Some kid touching my girlfriend..what to do?

shark

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Well this kid is a year younger, and he is on friendly terms with my GF i'd say. A few weeks ago he smacked her butt hard and she got pissed (her way of getting pissed was like smiling and running around) so i made a joke to the kid to show like i confident with my girl and could keep my cool. w/e, possibly stupid mistake

yesterday im holding her in the shcool and he come by and i guess gently touches it again. She said like "his name" in a quiet and surprised way. I had no idea untill she walked away and started telling me and saying how i dont care and im blind and i dont do anything. So.. now im pissed b/c the kid touched my GF and i didn't see it, and my GF is calling me out!

So how/what do i handle the situatuon. When i was leaving i was going to say something to him but i couldnt find him he left.

Should i say something to him like a threat? Get one of my friends who talks to him to tell him to back off, or tell my girlfriend she may be leading him on to much and has to seriously ask him to stop.

I feel pissed that she kinda challenged my "manhood" by saying i dont care or do anything.

I can just message him online, but it's weird since i dont really talk to him. And going up to him seems weird, but i guess that may be the onyl way to look like a man. Telling my friend would be easiest..but i'd be a wuss right? Unless i somehow get him to say something and make it look liek i did. who knows..
 
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go up to the kid and get in his face. tell him to keep his hands to himself and to get his own girlfriend. tell him if he does it again, you're going to beat his ass. but do this only if you know you can kick his ass. if hes bigger and stronger than you than don't. get your friend to do it if thats the case.

also tell your girlfriend to not let him do this if she doesnt like it. tell her to say no.
 

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He is small, it's not a question of whether or not i can beat him up. I don't want to act like some tough guy, i just want to tell him to back off..if he disrepsected mywishes after i said something..then i'd become a little more tough.
 

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Your girlfriend needs to understand that

#1) it's not your fault
#2) you didn't see it
#3) he keeps doing it because your girlfriend doesn't seem to mind
#4) Your girlfriend sounds like a snob.


Go up to the guy and tell him to keep his hands off your girl. Don't threaten him, but be firm.
 

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Originally posted by MightyMate
Beat his ass in front of Your girl. DOnt be lame.
i think that would be lame.

Basically do i go up to the kid and say "listen..gotta stop it" or tell my friend who is good friends with him to tell him for me (will respect me b/c he respects my friend, but then im a wuss)
 
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Go for it kick his ass!
 

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Next time get up in his face..Stop showing your girl how scared you are. Just be like " What the **** do you think your doin touching my girlfriend like that"

Be A man.
 

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lol damn you got to watch that kid. You never know you could end up seeing him caress her ass. But the way it sounds it seem like she really doesn't mind she is just doing that to try and show as if she isn't interested but she knows its on her mind everyday about the alpha male boy that touches her ass and her beta bf be like him. Really your girl shouldn't have him do that if she know she has a bf and is faithful she shouldn't be letting that happen. Your best bet is to tell him not to do that how yall go out and its disrespectful, make sure your girl isn't there when you tell him. Don't fight the kid because of a girl.
 

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LOL my evil side would say BEAT HIM TO A PULP and send him back home in pieces...but I'm a great guy so I'll suggest the better advice:

Confront him without the threatening tone of voice. Just simply go up to the kid and tell him these things:

1) Back off from my girlfriend. Find your own.
2) The ass-slapping thing isn't working and he's only asking for the worst. (contradicts my second sentence, but you gotta at least give him the notion that you're not tolerating his immaturity)

then go to your girlfriend and say these:

1) You should've told him to stop if you didn't like it.
2) If he does it again then either let me know or tell him to piss off.

That's what I would do, since fighting over a stupid cause is not my style.
 

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Don't talk to him at all. You don't know him, he's nothing to do with you. The real problem is that your girlfriend is letting him do this. Make it clear with her that if she can't keep her friends under control, it's over.

Just take a firm line with her, make sure she knows that you're not going to take any crap, and that this guy is her problem.

On the other hand, if he won't stop when she tells him to, and he's basically disrespecting her, that's[/] when you move in and show him who's in charge.
 

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what the?

its the girls job 2 reject the guy...if she doesn't i say next her....or am i way off base here...

only problem could be if the girl thinks that it's somehow cute that he touches her that way...i'd make sure that she knows it annoys you...

personally i'd worry if i had a girl that let a guy touch her ass and whisper in her ear around me....
 

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Originally posted by gmillar
The real problem is that your girlfriend is letting him do this. Make it clear with her that if she can't keep her friends under control, it's over.

Just take a firm line with her, make sure she knows that you're not going to take any crap, and that this guy is her problem.

On the other hand, if he won't stop when she tells him to, and he's basically disrespecting her, that's[/] when you move in and show him who's in charge.


EXACTLY. YES YES YES.
 

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Don't threaten him or try to beat him up. From what I read, your girlfriend is willing and open to this other guys flirting.

Like one person said, you'll need to call the shots and let her know that if she continues to let him do this, then the relationship is done for.
 

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I didn't feel like reading all of the responses.

This is my advice

Go up to him calmly... and start walking with him. Put your arm around his shoulder as if you were doing that to a girl. Say "Hey man, I don't know if I can let you do that to my girl. Could you just stop doing that?". Take your arm off his shoulder and say "Alright man?". Then tell him bye in a nice way.

If he does it again... beat his ass since you warned him.
 

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Originally posted by MikeS
I didn't feel like reading all of the responses.

This is my advice

Go up to him calmly... and start walking with him. Put your arm around his shoulder as if you were doing that to a girl. Say "Hey man, I don't know if I can let you do that to my girl. Could you just stop doing that?". Take your arm off his shoulder and say "Alright man?". Then tell him bye in a nice way.

If he does it again... beat his ass since you warned him.
Overall good advice....

If he continues and she is willing about his flirting, that's when he breaks up with her.

No need to fight over a girl.:cool:
 

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next time she complains about it thell her; "quit liking it so much and maybe he'll stop"

put her on the defensive. Make her feel like she is doing something wrong but letting it happen and incuriging it. if she tells him to stop in a serious tone of voice and he still does it, then just beat his ass (with out worning)
 

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Originally posted by shark
He is small, it's not a question of whether or not i can beat him up. I don't want to act like some tough guy, i just want to tell him to back off..if he disrepsected mywishes after i said something..then i'd become a little more tough.

You have to understand that you are not acting like a tough guy if you tell someone to stop squeezing your girlfriend's butt. You don't have to threaten him, just tell him your girlfriend told you he touched her @ss and you don't like it.
 
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