Originally posted by The TallOne
If you don't mind me asking, what broke you two up?
In a nutshell? My AFCism. She slowly started gaining control, because I didn't put my foot down when things bothered me.
Also, she slowly started behaving like a princess, and getting brainwashed by her mother, and her feminazi friends.
The minute we moved in together, she changed. *****y, domineering and extremely sarcastic. It was practically overnight. Always trying to tell me what to do. She has a persecution complex, and if I brought up anything that was bugging me, she would get mad and defensive, and then turn it around on me, justifying her behaviour by citing things that I did in the past and using that as justification for the way she was behaving.
She wasn't like that the first 5 years of our relationship.
Plus, she wouldn't get her reality TV obsessed ass of the couch and started gaining weight.
Then she started spending my money. $8000.00 one sunday out shopping with her mother, without consulting me. Her mother teaches her that because that's what her mother does to her father, and the chump puts up with it.
She isn't the same girl I met in 1997. She's basically a younger version of her mother now, and I loathe her mother.
Then she started a power play in order for me to get on my knee and propose. Wanted the ring. Started talking about babies, and would say things like, "If we have a boy, I'm naming him XXXXX". Tonnes of pressure from her and her family to get married and have babies (They are Italian).
Just basically tried to become the man in the relationship. Naturally, that led to a tonne of arguments and eventually broke us up.
The last straw was when she really felt she was losing control, she came home very drunk, and punched me in the face several times during an argument, knowing full well that I refuse to hit a woman.
She was very remorseful about that though. Obviously, since I threw her the f*ck out.
She wanted to get back together, and in my foolish AFC ways, I conceded.
However, it was more of the same bullsh*t, to the point that she got drunk in front of all my best friends at a party, and proceeded to lambaste me in front of them - telling them what a loser, drunk I was and all that. Until my one friend stepped up to her and screamed at her to stop being such a *****.
Let this be a lesson to everyone: Even the sweetest, nicest girl can turn into a psycho b*tch, and in being AFC, you are dooming your LTR to failure, guaranteed. I don't care how good a relationship you have, or how well you two get along, being AFC is a one-way ticket to hell in a relationship, and it will bring one hell of a messy breakup.
There, I said it. It's all out in the open.
The funny thing is, it took this site for me to understand how things got so f*cked up in my life. Thank God I found this place.
