Devilman
Don Juan
I know some of u guys are probably sick of reading this type of stuff but i hope that maybe someone can help me in my situation or maybe have went through the same thing and can offer some help I've been reading his site for like a month now and have found it to be helpful, I still haven’t made any real changes to my life though one thing i have realised from this site is that i have to put some effort in, i am 20 years old and still a virgin I know that isn’t really strange but not only am I a virgin I have never had a girlfriend are any real female relationship before.
Ever since reading this site I’ve been trying to improve. I try to make eye contact with everyone I walk past and generally try to appear more confident, but apart from that I haven’t tried much else, I don’t have the confidence to just start convos with strange ppl etc.
I think the problem is I don’t go out enough, I’ve only got like 1 r 2 friends to hang around with, and a few other ppl I am friendly with, me and my friend for like the past 6 years have always hung out at my house on a Saturday and played computer games, I used to think that this was awesome but in the last 2 years it just sucks and I wanna try new things meet new ppl and be more social, the only problem is now, I find I am in the situation where I don’t have much friends the ones I do have don’t wanna go out r don’t have the to money etc..... and I am very shy nervous around new ppl, because I have no experience/confidence in this.
It’s really gotten to the point where I think I am hermit, for all my life I would go to school, go home play computer and maybe do weights; repeat many times! lol. I now get nervous going out to do anything that isn’t' related to me going to school or my usual stuff, and I get depressed and pissed off at myself when i hear other ppl are going out doing things have gf's etc, like when my wee brother hangs with all his friends and I am in the fecking house as usual.
Sometimes my confidence is all over the place, some days I am confident and can speak loudly with confidence and make ppl laugh and make them at ease with me (talking about with ppl in my class), and other days I am not confident and speak very low and just generally don’t wanna speak at all. It happens sometimes were some ppl in my class talk to me the next day and you can almost see the surpise on there face when they realise how different I can be.
Only the other day did i actually talk to a girl in my class who I’ve had crash on for like 6 months (reason i found this site), and I came across as nervous and generally fecked it up.... the thing that annoyed me was the fact I didn’t really talk to her, in the end she kinda joined in a convo I was having with another person..... I've being trying but I get nowhere lol when I talk to ppl I find it hard to hold eye contact with them, even with my best friend. I've being trying to make eye contact with ppl I walk past, and they look away, all the girls too I think I scare them lol.
Ok before this starts to become my life story i will stop, basically I wanna know what I can do if anything to change my situtaion for the better, I know this post sounds like a *****y cry fest, but I really wanna improve my situation, I really hope some of you guys can help me out.
Ever since reading this site I’ve been trying to improve. I try to make eye contact with everyone I walk past and generally try to appear more confident, but apart from that I haven’t tried much else, I don’t have the confidence to just start convos with strange ppl etc.
I think the problem is I don’t go out enough, I’ve only got like 1 r 2 friends to hang around with, and a few other ppl I am friendly with, me and my friend for like the past 6 years have always hung out at my house on a Saturday and played computer games, I used to think that this was awesome but in the last 2 years it just sucks and I wanna try new things meet new ppl and be more social, the only problem is now, I find I am in the situation where I don’t have much friends the ones I do have don’t wanna go out r don’t have the to money etc..... and I am very shy nervous around new ppl, because I have no experience/confidence in this.
It’s really gotten to the point where I think I am hermit, for all my life I would go to school, go home play computer and maybe do weights; repeat many times! lol. I now get nervous going out to do anything that isn’t' related to me going to school or my usual stuff, and I get depressed and pissed off at myself when i hear other ppl are going out doing things have gf's etc, like when my wee brother hangs with all his friends and I am in the fecking house as usual.
Sometimes my confidence is all over the place, some days I am confident and can speak loudly with confidence and make ppl laugh and make them at ease with me (talking about with ppl in my class), and other days I am not confident and speak very low and just generally don’t wanna speak at all. It happens sometimes were some ppl in my class talk to me the next day and you can almost see the surpise on there face when they realise how different I can be.
Only the other day did i actually talk to a girl in my class who I’ve had crash on for like 6 months (reason i found this site), and I came across as nervous and generally fecked it up.... the thing that annoyed me was the fact I didn’t really talk to her, in the end she kinda joined in a convo I was having with another person..... I've being trying but I get nowhere lol when I talk to ppl I find it hard to hold eye contact with them, even with my best friend. I've being trying to make eye contact with ppl I walk past, and they look away, all the girls too I think I scare them lol.
Ok before this starts to become my life story i will stop, basically I wanna know what I can do if anything to change my situtaion for the better, I know this post sounds like a *****y cry fest, but I really wanna improve my situation, I really hope some of you guys can help me out.
