Anyone go up to a girl at a club when she's not on the dance floor and simply ask her "hey u wanna dance?" If you're on the dance floor, it's probably better to just go up to a girl and start dancing and you can pretty much deal whether she wants to grind with you or not. However, if you're away from the dance floor...then you gotta rely on club game or you can just ask a girl to dance and see what happens.
I used that a few weeks ago, and I thought the results were not bad. I'm terrible at picking up girls simply by trying to start up a conversation. So I figure...why not do something, and ask a girl to dance. Then...when you're dancing, you can establish rapport and go from there.
By asking a girl to dance, instead of just starting a conversation, I believe it does 2 things:
1) Gives you somewhat of an idea of her interest. If she wants to dance with you, presumably she finds you attractive, or thinks you seem like a cool guy etc. Of course there are exceptions to this, but you can get some idea of where she is at just by simply asking her that one question. And on the flip side, if she doesn't want to dance then 99% of the time she probably doesn't find you interested or has a boyfriend or whatever.
2) Saves you a lot of time. If you go up to a girl trying to pick her up using conversation...you might be wasting a lot of time and effort if she isn't interested. Granted, there are benefits to starting up a convo and detecting interest that way, but by asking her to dance you save a lot of time. You could be in a convo with a girl for 10 minutes...then suddenly find out she has a boyfriend, or she doesn't like you. You've just wasted 10 minutes when you could've been approaching other girls. And if she has a boyfriend and still dances with you, I would much rather be doing that and having fun (not to mention the social proof u get by dancing with a girl u find attractive) then wasting time with a BS convo and getting absolutely nothing out of it.
This idea relies heavily on looks, but aren't clubs based heavily on appearance anyways?
I used that a few weeks ago, and I thought the results were not bad. I'm terrible at picking up girls simply by trying to start up a conversation. So I figure...why not do something, and ask a girl to dance. Then...when you're dancing, you can establish rapport and go from there.
By asking a girl to dance, instead of just starting a conversation, I believe it does 2 things:
1) Gives you somewhat of an idea of her interest. If she wants to dance with you, presumably she finds you attractive, or thinks you seem like a cool guy etc. Of course there are exceptions to this, but you can get some idea of where she is at just by simply asking her that one question. And on the flip side, if she doesn't want to dance then 99% of the time she probably doesn't find you interested or has a boyfriend or whatever.
2) Saves you a lot of time. If you go up to a girl trying to pick her up using conversation...you might be wasting a lot of time and effort if she isn't interested. Granted, there are benefits to starting up a convo and detecting interest that way, but by asking her to dance you save a lot of time. You could be in a convo with a girl for 10 minutes...then suddenly find out she has a boyfriend, or she doesn't like you. You've just wasted 10 minutes when you could've been approaching other girls. And if she has a boyfriend and still dances with you, I would much rather be doing that and having fun (not to mention the social proof u get by dancing with a girl u find attractive) then wasting time with a BS convo and getting absolutely nothing out of it.
This idea relies heavily on looks, but aren't clubs based heavily on appearance anyways?
