1. Stop hitting the gym
The reason why a lot of guys go to the gym is to look good for girls. Once they have a girl, they stop going. Usually diet, sleep schedules and performance at their craft also suffers.
Solution: You need to shift your motivation for why you take care of yourself, even when you are single. It is an investment in yourself that will give you an enormous return in every area of your life. Besides, improving your looks to attract girls is just dumb. It is like Superman learning how to operate an AK-47.
2. Cut off their penis
I am constantly amazed at how a lot of guys pretend like they are no longer attracted to any girl besides their girlfriend. Even if you only act like that around your girlfriend, you are still being a world class wussbag. She may say that she likes that, but deep down she resents it.
Solution: If your girlfriend asks you if you think another girl is hot, saying "ya, I'd hit that" is a hell of a lot better of a response than "oh, no baby. You're the only one I could ever love." Just because you are attracted to other girls doesn't mean you need to **** other girls.
In addition, it keeps you a hell of a lot more congruent to your masculine nature, which is what she craves.
3. Grow a vagina
I was browsing the college confidential forums a few weeks ago and read a post by some guy talking about his girlfriend. He was all like "even the thought of another man looking at my girlfriend makes me feel so mad."
If you are in a relationship with an attractive woman, you need to come to grips with the fact that A LOT of other guys are going to be outright hitting on her and even more are going to at least think about ****ing her.
Big deal.
You may read books like Sperm Wars and The Red Queen and be all like "OMGODZ she is going to cheat on me! Wahhhh!"
The truth is, she will not cheat on your if you are not just fulfilling her needs but surpassing them. If she does cheat on you, it is probably because YOU weren't doing it for her.
Solution: Accept the realities of the world, and then be proactive by working on your ability to fulfill her instead of being insecure and trying to manage her life. What does this mean? Learn about what it means to be a masculine man. Learn how to sex her right. Get a better handle on your emotions.
And learn to find other guy's attempts at her amusing.
4. Stop socializing with girls
This is especially a problem with "pooooaaahhhhs" who were going to clubs solely to meet girls.
Look, an essential part of having success with women is having a lot of women naturally floating around your life. This includes during the time when you are in a relationship.
A lot of guys just stop being social. They say to themselves "well, I put in the work, now I get to enjoy the reward"
Solution: The fact that I start conversations with multiple new girls EVERY day makes a positive difference in my relationship because it keeps me completely non-needy. You NEED to do this.
This does not mean you have to be making out and hooking up with other girls. However, you should have some kind of structural component in your life that reinforces the abundance mentality.
5. Stop learning and experimenting
Alright so you got a girlfriend, does this mean you have finally mastered success with women?
**** no.
Solution: You need to keep reading good books on how to be a better man, how to satisfy the sexual needs of women and general self-actualization.
In fact, you will learn more about women while in a relationship with them than you will when you're out opening sets or whatever. Of course, you need to have an idea of what you are looking for. That's what books, programs, etc can help you with.
6. Making your relationship the biggest priority in your life
A lot of guys in relationships make their relationship the center of their life. They think about their woman at work and when hanging with friends, they spend as much time as they possibly can with their woman and, even worse, are constantly strategizing about how to keep their woman attracted to them.
The second you do this, an unhappy end to your relationship becomes inevitable.
Why is this the case? In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida talks about how the foundation of masculine polarity is being on your purpose. Masculine polarity is what attracts your woman to you long-term.
If you make your relationship the purpose of your life (ie the primary reason you wake up in the morning), then you are no longer giving off any masculine polarity.
Solution: You need a purpose. That alone will solve alot of your problems in life because it will make you congruent to your masculine nature. I will be writing a massive article on this in the near future. Sorry for the tease.
The reason why a lot of guys go to the gym is to look good for girls. Once they have a girl, they stop going. Usually diet, sleep schedules and performance at their craft also suffers.
Solution: You need to shift your motivation for why you take care of yourself, even when you are single. It is an investment in yourself that will give you an enormous return in every area of your life. Besides, improving your looks to attract girls is just dumb. It is like Superman learning how to operate an AK-47.
2. Cut off their penis
I am constantly amazed at how a lot of guys pretend like they are no longer attracted to any girl besides their girlfriend. Even if you only act like that around your girlfriend, you are still being a world class wussbag. She may say that she likes that, but deep down she resents it.
Solution: If your girlfriend asks you if you think another girl is hot, saying "ya, I'd hit that" is a hell of a lot better of a response than "oh, no baby. You're the only one I could ever love." Just because you are attracted to other girls doesn't mean you need to **** other girls.
In addition, it keeps you a hell of a lot more congruent to your masculine nature, which is what she craves.
3. Grow a vagina
I was browsing the college confidential forums a few weeks ago and read a post by some guy talking about his girlfriend. He was all like "even the thought of another man looking at my girlfriend makes me feel so mad."
If you are in a relationship with an attractive woman, you need to come to grips with the fact that A LOT of other guys are going to be outright hitting on her and even more are going to at least think about ****ing her.
Big deal.
You may read books like Sperm Wars and The Red Queen and be all like "OMGODZ she is going to cheat on me! Wahhhh!"
The truth is, she will not cheat on your if you are not just fulfilling her needs but surpassing them. If she does cheat on you, it is probably because YOU weren't doing it for her.
Solution: Accept the realities of the world, and then be proactive by working on your ability to fulfill her instead of being insecure and trying to manage her life. What does this mean? Learn about what it means to be a masculine man. Learn how to sex her right. Get a better handle on your emotions.
And learn to find other guy's attempts at her amusing.
4. Stop socializing with girls
This is especially a problem with "pooooaaahhhhs" who were going to clubs solely to meet girls.
Look, an essential part of having success with women is having a lot of women naturally floating around your life. This includes during the time when you are in a relationship.
A lot of guys just stop being social. They say to themselves "well, I put in the work, now I get to enjoy the reward"
Solution: The fact that I start conversations with multiple new girls EVERY day makes a positive difference in my relationship because it keeps me completely non-needy. You NEED to do this.
This does not mean you have to be making out and hooking up with other girls. However, you should have some kind of structural component in your life that reinforces the abundance mentality.
5. Stop learning and experimenting
Alright so you got a girlfriend, does this mean you have finally mastered success with women?
**** no.
Solution: You need to keep reading good books on how to be a better man, how to satisfy the sexual needs of women and general self-actualization.
In fact, you will learn more about women while in a relationship with them than you will when you're out opening sets or whatever. Of course, you need to have an idea of what you are looking for. That's what books, programs, etc can help you with.
6. Making your relationship the biggest priority in your life
A lot of guys in relationships make their relationship the center of their life. They think about their woman at work and when hanging with friends, they spend as much time as they possibly can with their woman and, even worse, are constantly strategizing about how to keep their woman attracted to them.
The second you do this, an unhappy end to your relationship becomes inevitable.
Why is this the case? In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida talks about how the foundation of masculine polarity is being on your purpose. Masculine polarity is what attracts your woman to you long-term.
If you make your relationship the purpose of your life (ie the primary reason you wake up in the morning), then you are no longer giving off any masculine polarity.
Solution: You need a purpose. That alone will solve alot of your problems in life because it will make you congruent to your masculine nature. I will be writing a massive article on this in the near future. Sorry for the tease.
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