This is long, but please read and give me some advice. It would be greatly appreciated. Some of you may think its against morals to go for a girl who now has a boyfriend, but there is just something about this girl that makes me want her lol. Anyways here goes...
I recently called up a girl who now has a boyfriend, but let me start with some background info first. First off, there is some distance between us, as this girl goes to a college a few hours away from her hometown. Anyways, long story short she has resorted to dating her ex again. They both live on the same college campus. Her ex gave her an ultimatum saying “if we do not date, then lets not spend anymore time together”. This girl does not have many friends at all due to her very shy nature, and ended up saying yes to the ex. For her it was to either date the ex, or sit in her room alone and be lonely.
She and I did spend time together before her getting back with her ex. I visited her on her college campus a couple times, and spent a few days in her dorm. We slept together and did stuff (went to second base), but did not have sex.
Anyways, I called her 5 days ago after not talking to her for a while (its been a month since she told me about dating her ex again). We had a good neutral conversation. However at one point I asked her “do you mind when I call you at all?”. She responded with, “no as long as its not like everyday haha”. This did irritate me a bit, but I just went on with the conversation, being cool about it. At the end of the conversation, I just said **** it and ended up asking her “What would you say if I asked you to hangout?”
Well guys, I was expecting a “sorry I can’t, I have a boyfriend now” but contrary to this, she responded with “I’m at college for only 2 more weeks and then I go back home (home is 3 hours away from college). That means you won’t have to travel as far haha. But I can’t give you a definite answer right now”. So I end up telling her that ill call her sometime, and maybe she will let me know for certain at that time. I then tell her “You know you can always call me too”. I said this because she hardly ever calls anymore. She said “ill remember that”.
Well it’s been around 6 days since this phone call, and she hasn’t called nor have I called her (college finals are coming up). Her finals are this upcoming week, and she will be going home in a little over 8 days or so. Should I call her tomorrow just to wish her luck on her finals, and hopefully wait for her to give me some good news about asking me to visit? I do hesitate a bit when I call her nowadays since she has a boyfriend and since she said not to call every day. Whenever I do call, I try not bringing up any relationship discussions, and I pretend I do not care about her having a BF.
I really want to visit this girl. If she does agree to me visiting, that would mean I’d be hanging with her in her hometown, not college. Her boyfriend wont be anywhere nearby. Some of you may think it’s against morals to steal a guys girlfriend, but this girl is too gorgeous and sweet to pass up. I don’t care if we do not end up messing around, I’d honestly be happy just being in her presence. Also this girl owes me dinner haha. She has always said she’d cook me dinner someday, but this hasn’t happened yet. I guess you can say my ultimate goal is to eventually make this girl, my girlfriend. She is quality LTR material.
So guys, how do I approach this situation? If we do hangout, should I make a move? Or should I act differently than the way I did when she was single?
I recently called up a girl who now has a boyfriend, but let me start with some background info first. First off, there is some distance between us, as this girl goes to a college a few hours away from her hometown. Anyways, long story short she has resorted to dating her ex again. They both live on the same college campus. Her ex gave her an ultimatum saying “if we do not date, then lets not spend anymore time together”. This girl does not have many friends at all due to her very shy nature, and ended up saying yes to the ex. For her it was to either date the ex, or sit in her room alone and be lonely.
She and I did spend time together before her getting back with her ex. I visited her on her college campus a couple times, and spent a few days in her dorm. We slept together and did stuff (went to second base), but did not have sex.
Anyways, I called her 5 days ago after not talking to her for a while (its been a month since she told me about dating her ex again). We had a good neutral conversation. However at one point I asked her “do you mind when I call you at all?”. She responded with, “no as long as its not like everyday haha”. This did irritate me a bit, but I just went on with the conversation, being cool about it. At the end of the conversation, I just said **** it and ended up asking her “What would you say if I asked you to hangout?”
Well guys, I was expecting a “sorry I can’t, I have a boyfriend now” but contrary to this, she responded with “I’m at college for only 2 more weeks and then I go back home (home is 3 hours away from college). That means you won’t have to travel as far haha. But I can’t give you a definite answer right now”. So I end up telling her that ill call her sometime, and maybe she will let me know for certain at that time. I then tell her “You know you can always call me too”. I said this because she hardly ever calls anymore. She said “ill remember that”.
Well it’s been around 6 days since this phone call, and she hasn’t called nor have I called her (college finals are coming up). Her finals are this upcoming week, and she will be going home in a little over 8 days or so. Should I call her tomorrow just to wish her luck on her finals, and hopefully wait for her to give me some good news about asking me to visit? I do hesitate a bit when I call her nowadays since she has a boyfriend and since she said not to call every day. Whenever I do call, I try not bringing up any relationship discussions, and I pretend I do not care about her having a BF.
I really want to visit this girl. If she does agree to me visiting, that would mean I’d be hanging with her in her hometown, not college. Her boyfriend wont be anywhere nearby. Some of you may think it’s against morals to steal a guys girlfriend, but this girl is too gorgeous and sweet to pass up. I don’t care if we do not end up messing around, I’d honestly be happy just being in her presence. Also this girl owes me dinner haha. She has always said she’d cook me dinner someday, but this hasn’t happened yet. I guess you can say my ultimate goal is to eventually make this girl, my girlfriend. She is quality LTR material.
So guys, how do I approach this situation? If we do hangout, should I make a move? Or should I act differently than the way I did when she was single?
