Getting over oneitis
It took me 3 months to accept my oneitis didn't want me. It does happen slowly and takes a long time, but you will get over her eventually, here are my tips:
1. Think of all the negative things she's done to you.
2. Think of stuff you don't like about her, personality, looks,etc. There is always something. I don't care how beautiful she is, she's not perfect.
3. Don't call her, don't text message her and try not to see her until you are COMPLETELY OVER HER. This was my biggest problem, as my oneitis was in the same classes as me and we had to work together.
4. Use this time for self-improvement. What is it she didn't like about you? Were you too nice, too desperate? Work on your weakpoints (always room for self-improvement!).
6. The fact that you are having trouble getting over her might been you're not experienced enough with women and don't meet them regularly. PRACTICE approaching, conversation, etc!
7. Delete all e-mails, text messages and throw away any letters that might remind you of her.
8. Go out us much as you can, take up a hobby to keep you busy.
9. Try and date other women, or at least meet them and ask them on a date. It helps you distract yourself. I went after two women after my oneitis (one of them was a friend! eek!
) but it helps you forget.
10. Are you sure you like her that much? IF you could have any women you know\have seen, would you pick her or someone else?
Spend a lot of time thinking about her? Repeat the advice I (and others) have given you, during that time. Do this until you are OVER her, but REALLY over her. When you are really over her you won't be thinking "lets just be friends" and you will GENUINELY not care whether you see her again or not.
Be strong!
Santos