Stopping Porn

[corrector]

Please tell me you're not catching oneitis for a pornstar.

How would that be possible? The logical components of oneitis are not present here:
1) She does not know how I physically look like. Therefore, there has to be some subconcious component that might feel she''ll "reject" me after she sees photos of myself. She only knows how my c0ck looks like and deduced I'm mixed and said "I have a nice mixture". Only she and another OF girl has a copy of that pic. No other woman has seen that since my ex-wife 10 years ago.
2) We have not meet in-person (there is no in-person test where she might "reject" me because of some other reason, chemistry, etc...)
3) She does not know my real name and has no contact info belonging to me. (while I have her work name, her contact info if I wanted to book an appointment with her and visit her as a client (using a different alias of course, but name dropping it at some point within the session, etc...)

There is nothing to suggest anything can really be real about this so any oneitis would be invalid.

If I visited her as a client, and then we continued talking with each other on that medium on OF in between sessions, and was still like that, then that would be a oneitis. But that is not going to happen so it will never be a oneitis like that.

One of the good things about OnlyFans is its illegal for prostitutes to solicit people or vice verse on there. So I'm legally protected from it going in that direction with anyone. In fact, for most prostitutes on there, if a someone tries to solicit them they might be blocked. Therefore that discussion never has to come up. However, if its a "true date" then that's another story. There was no exchange with her leading to a "true date" direction.

Anyway, quite a discussion about porn though. If this is a "porn addiction" then that is a wierd turn.

 

[Money & Muscle]

There is nothing to suggest anything can really be real about this so any oneitis would be invalid.

Except that oneitis is literally when a man loves the fantasy of a woman more than the reality of her... so it's never real and is not a 2 way street.

Idc if you are or aren't. Your post sounded like you have loyalty to her, and that was troubling to read.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Idc if you are or aren't. Your post sounded like you have loyalty to her, and that was troubling to read.

"I better not cheat on my OF girlfriend."

Subscribing to a fantasy girl messes up someone's mental health.

 

[corrector]

Except that oneitis is literally when a man loves the fantasy of a woman more than the reality of her... so it's never real and is not a 2 way street.

Idc if you are or aren't. Your post sounded like you have loyalty to her, and that was troubling to read.

This is a thread about porn addiction. How can you have oneitis in the realm of porn? You know it's not real.

Maybe I've personified porn and what it represents:
1) Someone/something that is always there for you. (porn is easily accessible if you want to look at it).
2) It will never reject you. (the images of porn don't judge you and say you are not worthy of looking at it)

I mean we can go on and on.....but I think its these things that drive, at least the emotional component, behind looking at porn, whether it's represented by images, or something deeper.

Do you think the OF-girl is simply a personification of a porn addiction rather than a true oneitis. Unless she has actually seen my face then how can I have a fantasy about really being with her?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

how can I have a fantasy about really being with her?

The fact that you're considering why you couldn't be with her shows that you have considered being with her as a fantasy.

That's where people underestimate their delusions.

 

[corrector]

The fact that you're considering why you couldn't be with her shows that you have considered being with her as a fantasy.

I could be with her if I book a session. She's about a 30 min drive away in a nice upscale location. So, if I wanted to be with her then I'd book a session.

What I am saying is technically she has not seen my picture. That should invalidate it because how can you be that anonymous and have any realistic connection with anyone? It's one-sided in that I have pics of her and her contact info (she is an escort afterall so part of that is public) but she has nothing of me except a d1ck-pic I sent her last year.

 

[corrector]

"I better not cheat on my OF girlfriend."

Subscribing to a fantasy girl messes up someone's mental health.

Don't complain about a bandaid and ignore the cut.

 

[corrector]

Just correponded to OF-girl. Will see if I'm back to normal with this now.

 

[Money & Muscle]

Just correponded to OF-girl. Will see if I'm back to normal with this now.

I hate to break it to you, but speaking to OF girls - is not normal.

 

[corrector]

I hate to break it to you, but speaking to OF girls - is not normal.

I mean in terms of my overall behaviour. Am I still avoiding porn for good?

 

[Money & Muscle]

I mean in terms of my overall behaviour. Am I still avoiding porn for good?

I mean, you could kick your porn habit by taking up crack cocaine too...

 

[All_Kindz_Of_Gainz]

where she did reply, at the right date that I expected her to reply if I were to perceive her as genuine with me

what I wrote touched me very deeply and caused me to hug my pillows afterwards and think about her

It was such a nice time.

Communications with someone on OF where it feels real trumps porn anyday.

I don't even want to deal with anyone else on OF except for her

Bro WTF is all of these crap? She is a wh0re from OF who you are playing to.

 

[corrector]

Bro WTF is all of these crap? She is a wh0re from OF who you are playing to.

Yeah, but she is from the Philippeans. She has family and friends to be with when she is not busy "working" and seems to be happy with her work. She has a good energy as well. Its odd that I am not "jealious" of her working (ie in terms of guy to girl dynamic, etc... like if something happened between two genuine people. Its not the same when you know its business). Her ad says she gives hot sloppy bjs and her reviews have been great,.as not being a clock watcher.

(Just kidding)

Seriously, she has no photo of me or contact info. It can all cease to exist at the snap of my hand and nobody is the wiser.

I did look at an Asian escort ad last night and fapped when I had trouble sleeping. So its not that bad now.

 

[corrector]

There will be a hard-stop on all OF subscriptions after April 15th. If a subscription with her goes beyond that date then that would be an indication there is a problem. It's just part of some wierd personal order, there was a budget for $ 50 spread out in three months between January to April 15th and I choose to put it all on one subscription. Nothing survives beyond the middle of April where there is normally a strict ban on all subscriptions, etc..... This is for those who think I'm losing it. It just a bit different this year that's all.

 

[JuanSama]

I've got the same problem as you because last week, I had sex but when I got back home, I spent a good 30 minutes on PH while fapping.

I reckon I'm gonna enjoy real sex more once I quit.

 

[anonymous12345]

I agree that no p and nofap (including edging) is imperative for the man.

I find nofap easy and no p somewhat: I use it (though rarely) as a coping mechanism against sadness/depression. It injects some adrenaline/dopamine/etc. Working out works too, but my body can't sustain working out everyday.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

watched porn today. I declare im never watching it again i ****ing swear on life.

You will watch it again as long as you say that. The feeling you get after a post-nut is the same feeling you get after pigging out on food, eg eating several plates of food at buffet with dessert after, you can't even imagine ever being hungry again, and are convinced you'll never eat that much food ever again. But you will.

You won't quit porn unless drastic steps are taken. First one being, ditching your smartphone and getting in dial up internet.

 

[SW15]

First one being, ditching your smartphone and getting in dial up internet.

I was fortunate that I never had any desire to watch porn on my smartphone.

I don't think getting dial up internet is all too practical now. A lot of the internet becomes non-functional with dial up. Adult content blockers are probably better.

 

[HaleyBaron]

Using a tablet is a smarter usage than a smartphone. Functions the same with more screen space. I say this as someone who uses his tablet to watch and browse the internet when away from home.

 

[corrector]

Her subscription is going beyond that date (post #74 reference). I just enlisted her in a no-porn strategy. Any porn breach between April 15th - Sept 25th will be reported to her (after going through a judicial process in my own journals) and I'll fine myself by tipping her. Lets see if this works. Part of issues with porn is isolation and nobody knows you are doing that, this should fix that problem because now she would know and will now be an accountability partner.