This has probably been worn through before, and STR8UPs post a bit ago in Gen Dis. covered having a lack of faith and trust in his friends (if i'm correct in my memory). However, I've always had a fairly large swath of friends in tow, with whom I share a variety of interests. I see alot of potential as friends and people, meaning they're talented, intelligent, down to earth, and fun. Some settle for girls below them, but whatever.
My most recent "loss" was a 27 yo friend who just grabbed a girl who described as "not being attracted to." Now...they're talking about shacking up by next May. All this despite him JUST divorcing his wife of only 1 year. Lol. I went from golfing on the weekends, getting together for drinks, and shootin' the proverbial BS, flag football, and watching sports. I thought most guys in their 30's and 40's somewhat regret the lost social life they left behind. Or is this not the case?
I don't get it b/c, while I love my gf, I can't do EVERYTHING with her, and I can't spend every WAKING moment with her. I don't mind a girl being around when I'm doing my thing, but generally if I'm reading or playing games or watching my thing on tv, I do need space. Maybe I'm just different, but I don't see how guys go from total social circle of friends, to being with a woman ALL the time. Unless...."she's one of the guys" and she has ALOT in common with a guy. Which, to me, is rare. I've yet to me a girl who has 100%of the interests I do, and probably wouldn't want to. Part of being with a woman is our INCOMMON interests.
So back to that. My own bro is moving to DC for a period of time, god knows how long. Primarily for his GF. Again, another guy packing it in for a girl. Now, I won't go off on how foolish the whole move is. He's a musician, but probably won't perform down there. He's my best friend. But I don't just get how it's like BOOM....1 woman, 100% of the time.
Am I missing the introductory stages of hormones? Is my friend just catching up on his lost sex? (He hadn't been laid in a year+, but it seems weird b/c he thought she wasn't attractive at all, and she isn't, but she's as nice as can be, plus she makes 3x what he does). Past 2years, the couple has to have REAL chemistry on a personal and friendship level.
Maybe it all sounds so "feminine of me", but I just don't get it. I've told my gf that I'm not changing how my life was organized just bc she came into it. MAYBE, the day I'm married, when we TRULY create our own lives with new borns (if I even do that), Ill rearrange my life, bc I'd want to, and should. But just bc we get a gf....who you've truly known for LESS than 10% of your life...you rearrange it? I've had friends for 3 years bang out like nothing, or totally screw me over. Those who haven't last and last and last. I just don't get the mindset.
I suppose if SOME super hot porn star (non slutty, only did girl on girl, or modeling porn) walked up, had EVERY thing in common with me, and could cook, wanted to clean, then MAYBE I'd be like...BAM, ESCAPE TO THE BLUE LAGOON...I don't need jack crap. But until then. I don't see it. And I consider spots like Maine, where the guys band together EVERYWHERE, even at cookouts. I don't see that around me in Massachusetts. I see get togethers with touchy feely talking. Where are the get togethers where men talk business, making money, sports, politices, crack crude jokes?
After a few years of friends...I think I need a new circle.
Thoughts?
A-Unit
My most recent "loss" was a 27 yo friend who just grabbed a girl who described as "not being attracted to." Now...they're talking about shacking up by next May. All this despite him JUST divorcing his wife of only 1 year. Lol. I went from golfing on the weekends, getting together for drinks, and shootin' the proverbial BS, flag football, and watching sports. I thought most guys in their 30's and 40's somewhat regret the lost social life they left behind. Or is this not the case?
I don't get it b/c, while I love my gf, I can't do EVERYTHING with her, and I can't spend every WAKING moment with her. I don't mind a girl being around when I'm doing my thing, but generally if I'm reading or playing games or watching my thing on tv, I do need space. Maybe I'm just different, but I don't see how guys go from total social circle of friends, to being with a woman ALL the time. Unless...."she's one of the guys" and she has ALOT in common with a guy. Which, to me, is rare. I've yet to me a girl who has 100%of the interests I do, and probably wouldn't want to. Part of being with a woman is our INCOMMON interests.
So back to that. My own bro is moving to DC for a period of time, god knows how long. Primarily for his GF. Again, another guy packing it in for a girl. Now, I won't go off on how foolish the whole move is. He's a musician, but probably won't perform down there. He's my best friend. But I don't just get how it's like BOOM....1 woman, 100% of the time.
Am I missing the introductory stages of hormones? Is my friend just catching up on his lost sex? (He hadn't been laid in a year+, but it seems weird b/c he thought she wasn't attractive at all, and she isn't, but she's as nice as can be, plus she makes 3x what he does). Past 2years, the couple has to have REAL chemistry on a personal and friendship level.
Maybe it all sounds so "feminine of me", but I just don't get it. I've told my gf that I'm not changing how my life was organized just bc she came into it. MAYBE, the day I'm married, when we TRULY create our own lives with new borns (if I even do that), Ill rearrange my life, bc I'd want to, and should. But just bc we get a gf....who you've truly known for LESS than 10% of your life...you rearrange it? I've had friends for 3 years bang out like nothing, or totally screw me over. Those who haven't last and last and last. I just don't get the mindset.
I suppose if SOME super hot porn star (non slutty, only did girl on girl, or modeling porn) walked up, had EVERY thing in common with me, and could cook, wanted to clean, then MAYBE I'd be like...BAM, ESCAPE TO THE BLUE LAGOON...I don't need jack crap. But until then. I don't see it. And I consider spots like Maine, where the guys band together EVERYWHERE, even at cookouts. I don't see that around me in Massachusetts. I see get togethers with touchy feely talking. Where are the get togethers where men talk business, making money, sports, politices, crack crude jokes?
After a few years of friends...I think I need a new circle.
Thoughts?
A-Unit