I posted this last week in the No Contact thread, relating to my recovery process after my break up....
It's shocking when I look back at how I was just a few months ago, how I'd cry every morning and feel like ending it all. I felt so pathetic and desperate, like a broken man, and yet here I am today and I barely recognise what I became.
One thing you should all know is that what you're going through is natural and perfectly reasonable. A lot of guys will tell you to man up, stop being a pvssy and you'll probably even tell yourself this and you'll feel worse for it, but don't be so hard on yourself! This hurts like fvcking crazy! It can even be worse than a bereavement, because not only are you losing someone you loved, but you're dealing with the pain of rejection and wounded self esteem too.
Accept that it's going to hurt. Accept that your emotions are running wild and understand that you have to live as this broken man for a while as you heal. In the same way you cannot just get over a broken leg and walk the next day, your emotions need time to heal too.
This is a powerful and life changing experience for you! It feels horrible, but it's actually doing you so much good. It's making you stronger, smarter and you will emerge from this less afraid of rejection, more motivated for life and it can be a turning point where you go on to become a greater man than you've ever been!
I wouldn't say I'm 100% recovered from my break up, but I'm at the point now where I feel great! I'm channeling all that pain and resentment into my work outs and I'm looking and feeling like a badass. I'm dating, spinning plates and have some prospects I'm actually really positive about. I'm putting my lessons from my break up into practice and I'm working on my confidence, embracing my boldness and sexuality and each day is filled with potential.
It takes time to get to this point, but just have faith that one day your pain will end and you will emerge so much better for it.
However, the only way you'll ever reach that point is to let go of the past. Stop strategising, stop all temptation to call her, stop checking your phone for messages or missed calls and let it really sink in that it's over. Once it does, it will hit you like a sledgehammer to the guts. This is why we all put it off and cling to that hope...we just cannot face the idea of letting go. But when you do, each day gets easier and life becomes good again!
I highly recommend joining and contributing to this thread:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=160056
I've had so much support from the guys there and it has been so helpful having a place I could vent and seek objective advice without being judged.
If you have time on your hands, I've documented my journey to recovery in that thread, that I hope will inspire you. It also shows a lot of the mistakes I made, the unstable and unclear thinking I was going through, and all the things that worked best for me.
As I write her today, I'm not only back to my old self, I'm stronger, more confident, more motivated for life and pulling women like never before and I'm truly grateful that I got to hit such a low point after my break up because it has allowed for this transformation to happen.
Hang in there mate.
