soulforge
Master Don Juan
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Eljuego said:You probably got hooked on her drama. If she was stubborn and didn't want to resolve things even after a petty argument, she probably left you emotionally stuck....she created in you a need to resolve the issue, but she was unwilling.....that need is still there. Accept that it's there, but let it die.
By the way, being stubborn and/or angry in my opinion is the only red flag that you need not to proceed. If you have someone who communicates like a spoiled child and not like an adult, you're fighting a losing battle.
She has nothing to offer you.
Are the things that are attracting you to her, qualities that you are missing?
If I were you:
Cut contact. (the need has to die, then you can see clearly)
Delete account from POF (take a break, you've got stung, let it heal)
Social life (how is your social life? How many clubs or activities are you involved in?
Walk (long walks, clear your mind)
Gym (like others have said)
Take a trip (weekend away)
plan your week ahead (fill your diary with activities and social events, think of the future, leave the past in the past)
Keep ya head up
here is the thing.. i am finding it difficult to make a decision.. some days i feel like i made the right choice.. and then some days i feel regret.. i feel like maybe i should have given her more time to calm down.. even tho i had given her a week to try and talk to me
i feel like reaching out, but there are a few things that are stopping me..
01. She seems stubborn & unwilling to try & resolve problems.. seems overly sensitive.. if i got back with her, it is absolutely inevitable that we will at some point have an argument & i could quite possibly end up in this situation all over again if she stops communicating..
02. She associates with & knows lots of men.. i can also see this becoming a problem or causing conflict in the future!
03. She has been back on POF for a couple of weeks.. there is a high probability she has banged some guys, or has jumped into a rebound.. if i reach out now, i could get rejected by her, which will slow down my healing process
04. I was dating her 4 months.. i may well get over her in another few months.. but if i get back with her & things go wrong, then i could be going through a whole lot of pain for much much longer!
It Just seems like a major risk now... i think my best bet is, i should take another month out of this & see how i feel then.. even if that means, she is gone for good