It was about a year ago that I stumbled upon a "seduction" site where I said "hmm, what's this?", then went from one link to the next, and eventually to Sosuave/DJ Bible. And what a year its been.
I have to say, I think the insight that can be found here is really golden. Almost daily now, I find an opportunity to use a dash of DJ attitude or technique on the wifey. I also feel fully prepared every time she dishes a s*** test my way. From one viewpoint, it could be said that I've been the worst husband in all of 14 years this year, yet never has she wanted me more. As just a small example of many, just a couple of days ago I was playing a pc game of some sort late at night and she comes in the room, tugs on my shirt sleeve with a sly smile and says "if you want to f*** me, lets f*** now because i'm about to go to bed".
I've noticed a few married folks here like myself. Why are you other (married) guys here? I see pros and cons for us to routinely absorb this stuff. The pros are that if you use it within your marriage, your wife will eat it up, love the new you, the challenge, the edge, etc. On the other hand, if this is mostly new stuff to you (like it was me), that's a whole lot of newfound power at your disposal. Its almost like I can identify with a young Anakin who learned the force a bit too late, who's now too powerful for his own good. I've also come to realize that I've used it in the wrong way in a couple of instances, so its caused me to reasses my intentions for even being here.
I must say, "DJ techniques" have also helped me through some other personal struggles. My conversion back to being non-religious is pretty new for me (3 years or so). At first, I was terrified about letting anyone in my real life know about it. But the new and learning DJ in me doesn't even care that much what someone thinks (some "caring" is essential, but I was overcaring like most AFCs do). I don't much take offense anymore to being treated differently because of it, because I just shrug off that sort of thing now. So many things now just bounce off my "black leather jacket". I'm less stressed, more confident, and just plain happier.
So thanks everyone; thanks for helping me be a "stronger" me. I might be getting a bit older, but I feel like I have so many weapons in my arsenal now. Now, if I can just learn to use this power like a Jedi would so that I don't end up destroying myself. To the unmarried, I suggest to be equally cautious and reflective. There are plenty of snares to trap you guys too.
I have to say, I think the insight that can be found here is really golden. Almost daily now, I find an opportunity to use a dash of DJ attitude or technique on the wifey. I also feel fully prepared every time she dishes a s*** test my way. From one viewpoint, it could be said that I've been the worst husband in all of 14 years this year, yet never has she wanted me more. As just a small example of many, just a couple of days ago I was playing a pc game of some sort late at night and she comes in the room, tugs on my shirt sleeve with a sly smile and says "if you want to f*** me, lets f*** now because i'm about to go to bed".
I've noticed a few married folks here like myself. Why are you other (married) guys here? I see pros and cons for us to routinely absorb this stuff. The pros are that if you use it within your marriage, your wife will eat it up, love the new you, the challenge, the edge, etc. On the other hand, if this is mostly new stuff to you (like it was me), that's a whole lot of newfound power at your disposal. Its almost like I can identify with a young Anakin who learned the force a bit too late, who's now too powerful for his own good. I've also come to realize that I've used it in the wrong way in a couple of instances, so its caused me to reasses my intentions for even being here.
I must say, "DJ techniques" have also helped me through some other personal struggles. My conversion back to being non-religious is pretty new for me (3 years or so). At first, I was terrified about letting anyone in my real life know about it. But the new and learning DJ in me doesn't even care that much what someone thinks (some "caring" is essential, but I was overcaring like most AFCs do). I don't much take offense anymore to being treated differently because of it, because I just shrug off that sort of thing now. So many things now just bounce off my "black leather jacket". I'm less stressed, more confident, and just plain happier.
So thanks everyone; thanks for helping me be a "stronger" me. I might be getting a bit older, but I feel like I have so many weapons in my arsenal now. Now, if I can just learn to use this power like a Jedi would so that I don't end up destroying myself. To the unmarried, I suggest to be equally cautious and reflective. There are plenty of snares to trap you guys too.
