quite frankly you're already bordering on texting too much. A few quick fluff texts and then go for the logistics.