background story is here http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=121404
Basically, I dumped her last friday. Reasons of our relationship not working are basically: her parents does not approve and constantly tries to split us, and that I was too nice to her.
Mind you, although i'm nice, my pride is the thing I value the most and the reason I dumped her ass (over sms) was basically because during one of our slump periods (due to her parents), she managed to hurt my pride.
She told me a few days ago that her parents were no longer against her dating. as a result I would love to get back with her, since she has no major red flags and is potentially a good wife in 10 years time. Plus we were childhood friends and she is the first serious relationship I've had. But I am in no way going to get back with her by seeming like a chump. This time I want to turn the axis of power around, I want to be in control.
I've pretty much never initiated contact with her since the breakup, and is appearing to be in a very happy state, basically my msn display name shows and Ive been writing deep, reflective blog entries saying how great life is and how good freedom is. Im sure she reads those things, and I think she is realising how good I am and would like to have me back.
The hints she has been giving me are: Actively initiating and continuing our conversations on msn and having strange personal comments such as "Strive for Love".
A few notable things she said in msn include:
ME: "I bet my neighbour will hate me (for making so much noise)"
Her:"yeah....haha" "I wouldn't" "
"
and also things like, she would bring up things I believe in, like not drinking excessively and clubbing is boring, and she would purposely say she finds clubbing boring and she wont drink unless it's a special occasion. I think she is trying to 'suck up' to me by doing that.
Basically right now, I will try to get her back no matter what, but I will do it in a way which is not AFCish and will grant me the power in the relationship this time.
She is sending me signals, but i suspect that maybe she is just craving attention and/or wants to see if she can still have me obeying her every whim. Hence I will continue to act coldly to her.
I am purposely doing things to make her jealous, things like letting her know indirectly, that i went out to nightclubs with other girls, and could possibly go on a road trip with some friends (didn't specify gender, she might think they are girls).
That isn't all, my big plan is coming this thursday night. we have a ball (basically a formal event for university students) and I will be bringing along 2 girls, she will also be there. I plan to have fun there all night, namely with other girls, and i'll make sure she sees me. I will pretend to not have even seen her. At the end of the night, I will find her and take her to a quiet, private area, and I will do something smooth, and maybe put down some hints, and wait for her to ask me to accept her again. Does anyone know what I could do or say on the night that would be help us to get back together without losing power?
edit* There are certain things in everyone's life that they need to do. If they dont do it, they will regret it for the rest of their lives, this is one of those things for me. Really there is no point telling me to give up on her, as I believe the reasons we separated in the first place will no longer exist.
Basically, I dumped her last friday. Reasons of our relationship not working are basically: her parents does not approve and constantly tries to split us, and that I was too nice to her.
Mind you, although i'm nice, my pride is the thing I value the most and the reason I dumped her ass (over sms) was basically because during one of our slump periods (due to her parents), she managed to hurt my pride.
She told me a few days ago that her parents were no longer against her dating. as a result I would love to get back with her, since she has no major red flags and is potentially a good wife in 10 years time. Plus we were childhood friends and she is the first serious relationship I've had. But I am in no way going to get back with her by seeming like a chump. This time I want to turn the axis of power around, I want to be in control.
I've pretty much never initiated contact with her since the breakup, and is appearing to be in a very happy state, basically my msn display name shows and Ive been writing deep, reflective blog entries saying how great life is and how good freedom is. Im sure she reads those things, and I think she is realising how good I am and would like to have me back.
The hints she has been giving me are: Actively initiating and continuing our conversations on msn and having strange personal comments such as "Strive for Love".
A few notable things she said in msn include:
ME: "I bet my neighbour will hate me (for making so much noise)"
Her:"yeah....haha" "I wouldn't" "
"and also things like, she would bring up things I believe in, like not drinking excessively and clubbing is boring, and she would purposely say she finds clubbing boring and she wont drink unless it's a special occasion. I think she is trying to 'suck up' to me by doing that.
Basically right now, I will try to get her back no matter what, but I will do it in a way which is not AFCish and will grant me the power in the relationship this time.
She is sending me signals, but i suspect that maybe she is just craving attention and/or wants to see if she can still have me obeying her every whim. Hence I will continue to act coldly to her.
I am purposely doing things to make her jealous, things like letting her know indirectly, that i went out to nightclubs with other girls, and could possibly go on a road trip with some friends (didn't specify gender, she might think they are girls).
That isn't all, my big plan is coming this thursday night. we have a ball (basically a formal event for university students) and I will be bringing along 2 girls, she will also be there. I plan to have fun there all night, namely with other girls, and i'll make sure she sees me. I will pretend to not have even seen her. At the end of the night, I will find her and take her to a quiet, private area, and I will do something smooth, and maybe put down some hints, and wait for her to ask me to accept her again. Does anyone know what I could do or say on the night that would be help us to get back together without losing power?
edit* There are certain things in everyone's life that they need to do. If they dont do it, they will regret it for the rest of their lives, this is one of those things for me. Really there is no point telling me to give up on her, as I believe the reasons we separated in the first place will no longer exist.
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