The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
Today, I want all of you who are looking to progress in life and develop as individuals to think about what makes you uncomfortable. What activity, by default, makes you so uncomfortable and nervous that you cannot concieve of actually partaking in said activity?
To some it can be speaking in front of a group... to others, it can be approaching a girl you don't know. Whatever it is, just figure out what types of activities you have not been doing, due to your own insecurities. For all of us, there are many things that scare us.
Decide what those things are.
Everyone has their circle. Their comfort zone. If we remain within our little zone it stays the same size. It is not until we start to push and stretch our bubbles that they get a chance to grow. With every little change we make, our circle gets bigger.
Scared of talking to strangers? Start making a concious effort to strike up a few conversations a day with random people you bump into. Do this for a few weeks and then tell me how you feel? It should become second nature.
Scared to talk to women? Start doing the same thing.. slowly ease your way into it. Don't try and hit on her, or number close.. just chat about nothing with random chicks wether at the mall or supermarket lineup or at the gym.
Do this for a few weeks and then see how much easier it gets.
You need to identify every little thing that you have a hard time doing and then get out there and commit to dealing with it.
It is incredibly uncomfortalbe, at first... but if you aren't feeling uncomfortable, then you're not pushing and stretching and expanding your bubble. Take comfort in the nervousness... it'll soon dissapear, the more you get out there and deal with the issue.
Imagine if you were to decide there's 20 things you want to work on and eliminate from your personality and you committed to taking baby steps in doing so (one issue at a time)over the next year; you'd be on heck of a different person by the end of it and chances are your confidence will sky rocket.
This has a snowball effect. Once you start to roll, it won't stop and you'll keep growing and growing with each passing day/week/month.
To some it can be speaking in front of a group... to others, it can be approaching a girl you don't know. Whatever it is, just figure out what types of activities you have not been doing, due to your own insecurities. For all of us, there are many things that scare us.
Decide what those things are.
Everyone has their circle. Their comfort zone. If we remain within our little zone it stays the same size. It is not until we start to push and stretch our bubbles that they get a chance to grow. With every little change we make, our circle gets bigger.
Scared of talking to strangers? Start making a concious effort to strike up a few conversations a day with random people you bump into. Do this for a few weeks and then tell me how you feel? It should become second nature.
Scared to talk to women? Start doing the same thing.. slowly ease your way into it. Don't try and hit on her, or number close.. just chat about nothing with random chicks wether at the mall or supermarket lineup or at the gym.
Do this for a few weeks and then see how much easier it gets.
You need to identify every little thing that you have a hard time doing and then get out there and commit to dealing with it.
It is incredibly uncomfortalbe, at first... but if you aren't feeling uncomfortable, then you're not pushing and stretching and expanding your bubble. Take comfort in the nervousness... it'll soon dissapear, the more you get out there and deal with the issue.
Imagine if you were to decide there's 20 things you want to work on and eliminate from your personality and you committed to taking baby steps in doing so (one issue at a time)over the next year; you'd be on heck of a different person by the end of it and chances are your confidence will sky rocket.
This has a snowball effect. Once you start to roll, it won't stop and you'll keep growing and growing with each passing day/week/month.
Two words to add, "baby steps."