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Tell me... Is this 100% correct?

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I will not say the person who posted this... Also, I am not saying that this person is wrong but I want to see the opinions from some of you... :

While at a club, never attempt to approach women as you would in any other setting. Simply begin to dance and they will come to you, introductions and all that can be done later. This has proved to be the most effective tactic to use when trying to meet women in nightclubs, but in order to utilize it you must first learn to dance! The good news is, you don't have to dance well to attract women, it's not how you dance that attracts them, it's the confidence you display when you get out on the dance floor.
Let's cut this paragraph short...

While at a club, never attempt to approach women as you would in any other setting. Simply begin to dance and they will come to you
I've heard from so many that a man should always approach a chick first to show that you are not scared. Also, not all women will come to you just because you are dancing...
He says later on that you must learn to dance in order to get the women to come up to you...

Anyway, I disagree in this part... when he says that women will approach do you once you start dancing. There are many OTHER guys who dance at the club, so does this mean the chicks will dance with all the guys there waiting for an approach?

Women will approach you by your looks at the club in the beginning because they do not know your personality and the kind of person you are.... They will (or MAY) try to approach you if they see you dancing with a few girls one at a time.... why? because they might feel that you are someone who knows how to get a chick.

I only disagree with one part from his post, though. What do you think of it?
 

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Not everyone dances when they go clubbing so the idea that you MUST dance to pick up a chic probably comes from guys have don't go their in the first place.
 

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Anyone who doesn't approach in a club/social setting is a WUSS.

From what I can read, the author of that particular quote is making excuses for not approaching.
 

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That would be incorrect. Not approaching is not being a wuss.

If you go to a club and you are a good dancer and you just go DANCE with some friends etc and just don't give a fvck about girls (don't give anyone particular looks or anything) but just dance like hell and have a good time you'll get ALOT of attention and action. Girls will come to you, start grinding etc.

Dancing good = attractive. If you also are an attractive individual and dance good it's even better.

No you don't have to be a dancer, just showing you have fun and don't give a fvck is enough but being a good dancer does help alot.
 

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I really don't understand why some would make excused by making threads like this...
 

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In the dating game, nothing is 100% correct.
 

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Getting a chick (a hot one) to approach you first in a club.... what are the chances?
You have to be a great dancer, not act like a freak (by staring at the hot chick like she's the only human being there with you), and have a little bit of looks, don't you think? Unless the people in the club (your friends or whoever) or cheering for you, and the chick checks you out.

I just don't think this let-the-woman-approach-me-first tip would work on everybody.
 

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I'll be the first to say, I'm not that good a dancer, and I certainly don't THINK I'm the red-hot studmuffin that I make myself out to be, but it HAS worked for me.

When you go to a club, look at it as a big party and get to know people there. Don't be afraid to talk to women, but don't force every conversation to be an "approach." That post you quoted is NOT an excuse for you to hover inside your comfort zone and think, "Oh well, if I danced, they would be all over me" and then sitting at the bar and NEITHER dancing NOR talking to anyone. You're a boring drunk at that point.

Someone said that "not everyone dances when they go clubbing." GIRLS DANCE WHEN THEY GO CLUBBING. That's why they go...to shake their azzes and attract men. True, not all girls dance in a club...only the adventurous ones. (I.e. the ones YOU WANT)

Nothing's 100% true. But learning to dance in a dance club can be beneficial. Paying cover to go to a dance club and just sit and drink is like paying for a gym membership because you like the juice bar.
 

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I personally at clubs wait for approach invitations, watch for lonewolves to seperate from their groups and pay attention to possible "corner dwellers" or chicks not really in to the whole scene.

AI obviously its go time.

Lonewolves have just lost the support of their group and are at their most vulnerable to being whisked away to another are of the club away from friends/obstacles site.

"corner chicks" man thats the gold. Yeah they aint "fun fun fun" but then is some britney spears wanna be dance club rat really "fun fun fun" or is a ****in chick you can get an easy assumption of rapport and extraction for some sex "fun fun fun"?

"corner" chicks are the ones that got dragged out cause they are hermits, they maybe go to the gym, or do weird arts and crafts instead. Maybe look really good and got dumped by some guy who got sick of their bull**** so they have been resistant to ****ing that guy they work with in the payday loan place, cause hes the only guy she meets and hes a ****in fat old man.

Above story a mini field report of a chick i laid, others like her as well who were corner chicks.

Nope ya dont have to dance, less ya like to that is, more direct and effiecient ways of getting a lay. Dancing just gets ya a bunch of attention i find. Attention isnt all that sexy to me, less its of the deep eye contact "i want you" kind.

"make the ho say no"
 

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The real Gunwitch or just some b1tch?


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Well I would agree with the man who posted the quote i posted 100% if i had a little proof here lol...

Well anyway, I still do not agree that it's not the best tactic for most of us here... It MIGHT be the best for the poster as somebody from the boards have pointed out, but i still doubt it is for most of you guys out there. I just think that if you go up to them, give them a nice smile and dance... i say that shows more of interest.
 

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Have you posted here b4?
 

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Well, I've approached plenty of women at clubs and usually just end up having a decent conversation and nothing more. Most of the girls who aren't dancing are either not drunk enough, or won't dance anyway. The best times I've had have been when I got out on the dance floor and started dancing. I simply dance and then make eye contact with a girl who is dancing with one of her friends. After she breaks contact, I move over to her and hold out my hand. If she grabs my hand, then I know it's on. If she shys away, I know she isn't interested. Simple as that.

I've also had girls approach me to dance while I was dancing. A few weekends ago I was dancing and someone grabbed my shoulder from behind and pulled me. I turned around and this girl pulled me over to her friend to dance with. The girl was HOT, and we danced all night. Ended up spending the night with her. So yeah...just get out there and dance and the rest will happen. Still try to approach girls with the simple outstretched hand while you dance, but if they don't accept, don't sweat it...keep dancing and eventually you will find a girl who wants to dance and have a good time. :)
 

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It obviously isn't 100% true, there is nothing on earth that is 100% true. You can only make forward predictions off of consistency in the past.

For me personally, this 'method' has worked for me countless times. I like to dance, I got to bars/clubs with dancefloors, sometimes I'll make conversation and hang out, then bring the girl to the floor. Other times I'll just let loose by myself, flash a few smiles, and notice who's interested. They don't always approach me, but if its a group of friends, and the hot one changes position in the circle so that she's closer to me, I'll just go up and dance with her.

To tell you the truth, I usually don't go straight up and grab her and grind my crotch in her ass, I'll dance with a foot or two seperation, if shes dancing/eye contact, then I grind.

I think this is pretty good, because I'm generally as good a dancer or better than the girls (who've learned to just rock and forth shaking their ass) it makes them self conscious. Knocks them off their high horse quick

just be confident, thats rule #1
 

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They come to you

Just hang out with your friends and ignore them. They come to you like flies to crap. Once they come to you you need good conversation but getting them to come to you is the easiest part.

I agree with the other posters. Confidence is the most important thing
 

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I was at a club lastnight, just danced with some friends of mine and some very sexy tall brunette (she was like 6'0 or 6'1 maybe) started coming up to dance with me and that's when I took control and our little catnmouse dance started. We would dance upto eachother, grind, force eachother up a wall or something then walk away and freestyle then go back etc. Woke up on her friends couch with her wrapped in my arms with a blanket over us and my pants on my knees :p :p
 
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