Since when did it become cool to sleep with another man's woman?

[metalwater]

this is dark triad behaviour, isn't it?This wasn't obvious to me at first how people do this.I think the sex must be better than the original relationship or at least the confidence gained by being wanted by two is a level of greatness too sweet to pass up.

As per the title of this thread, is this cool though?

for me.. no it is not cool. but don't accept me as the common rule as I often am not in sync with cool. I think superman and all the ideals of that image is respectable and admirable. i already accept being in a tiny minority with that opinion and many will consider that being a fool and I am ok with that.

cool is group think. cool is validation and approval of group.

there are hidden channels of cool, this is definitely considered cool in some social circles. the lame ass defense that someone else would do it if they do not is for acceptance outside that circle. within those circle it is very cool. if it was not the circle would not allow it.

 

[malz1]

I don't know if dudes like being side pieces, like some of my friends who slept with women in relationships or married women. or simply don't have respect for themselves and for humanity and think of infidelity as nothing but a fantasy.

I could never see myself doing that to another man, whether I know them or not. I feel like that's a ***** move. It shows that men are weak and lustful. Those same weak men are usually controlled by their lust and often face some detriment do to it at one point or another. Much like some of my friends who cried over girls who chose their partners over them after catching feelings.

I hear guys all the time these days talk about how they're sleeping with some chick who has a boyfriend .. I think it's pathetic. This is what society has come to? That people can't even respect a relationship because they're that horny?

I've cut off male friends in my own circle for **** like that. Why? Because it shows a lack of respect and integrity. If you can do something like that to someone, how do I know you won't throw me under the bus in a situation, or snitch on me, or try to sleep with someone I care about?

I disagree and think that you're removing the accountability from the female. Women aren't just objects that are stolen. They're human beings with freedom of choices.

 

[christie]

for me.. no it is not cool. but don't accept me as the common rule as I often am not in sync with cool. I think superman and all the ideals of that image is respectable and admirable. i already accept being in a tiny minority with that opinion and many will consider that being a fool and I am ok with that.

cool is group think. cool is validation and approval of group.

there are hidden channels of cool, this is definitely considered cool in some social circles. the lame ass defense that someone else would do it if they do not is for acceptance outside that circle. within those circle it is very cool. if it was not the circle would not allow it.

I suspend judgement now because I understand the motivators behind men's actions.

I can see all sides now.

I just need to know how to recognise if the man standing in front of me is this way, that way, the other way or which way?

Actions speak louder than words but even this is not enough to vet with.
I must be clear with demonstrating my boundaries and needs and also just as important, what I have to offer.




Coming up soon I have almost 3 weeks off work.

I'm going to sign off all internet for this vacation to read and think review and make notes on what I've learned since #redpilled.
I'm excited metalwater!

 

[samspade]

Yeah, I've been that guy. Back in the day I took it like an ego boost, as if she had an itch that only I could scratch. Of course, that's not true. They'll get it scratched one way or another if they want to.

Thing is, most guys don't think 2-3 steps ahead. If you're going to do this, it's best to limit it to 1-2 times, tops. Avoiding feelings and getting caught. You also have to think about where you are leading the girl, and will it be a net positive or negative for her, if you choose to fukk her. And don't go around bragging about it.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Relationships and marriage are two different things. I’d never knowingly sleep with a married woman. Women in relationships are single. As other posters said, those women should tell you they are in a relationship but often don’t.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Everyone's spinning plates - girls and guys. Most smart spinners don't mention other plates.

 

[Sneaky Pete]

Im loyal af.... no way id ever do that..i have a conscious and need to sleep at night... there is no excuse... the whole "that part of the brain doesnt develop til your older so i did it when i was younger" is just a cop out rationalization hamster excuse to make yourself feel better. We all know right from wrong at a young age. Facts are you just didnt give a shyt and were selfish...

Very true

 

[zekko]

but don't accept me as the common rule as I often am not in sync with cool. I think superman and all the ideals of that image is respectable and admirable.

This is admittedly getting off topic, but I always thought it was a mistake to try and portray Superman as more "dark" to fit in with the current culture. Let Batman be Batman, let Superman be the boy scout. That's what the character is about, own it.

Relationships and marriage are two different things. I’d never knowingly sleep with a married woman. Women in relationships are single.

I tend to agree. I mean I wouldn't say girls with boyfriends are wide open to hit on, it depends to some extent on the nature of the relationship. But if he's just a boyfriend, she still has time to change her mind. Even if they say they're committed, it isn't necessarily permanent. Shoot, even if they're married it isn't necessarily permanent these days. But I don't want to knowingly break up a good couple just so I can get my rocks off.