Desdinova
Master Don Juan
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What I noticed when I was going through my transformation into being a DJ, some people couldn't accept the drastic change in my personality, whereas others (especially women) gladly welcomed it.
People who have known you for an extended amount of time already have an opinion of you, and they expect certain behaviors. When they don't see these expected behaviors that you used to display, it confuses them. They deny the fact that your personality is changing, and they want you to behave like the same person you have always been.
My parents are still in this mindset, and will probably never change. I've lost a few friends because of my change in personality. They couldn't continue walking all over me, and they didn't like it. They also couldn't deal with the fact that I've become much more successful than them in all aspects of life which caused them to react negatively and attempt to put me back into place.
This is one of the more difficult stages of becoming a DJ. You realize that you're the one who's walking, and your friends are staying in their "comfortable zone", and they expect you to stay with them. Some may follow, some may shout obscenitites at you, and some may throw rocks. Some of the rocks will hit you and they'll hurt like hell, but the further you go from them, the less chance there is of rocks hitting you.
This is the point where you have to begin reconstructing your social circle. Keep whatever friends support your advancement in life, and leave the rest in their comfort spot.
People who have known you for an extended amount of time already have an opinion of you, and they expect certain behaviors. When they don't see these expected behaviors that you used to display, it confuses them. They deny the fact that your personality is changing, and they want you to behave like the same person you have always been.
My parents are still in this mindset, and will probably never change. I've lost a few friends because of my change in personality. They couldn't continue walking all over me, and they didn't like it. They also couldn't deal with the fact that I've become much more successful than them in all aspects of life which caused them to react negatively and attempt to put me back into place.
This is one of the more difficult stages of becoming a DJ. You realize that you're the one who's walking, and your friends are staying in their "comfortable zone", and they expect you to stay with them. Some may follow, some may shout obscenitites at you, and some may throw rocks. Some of the rocks will hit you and they'll hurt like hell, but the further you go from them, the less chance there is of rocks hitting you.
This is the point where you have to begin reconstructing your social circle. Keep whatever friends support your advancement in life, and leave the rest in their comfort spot.
