LostAndConfused
Master Don Juan
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Well alot of people in this forum ask questions which wonder why girls aren't attracted to them. So, this is a pseudo-article to explain how to be a man, the way I see it! I'll discuss the major inhibitors that
Part I: Intro
Looks aside, the average, non-AFC man really should be able to draw attraction from women, as it's natural. The key word there is "man." Age really has nothing to do with whether you are a boy or a man. Age is just a number; it is only the number of years you've had to learn to become a man. I've seen thirteen year olds come off towards ladies as "men" and alternatively, people in their twenties and thirties seen "men" who act like boys. Intellectual maturity doesn't have much to do with it either. You can still laugh at poop-jokes and be a man, I assure you.
. If you pull ANYTHING from what I'm writing, pull out this (and I know its a little extreme, but it applies to what I'm trying to say here):
Girls, Ladies, Women, however the hell you want to call them, from the time they get interested in males, want MEN, not BOYS. You want to be a man.
Here is only ten of the thousands of examples of what a MAN is like:
*Able to command attention whenever he enters a room.
*Holds himself high, despite adversity.
*Stays confident (see this as a recurring theme throughout this site?)
*Leads women.
*Generally receives respect from all, although not everyone has to like him.
*Starts his own social circles, or is in a circle that perfectly matches who he is.
*Doesn't change for no one, neither another male, nor a b****.
*Doesn't get down from rejection, takes it as a learning experience, whether he learns he made a mistake, or if he learns that the girl he was gaming was a ho.
*Doesn't let women control him.
*(This is the most important one, and I'll explain why): Is a master of fear, and a master of what destiny he can control.
Part II: From Fear 2 Motivation
Now why did I say that being a master of fear is the most important feature of a man? Does it even matter coming from a lost and confused dude?
Fear is a natural instinct used for survival. It holds people back Fear rules the weak. Fear rules women, and boys. Men are masters of fear because they know when to give into fear and when to transform fear into motivation. Obviously, trying a backflip on concrete when you've never landed one in your life is a good opportunity to listen to fear, but in most other *reasonable* circumstances, fear is a great inhibitor for humans. But when you, say, approach a cute girl(sounds reasonable, doesn't it?), fear will often hold back the ones who haven't conquered it. To overcome fear is to rise up to the divine...to bypass artificial human limitations placed on yourself by yourself or others.
With this being said, how does one turn fear into motivation, or into something else that gives men an advantage? There are thousands of ways. People develop their own way to dispose of fear. For example, Neil Strauss, the author of The Game, uses the three-second rule, so he doesn't even give fear a chance to hold him back from talking to a girl.
I challenge you to come up with your own way of conquering fear, or as many people here call it, AA (approach anxiety). But I feel its more than approach anxiety. Fear can allow women to find a weakness in your character that allows them to be the dominant role in a relationship. Fear can stop you from making out or sexing that girl of your dreams.
Personally, fear recently stopped me from making out with this girl who I had been gaming for about a week, and she showed both great attraction and interest in me, but she had gone out with an AFC in order to see if I could step up to the plate as a man. She kept complaining to me about how he doesn't hold her and kiss her the way a real guy should, and when she gave me the chance when isolated, I backed down from kissing her. Fear won over me, and although it will still happen to me as I'm still on that road to becoming a man, I'll learn from that experience and it will make me better.
Now, I approach fear different than the way Neil Strauss does. Before every martial arts test, before every approach with a girl, before every fight. I begin by asking myself, "WHAT is holding me back?" I tell myself "Fear is holding me back. But not just fear, it is the idea that I might lose." Try visualizing fear as Bowser...blocking me (Mario) from the princess (the goal.) Of course, we all get the shaft from time to time (That fück1ng båstard toad who tells you that the princess is in another castle), but it only takes you to the next world, getting you closer and closer to that goal. Thus, I turn fear into motivation. The mere act of throwing fear to the side and moving on makes me harder ( ho ho), better, faster, stronger lol. I said something like this in a thread where a guy asked for motivation:
Every cute girl you don't talk to because you're afraid, every opening you intentionally ignore from a girl, every time you don't make out with that hot babe whose into YOU, not your bro, makes ME a better DJ than YOU.
Being able to go through fear is only one of the steps to becoming a desirable man to women. I feel this is important enough to devote a whole section to it because some people live their whole lives being ruled by fear. An 80-year old "man" can die a failure because he didn't master fear like a *MAN* should.
(Part 3 on next post.)
Part I: Intro
Looks aside, the average, non-AFC man really should be able to draw attraction from women, as it's natural. The key word there is "man." Age really has nothing to do with whether you are a boy or a man. Age is just a number; it is only the number of years you've had to learn to become a man. I've seen thirteen year olds come off towards ladies as "men" and alternatively, people in their twenties and thirties seen "men" who act like boys. Intellectual maturity doesn't have much to do with it either. You can still laugh at poop-jokes and be a man, I assure you.
. If you pull ANYTHING from what I'm writing, pull out this (and I know its a little extreme, but it applies to what I'm trying to say here):Girls, Ladies, Women, however the hell you want to call them, from the time they get interested in males, want MEN, not BOYS. You want to be a man.
Here is only ten of the thousands of examples of what a MAN is like:
*Able to command attention whenever he enters a room.
*Holds himself high, despite adversity.
*Stays confident (see this as a recurring theme throughout this site?)
*Leads women.
*Generally receives respect from all, although not everyone has to like him.
*Starts his own social circles, or is in a circle that perfectly matches who he is.
*Doesn't change for no one, neither another male, nor a b****.
*Doesn't get down from rejection, takes it as a learning experience, whether he learns he made a mistake, or if he learns that the girl he was gaming was a ho.
*Doesn't let women control him.
*(This is the most important one, and I'll explain why): Is a master of fear, and a master of what destiny he can control.
Part II: From Fear 2 Motivation
Now why did I say that being a master of fear is the most important feature of a man? Does it even matter coming from a lost and confused dude?
Fear is a natural instinct used for survival. It holds people back Fear rules the weak. Fear rules women, and boys. Men are masters of fear because they know when to give into fear and when to transform fear into motivation. Obviously, trying a backflip on concrete when you've never landed one in your life is a good opportunity to listen to fear, but in most other *reasonable* circumstances, fear is a great inhibitor for humans. But when you, say, approach a cute girl(sounds reasonable, doesn't it?), fear will often hold back the ones who haven't conquered it. To overcome fear is to rise up to the divine...to bypass artificial human limitations placed on yourself by yourself or others.
With this being said, how does one turn fear into motivation, or into something else that gives men an advantage? There are thousands of ways. People develop their own way to dispose of fear. For example, Neil Strauss, the author of The Game, uses the three-second rule, so he doesn't even give fear a chance to hold him back from talking to a girl.
I challenge you to come up with your own way of conquering fear, or as many people here call it, AA (approach anxiety). But I feel its more than approach anxiety. Fear can allow women to find a weakness in your character that allows them to be the dominant role in a relationship. Fear can stop you from making out or sexing that girl of your dreams.
Personally, fear recently stopped me from making out with this girl who I had been gaming for about a week, and she showed both great attraction and interest in me, but she had gone out with an AFC in order to see if I could step up to the plate as a man. She kept complaining to me about how he doesn't hold her and kiss her the way a real guy should, and when she gave me the chance when isolated, I backed down from kissing her. Fear won over me, and although it will still happen to me as I'm still on that road to becoming a man, I'll learn from that experience and it will make me better.
Now, I approach fear different than the way Neil Strauss does. Before every martial arts test, before every approach with a girl, before every fight. I begin by asking myself, "WHAT is holding me back?" I tell myself "Fear is holding me back. But not just fear, it is the idea that I might lose." Try visualizing fear as Bowser...blocking me (Mario) from the princess (the goal.) Of course, we all get the shaft from time to time (That fück1ng båstard toad who tells you that the princess is in another castle), but it only takes you to the next world, getting you closer and closer to that goal. Thus, I turn fear into motivation. The mere act of throwing fear to the side and moving on makes me harder (
ho ho), better, faster, stronger lol. I said something like this in a thread where a guy asked for motivation:Every cute girl you don't talk to because you're afraid, every opening you intentionally ignore from a girl, every time you don't make out with that hot babe whose into YOU, not your bro, makes ME a better DJ than YOU.
Being able to go through fear is only one of the steps to becoming a desirable man to women. I feel this is important enough to devote a whole section to it because some people live their whole lives being ruled by fear. An 80-year old "man" can die a failure because he didn't master fear like a *MAN* should.
(Part 3 on next post.)
